Anonymous
Post 01/29/2021 14:43     Subject: How do all of you make these $200k salaries???
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just move further out and have your wife go part time. Your wife might not be thrilled with an absentee partner and the sahm life anyway. Daycare is temporary.


Sorry, she is not interested in that arrangement, she feels we will have to sacrifice on too many fronts. So she instead sticks with a job I see is killing her every day, and I don't know what to do.

We both grew up not very well off, nothing terrible but both of dads never worked after 35, and not because they retired! We worked hard, got good degrees in technical fields, but seemed to have lost our path to the "norm" middle class life of corporate salaries. I think our network game is off, since our family and child hood friends are actually far worse off then us, and our "friends" network is limited to college where we spent most of our times in the lab and library not really making close friends we can call upon later for jobs. Our careers have been gov related since graduation, so no real linkage to the corporate world where the "norm" professional salaries exist.


You have obligations to your kids as a dad not just to her. You could go big tech and barely see your kids. Is she actually asking you to work more and make more money or are you just assuming that she wants that. Many women I know with adv degrees (myself included) do not love the sah life of constantly cleaning peanut butter off of chairs. Plus your stress of being sole breadwinner soars through the roof. Don’t assume she will be happier in that setup and if she wants it and is not willing to downsize further out than you need to realize she might never be happy no matter what you do.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2021 14:33     Subject: How do all of you make these $200k salaries???
Anonymous wrote:Just move further out and have your wife go part time. Your wife might not be thrilled with an absentee partner and the sahm life anyway. Daycare is temporary.


Sorry, she is not interested in that arrangement, she feels we will have to sacrifice on too many fronts. So she instead sticks with a job I see is killing her every day, and I don't know what to do.

We both grew up not very well off, nothing terrible but both of dads never worked after 35, and not because they retired! We worked hard, got good degrees in technical fields, but seemed to have lost our path to the "norm" middle class life of corporate salaries. I think our network game is off, since our family and child hood friends are actually far worse off then us, and our "friends" network is limited to college where we spent most of our times in the lab and library not really making close friends we can call upon later for jobs. Our careers have been gov related since graduation, so no real linkage to the corporate world where the "norm" professional salaries exist.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2021 14:25     Subject: How do all of you make these $200k salaries???
Just move further out and have your wife go part time. Your wife might not be thrilled with an absentee partner and the sahm life anyway. Daycare is temporary.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2021 14:24     Subject: Re:How do all of you make these $200k salaries???
Anonymous wrote:My ex husband stole from his company together with mistress, opened dozens of off-shore accounts and companies on her name, directing her consulting projects. Avoided disclosure by settling with me, giving away a business project we jointly owned. Everyone got rich as a result of the divorce. His off shore company is worth $40mm


I remember you, I think, PP. You're Russian, right? With SN child. I hope that MF paid up.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2021 14:24     Subject: Re:How do all of you make these $200k salaries???
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:While i don't think everyone is making $500k, $200k is pretty run of the mill for people in late 30s and 40s with DC-area education.

I mean, OP -- you make $150k in government, where the benefits alone are probably worth $30k-$50k more than what you'd get in the private sector. So it's not like you're particularly far off these salaries, so is it really that hard to conceptualize that someone is making $200k in private sector at your age?


200 isn’t run of the mill for someone in their 30s


I said "run of the mill for people in late 30s and 40s with DC-area education". As in, a top college degree and more typically, a masters degree. Yes, most people 15 years out of a masters degree are making $200k, give or take in DC.


I highly doubt that


Yeah, PP is spewing typical DCUM BS.

A $200K individual salary in the District puts you in the top 8% of all income earners, so it’s really only “run of the mill” in PP’s delusional mind.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2021 14:23     Subject: How do all of you make these $200k salaries???
I'm where you are, same age, PM in federal consulting, but haven't even broken $150K yet... or even $140K. So... your setup sounds pretty good to me. Grass is always greener, I guess.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2021 14:22     Subject: Re:How do all of you make these $200k salaries???
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:While i don't think everyone is making $500k, $200k is pretty run of the mill for people in late 30s and 40s with DC-area education.

