Anonymous
02/08/2021 09:39
Subject: Re:Kids per bedroom
When I was growing up there were 7 kids and the kids shared three bedrooms and one bathroom. Some how we survived!
Anonymous
02/07/2021 23:35
Subject: Re:Kids per bedroom
Anonymous wrote:Hmmmm.
I was a live-in nanny for a family with 7 kids, in a 3 bedroom house. The younger kids (1yo b, 3yo g, 5yo g, 6yo b, 8yo b) were all in one room, one set of bunk beds and a bed that folded down from the wall (not a Murphy). The two older girls (10yo, 12yo) had a small room. I had a small room. Their father slept on the living room couch.
We moved. 14, 12, 7 and 5yo girls were in one bedroom with 2 sets of bunk beds. I was in the very small bedroom that was also used for storage. 10, 8 and 3yo boys were in the last bedroom with their father, again with 2 sets of bunk beds.
A few years later in a new house, and the kids were thrilled with the space:
Dad had a room
I had a room
Boys shared
Younger girls had a room
Older girls shared a room, then the eldest moved out.
Step-mom and her 2 daughters moved in.
2 16yo girls shared a room
The 12yo moved in with the younger girls.
The last time I talked to them, they had 4 rooms again.
Parents have a room.
Boys (17, 15, 10) have a room.
Girls (16, 14, 12) have a room.
His mom and her mom share a room (both are old and infirm enough that they can't live alone).
With the exception of the second oldest child, not a single one of those 9 children ever asked for their own room. And the child who did? She wanted it so that she could sneak out without waking up her siblings, so that she wouldn't get in trouble. The rest all understand how big families work, and they like having siblings around.
This is some Duggar living right here. What a freak show.
Anonymous
02/07/2021 09:34
Subject: Re:Kids per bedroom
We have 3 kids in a 2 bed apartment--all elementary aged (2DD, 1DS). This is what we can afford at the moment. Everyone gets changed in private and they are all pre-pubescent. We discuss modesty and respect for boundaries and have had no issues. Certainly we would like a larger space, but are currently staying due to pandemic-related financial constraints, being in a good school and for proximity to family. We make it work and are a very loving, close family. The reality is that what we want in terms of size/space is not possible so we have to do the very best with what we have. BTW, we are not the only family with 3 kids in our building.
Anonymous
02/06/2021 23:39
Subject: Re:Kids per bedroom
I’m one of three kids and grew up in a 6 bedroom house. My husband (one of 4 kids) grew up in a 3 bedroom house and always shared with his brother.
We live in a very expensive town in the Bay Area, and we’re in an expensive neighborhood within that town. Three bedroom houses start around $2 million and aren’t much less in neighboring towns. We’re in a 2 bedroom apartment for now and my 3 and 8 year old share both a room and a bed. The three year old was out of her crib (in our room) a year ago and we started looking for beds but then with the pandemic we put off furniture shopping and now the girls like sharing. But the room sharing is hard - the 8 year olds shuts the 3 year old out both for school and on weekends. I’ve looked at houses but it’s a stretch and I’m not certain I want to stay here. I’ve also considered 3 bedroom apartments but we can’t stay in our specific neighborhood and our bubble / 8 year old’s best friend is a few doors away. We will move some day, but the whole “you can’t afford it if they can’t each have a room” thing is problematic in many ways but among them is what do you do if you can easily afford it in Tulsa but not in Manhattan? I’m very grateful I have two and my 8 year old expresses gratitude for her little sister all the time.
We live in a very expensive town in the Bay Area, and we’re in an expensive neighborhood within that town. Three bedroom houses start around $2 million and aren’t much less in neighboring towns. We’re in a 2 bedroom apartment for now and my 3 and 8 year old share both a room and a bed. The three year old was out of her crib (in our room) a year ago and we started looking for beds but then with the pandemic we put off furniture shopping and now the girls like sharing. But the room sharing is hard - the 8 year olds shuts the 3 year old out both for school and on weekends. I’ve looked at houses but it’s a stretch and I’m not certain I want to stay here. I’ve also considered 3 bedroom apartments but we can’t stay in our specific neighborhood and our bubble / 8 year old’s best friend is a few doors away. We will move some day, but the whole “you can’t afford it if they can’t each have a room” thing is problematic in many ways but among them is what do you do if you can easily afford it in Tulsa but not in Manhattan? I’m very grateful I have two and my 8 year old expresses gratitude for her little sister all the time.
Anonymous
02/04/2021 19:28
Subject: Kids per bedroom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We have five bedrooms but my boys (2 and 4) share a room. They are BFFs.
But they wont when they are older. come on.
Mine are 6 and 8 and have their own rooms, but they will not sleep apart and still share a King size bed. I imagine that it will end in a few years and make the fact that we bought a six bedroom house less ridiculous. I am waiting for their three year old brother to start sleeping with them as well!
Anonymous
02/04/2021 19:27
Subject: Kids per bedroom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We have five bedrooms but my boys (2 and 4) share a room. They are BFFs.
But they wont when they are older. come on.
I would have died and gone to heaven to have a sister 2 years older or younger and share a room! My brothers shared a small Cap Hill room until college. Don't forget kids can sleep on couch, floor etc when relatives come and need a guest room. I'm honestly a little shocked at the responses suggesting it's somehow not ideal to have two same sexes sharing indefinitely.
