Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:BTW, a baby who wants to be held is social and attached to you. That's a good thing. It feels hard for now, but he will grow into a sociable and happy kid.
If you need a break, try using a baby carrier to left your arms be free. Baby wearing can help a ton.
Yes to all this. My second was like this and he is such a loving and happy child now. But whew what crazy times when he was a baby!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Looking at the infertility board may help. So many are struggling to conceive, and you were successful which is a huge accomplishment!
I don't even know where to start with this. Inter tile people aren't your zoo attractions. And getting knocked up isn't an accomplishment. Teenagers do it.
It may not sound nice, but OP needs to remember to be grateful for what she has
Except, as PPs have pointed out, that doesn't actually help. It just adds another layer of guilt to a sleep-deprived mom whose baby is still waking up every 90 minutes, who's not eating well, who now gets to feel bad that she's not treasuring every single precious moment.
I disagree. It wasn’t my suggestion, but it helps me when I am struggling to look at what I am grateful for (a healthy baby)
Anonymous wrote:When my son was younger, I was completely traumatized by trying to get this child to sleep - he never slept unless he was on top of me or in the car. I would be soooo jealous of all my friends whose babies would sit quietly at the table. Mine would scream the minute we sat down to eat. I was disinvited to the mommy and me lunches that all my friends would have. Even when he was two or three, at least that's when we stopped trying, he never could sit quietly at a restaurant. He would wake up consistently between 5 and 6am.
But the thing is, he is a natural athlete. He's 16, he can run all day long. He can play any sport and be brilliant at it. He still can function happily on a few hours sleep. I suspect yours might be the same. What seems like a disadvantage or a problem when your baby is a baby just might be their natural talents beginning to show through.
Anonymous wrote:My first baby slept through the night (12 hours!) at 4 months. I'm paying the price for it now with my second baby who is still up multiple times a night at 21 MONTHS!!!! All babies are different.
I have read in the attachment parenting books that when you have a high needs baby, it's best to talk about baby stuff with other people with high needs babies. If you have a friend whose baby sleeps all night, just... stop talking to them about sleep....
Anonymous wrote:He's doing great. Stop comparing. At 3 months, its too long to go 12 hours without eating and just sleep through the night. Many kids who do that are just doing it because they get ignored and only given food at specific schedules. He needs to be loved and nurtured.
Anonymous wrote:I know every baby develops at his own pace etc but it still makes me feel bad when I read about other people’s babies STTN at 12 weeks, doing great at tummy time, taking naps in their own crib. The past 3 months have been incredibly rough and I find myself wondering if I have an exceptionally difficult baby. He wakes 3 times at least during the night, won’t sleep in his bassinet and only sleeps when held, is squirmy/ fussy for half his awake time ( he’s generally unhappy unless someone is holding him and wants attention 24/7) but fights naps. Every meal I eat is wolfed down in 2-3 mins while I set him down in the bouncer and I haven’t been able to get anything done. Sheets haven’t been changed , house hasn’t been cleaned since he was born and no ability to hire help. DH works long hours outside the home is his bandwidth to help is limited. Just at the end of my rope and wondering why other babies just seem so much more normal and not ridiculously high maintenance.