Anonymous wrote:The idea of engagement rings were invented to sell diamonds, and it has been a profitable strategy. Whoever thought it up is genius.

We all now believe these rings to be necessary and are even arguing about them!

I’m delighted to have a ring that came from hubby’s family, yet I do not wear it now.

I have 3 engagement rings—some inherited—and appreciate them. I stopped wearing mine and don’t have an interest to begin wearing it again. If that changes, I’ll wear it.

Engagement rings have been a thing since at least the 15th century. De Beers had ad campaigns pushing the diamond solitaire in the 40’s, which was a relatively new thing.

Anonymous wrote:I love my rose gold + emerald ring. Rose gold is great.

Emerald cut diamond or emerald stone?

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Anonymous wrote:I hate the small diamonds around the band, especially in combination with the halo.

Agree with PPs about the ridiculousness of the practice. I don’t have an engagement ring and DH and I don’t really wear our wedding bands.

Im glad to hear that we aren’t the only ones who don’t wear our bands. DH once went on a business trip and somebody flirted with him super hard and the people he was with were confused when he rejected her. They thought he wasn’t wearing his ring on his trip out of town so he could have an affair. So I mean maybe we should but what a pain just so he can avoid that situation. Maybe if he ever goes on a business trip again he can get one off of Amazon and wear it.

Neither my father nor my grandfather wore wedding bands. Both were married for 40+ yrs, and didn't cheat on my grandmother/mother (to my knowledge). Really, it means nothing. Cheaters gonna cheat, ring or not. I told DH he could wear one or not, up to him. He does, but because he likes it and wants to.

Engagement rings are stupid and a waste of money. I told DS to run from any woman that insists on one.

Found the future psycho MIL.

+100000

Engagement rings were a marketing campaign that worked. I'm not really into them. I don't have one, and I don't feel like I'm missing one. I like my plain ole wedding band. But I know that lots of people do. I do like rings that don't have diamonds. I think those show more originality, which I can appreciate.

The idea of engagement rings were invented to sell diamonds, and it has been a profitable strategy. Whoever thought it up is genius.

We all now believe these rings to be necessary and are even arguing about them!

I’m delighted to have a ring that came from hubby’s family, yet I do not wear it now.

I have 3 engagement rings—some inherited—and appreciate them. I stopped wearing mine and don’t have an interest to begin wearing it again. If that changes, I’ll wear it.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate the trend when older, long-married women are petty and jealous enough to find fault with engagement rings of younger brides.

It’s not jealousy, it’s wisdom. Pay attention and you, too, shall have it one day.

I’m 41. I wish nothing but happiness for younger brides. I have a beautiful ring that I love, and I hope the same for them.

I hope for younger brides to be making a good decision about whom they choose to marry, to be entering into a (hopefully) lifelong commitment with their eyes wide open, and yes, that all of that leads to happiness. Hoping for them to have a beautiful ring that they love? Don’t really care.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate the trend when older, long-married women are petty and jealous enough to find fault with engagement rings of younger brides.

It’s not jealousy, it’s wisdom. Pay attention and you, too, shall have it one day.

I’m 41. I wish nothing but happiness for younger brides. I have a beautiful ring that I love, and I hope the same for them.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate the small diamonds around the band, especially in combination with the halo.

Agree with PPs about the ridiculousness of the practice. I don’t have an engagement ring and DH and I don’t really wear our wedding bands.

Im glad to hear that we aren’t the only ones who don’t wear our bands. DH once went on a business trip and somebody flirted with him super hard and the people he was with were confused when he rejected her. They thought he wasn’t wearing his ring on his trip out of town so he could have an affair. So I mean maybe we should but what a pain just so he can avoid that situation. Maybe if he ever goes on a business trip again he can get one off of Amazon and wear it.

Neither my father nor my grandfather wore wedding bands. Both were married for 40+ yrs, and didn't cheat on my grandmother/mother (to my knowledge). Really, it means nothing. Cheaters gonna cheat, ring or not. I told DH he could wear one or not, up to him. He does, but because he likes it and wants to.

Engagement rings are stupid and a waste of money. I told DS to run from any woman that insists on one.

Found the future psycho MIL.

Anonymous wrote:The engagement ring. The whole practice is ridiculous

+1.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is insufferable. Grown women trampling over each other to be the first to reply "I don't even like engagement rings!!!"

But what if you really don’t like engagement rings? Why is that such an offensive opinion. I’d never tell a woman with a ring “I hate how your ring looks and what it stands for.” But I do. Not trying to hurt anyone’s feelings, it’s just what I actually think.

It’s a present. Glad you hate presents. You must be a ton o fun on birthdays

What an extremely passive way to think about it. If it’s actually just a gift, then I suppose the person who gives it won’t care whether or not you wear it, right? If it’s truly a gift, and not an obligation and symbol, then it shouldn’t matter, right?

I’ve never received a birthday gift that I was supposed to put on immediately, according to custom, and then wear as a symbol of my agreement to marry someone (so that no other people get any ideas about marrying me in the meantime!). That would be a very weird birthday gift and no, I would not like it.

52 DW of 23 years. I adore my very traditional diamond and gold engagement ring and wedding band.
I’m a nurse and since Covid haven’t worn my engagement ring - splits though the gloves. I wear my band every day.

Anonymous wrote:I hate the trend when older, long-married women are petty and jealous enough to find fault with engagement rings of younger brides.

It’s not jealousy, it’s wisdom. Pay attention and you, too, shall have it one day.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is insufferable. Grown women trampling over each other to be the first to reply "I don't even like engagement rings!!!"

But what if you really don’t like engagement rings? Why is that such an offensive opinion. I’d never tell a woman with a ring “I hate how your ring looks and what it stands for.” But I do. Not trying to hurt anyone’s feelings, it’s just what I actually think.

It’s a present. Glad you hate presents. You must be a ton o fun on birthdays

Lol it’s a present the way a dowry is a present. Stupid argument.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is insufferable. Grown women trampling over each other to be the first to reply "I don't even like engagement rings!!!"

But what if you really don’t like engagement rings? Why is that such an offensive opinion. I’d never tell a woman with a ring “I hate how your ring looks and what it stands for.” But I do. Not trying to hurt anyone’s feelings, it’s just what I actually think.

It’s a present. Glad you hate presents. You must be a ton o fun on birthdays

DP. This is so incredibly dense.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is insufferable. Grown women trampling over each other to be the first to reply "I don't even like engagement rings!!!"

But what if you really don’t like engagement rings? Why is that such an offensive opinion. I’d never tell a woman with a ring “I hate how your ring looks and what it stands for.” But I do. Not trying to hurt anyone’s feelings, it’s just what I actually think.

It’s a present. Glad you hate presents. You must be a ton o fun on birthdays