NP. I'm honestly a little shocked that you'd kick your own child out of their bed to sleep on a couch or floor (!!?) so that someone else can sleep in their bed.
If you want the person in your house so much, you should give up your own bed for them.
I think I must have grown up on a different planet than some of you rich folk. Of course kids get the boot for guests before adults, that’s the way it should be. Some of you have more money than sense.
This, Its easier for me to boot my child who is fine sleeping on an air mattress than others who I would prefer have their privacy vs. my couch in my small house.
Anonymous
02/04/2021 19:21
Subject: Re:Kids per bedroom
Anonymous wrote:My max would be two per room. Just a little anecdote: When I was really little my parents lived in a very tiny three bedroom. My sister and I each had our own room. Then, my brother was born. My mother moved my sister and I in together and that lasted less than a year. I was three and my sister was 22 months younger, and we could not function together in the same room (sleep-wise). After nearly a year of horrible sleep my parents decided to move to a four bedroom house. Best decision ever.
+1, if you can afford it. SO's family is so weird. They had a four bedroom house and insisted both boys share through hs graduation. I don't think that is okay, especially considering they had the other rooms sitting empty! I think sharing is okay up to maybe age 7 max for opposite sex siblings and age 11 for same sex assuming you have somewhere else for them to go. The girls should always have their own room or be together with another female vs sharing with a boy, even if they are siblings.
I've known three families where the sister/daughter was molested by a brother and the parents wouldn't intervene or refused to believe it until their daughter attempted suicide. Even if they don't suffer that, it just isn't proper. Girls should have space for bras, periods, etc., and everyone deserves a private space and somewhere to sleep in peace without being disturbed.
Anonymous
02/04/2021 07:41
Subject: Kids per bedroom
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Anonymous
02/04/2021 07:32
Subject: Kids per bedroom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We have five bedrooms but my boys (2 and 4) share a room. They are BFFs.
But they wont when they are older. come on.
I would have died and gone to heaven to have a sister 2 years older or younger and share a room! My brothers shared a small Cap Hill room until college. Don't forget kids can sleep on couch, floor etc when relatives come and need a guest room. I'm honestly a little shocked at the responses suggesting it's somehow not ideal to have two same sexes sharing indefinitely.
NP. I'm honestly a little shocked that you'd kick your own child out of their bed to sleep on a couch or floor (!!?) so that someone else can sleep in their bed.
If you want the person in your house so much, you should give up your own bed for them.
I think I must have grown up on a different planet than some of you rich folk. Of course kids get the boot for guests before adults, that’s the way it should be. Some of you have more money than sense.
+1 It is also fun when you are a kid to sleep in a new environment for a couple of nights, particularly if it involves other kids like cousins. I had my own room growing up and was jealous of my neighbors (2 girls) who shared a room. They had a sleepover every night!
I have twin girls and they were begging for separate rooms by age 4. They're the best of friends and sometimes do sleepovers together but they wanted their own space, so we gave it to them.
Anonymous
02/04/2021 06:21
Subject: Kids per bedroom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We have five bedrooms but my boys (2 and 4) share a room. They are BFFs.
But they wont when they are older. come on.
I would have died and gone to heaven to have a sister 2 years older or younger and share a room! My brothers shared a small Cap Hill room until college. Don't forget kids can sleep on couch, floor etc when relatives come and need a guest room. I'm honestly a little shocked at the responses suggesting it's somehow not ideal to have two same sexes sharing indefinitely.
NP. I'm honestly a little shocked that you'd kick your own child out of their bed to sleep on a couch or floor (!!?) so that someone else can sleep in their bed.
If you want the person in your house so much, you should give up your own bed for them.
I think I must have grown up on a different planet than some of you rich folk. Of course kids get the boot for guests before adults, that’s the way it should be. Some of you have more money than sense.
+1 It is also fun when you are a kid to sleep in a new environment for a couple of nights, particularly if it involves other kids like cousins. I had my own room growing up and was jealous of my neighbors (2 girls) who shared a room. They had a sleepover every night!
Anonymous
02/04/2021 05:17
Subject: Re:Kids per bedroom
My max would be two per room. Just a little anecdote: When I was really little my parents lived in a very tiny three bedroom. My sister and I each had our own room. Then, my brother was born. My mother moved my sister and I in together and that lasted less than a year. I was three and my sister was 22 months younger, and we could not function together in the same room (sleep-wise). After nearly a year of horrible sleep my parents decided to move to a four bedroom house. Best decision ever.
Anonymous
02/04/2021 03:29
Subject: Kids per bedroom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We have five bedrooms but my boys (2 and 4) share a room. They are BFFs.
But they wont when they are older. come on.
I would have died and gone to heaven to have a sister 2 years older or younger and share a room! My brothers shared a small Cap Hill room until college. Don't forget kids can sleep on couch, floor etc when relatives come and need a guest room. I'm honestly a little shocked at the responses suggesting it's somehow not ideal to have two same sexes sharing indefinitely.
NP. I'm honestly a little shocked that you'd kick your own child out of their bed to sleep on a couch or floor (!!?) so that someone else can sleep in their bed.
If you want the person in your house so much, you should give up your own bed for them.
I think I must have grown up on a different planet than some of you rich folk. Of course kids get the boot for guests before adults, that’s the way it should be. Some of you have more money than sense.