I mean, OP -- you make $150k in government, where the benefits alone are probably worth $30k-$50k more than what you'd get in the private sector. So it's not like you're particularly far off these salaries, so is it really that hard to conceptualize that someone is making $200k in private sector at your age?


200 isn’t run of the mill for someone in their 30s


I said "run of the mill for people in late 30s and 40s with DC-area education". As in, a top college degree and more typically, a masters degree. Yes, most people 15 years out of a masters degree are making $200k, give or take in DC.


I highly doubt that
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2021 14:21     Subject: Re:How do all of you make these $200k salaries???
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:While i don't think everyone is making $500k, $200k is pretty run of the mill for people in late 30s and 40s with DC-area education.

I mean, OP -- you make $150k in government, where the benefits alone are probably worth $30k-$50k more than what you'd get in the private sector. So it's not like you're particularly far off these salaries, so is it really that hard to conceptualize that someone is making $200k in private sector at your age?


200 isn’t run of the mill for someone in their 30s


I said "run of the mill for people in late 30s and 40s with DC-area education". As in, a top college degree and more typically, a masters degree. Yes, most people 15 years out of a masters degree are making $200k, give or take in DC.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2021 14:19     Subject: How do all of you make these $200k salaries???
Anonymous wrote:DH is a VP at a large CPG company. He makes $220K + bonus.

I’m a fed, making $120K.

So at $340K HHI (excluding bonus), I guess we’re middle class, according to one of the PPs on this thread.

Thought we were in the top 5% for Maryland (https://dqydj.com/income-percentile-by-state-calculator/), but boy am I glad DCUM set me straight!


You’re middle class and DHs salary is “run of the mill” for 30s here! Lol
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2021 14:18     Subject: Re:How do all of you make these $200k salaries???
Anonymous wrote:While i don't think everyone is making $500k, $200k is pretty run of the mill for people in late 30s and 40s with DC-area education.

I mean, OP -- you make $150k in government, where the benefits alone are probably worth $30k-$50k more than what you'd get in the private sector. So it's not like you're particularly far off these salaries, so is it really that hard to conceptualize that someone is making $200k in private sector at your age?


200 isn’t run of the mill for someone in their 30s
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2021 14:17     Subject: Re:How do all of you make these $200k salaries???
Anonymous wrote:While i don't think everyone is making $500k, $200k is pretty run of the mill for people in late 30s and 40s with DC-area education.

I mean, OP -- you make $150k in government, where the benefits alone are probably worth $30k-$50k more than what you'd get in the private sector. So it's not like you're particularly far off these salaries, so is it really that hard to conceptualize that someone is making $200k in private sector at your age?


I was thinking the same, my gov equivalent makes less than me but also works less and has more job security
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2021 14:17     Subject: How do all of you make these $200k salaries???
DH is a VP at a large CPG company. He makes $220K + bonus.

I’m a fed, making $120K.

So at $340K HHI (excluding bonus), I guess we’re middle class, according to one of the PPs on this thread.

Thought we were in the top 5% for Maryland (https://dqydj.com/income-percentile-by-state-calculator/), but boy am I glad DCUM set me straight!
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2021 14:16     Subject: Re:How do all of you make these $200k salaries???
$450k biglaw. DH is probably $600-$700k (including stock) in a financial services company.
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2021 14:15     Subject: Re:How do all of you make these $200k salaries???
While i don't think everyone is making $500k, $200k is pretty run of the mill for people in late 30s and 40s with DC-area education.

I mean, OP -- you make $150k in government, where the benefits alone are probably worth $30k-$50k more than what you'd get in the private sector. So it's not like you're particularly far off these salaries, so is it really that hard to conceptualize that someone is making $200k in private sector at your age?
Anonymous
Post 01/29/2021 14:14     Subject: Re:How do all of you make these $200k salaries???
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DW ($500K+) is in biglaw, and I ($230K) have an MBA and work in marketing.


A friend of mine makes 250K as marketing vise president. She has no MBA and started at her firm as a temp at $35/hr 4 years ago.


So who did she sleep with?


STFU, sexist.