Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s credible to leave and pretend you miscarried. He will check you out. I would fake a miscarriage right here, before leaving DC. Wait a few days after, acting sad and upset. And then I would say I need a couple of weeks away, alone, to rest and recover. And from there, I would call him saying I am breaking up.

My original plan was to say I miscarried here. I think he would try to visit to see if I was ok if it happened back home.

Anonymous wrote:Can't bother reading through all of this but has this been answered, how far along were you when you found out he was cheating?

You're about 3 months now, so how long have you been sitting on this?

I found out around 10 weeks. I was suspicious shortly after finding out we were pregnant. He got sloppy. He occasionally goes out of town for work we usually talk in the evenings. All of a sudden I couldn't get in touch with him he would say he was so exhausted he went right to sleep. When I first questioned him he yelled at me to " knock it off" " stop being so insecure". I feel like he gaslit me. One time he smelled different. I chalked it up to a shampoo he used at the hotel. Two of our friends told me to relax he was just busy and wouldn't do that to me especially during covid. I didn't sit on it at all. When he yelled at me I dropped it.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s credible to leave and pretend you miscarried. He will check you out. I would fake a miscarriage right here, before leaving DC. Wait a few days after, acting sad and upset. And then I would say I need a couple of weeks away, alone, to rest and recover. And from there, I would call him saying I am breaking up.

Yes fake a miscarriage, but not leave right away. give it a few weeks and then discover evidence of his cheating and then leave for that.

He knows that I know already. I have been asking him for several weeks and he finally admitted it.

If OP's story is real, I guarantee you this guy will hire a PI. They've been together for awhile, had planned to get married, and were actively trying to get pregnant. He KNOWS she's pregnant. I'm sure he knows exactly where she is going to run of to. Since he has money and comes from money, he will very likely investigate whether or not OP had the baby. Or maybe he doesn't want to have to deal with child support and just won't care. Who knows.

So let’s say you get away with moving across the country to your family and he never finds out about the baby.
You can never ever post anything about your child online. You’ll have to monitor all your friends and family social media so they don’t post something he could stumble across and connect the dot.

Best case scenario, he never finds out about it. But your child has a missing part of themselves. They will wonder about who their Dad is. For some it doesn’t cause issues, for others it does. From your child’s perspective, does this seem like a good idea?

Worst case scenario, he does find out. Sues for custody and you have to send your baby to this abusive a$$hat every summer and split holidays with him.

Leave then consult a lawyer who can advise you on your next step. Make sure to tell them that he is abusive, and you’ve left him for both you and your child’s safety. Get it all documented so he has less of a chance for custody, even partial.

I’m getting troll vibes.

Can't bother reading through all of this but has this been answered, how far along were you when you found out he was cheating?

You're about 3 months now, so how long have you been sitting on this?

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s credible to leave and pretend you miscarried. He will check you out. I would fake a miscarriage right here, before leaving DC. Wait a few days after, acting sad and upset. And then I would say I need a couple of weeks away, alone, to rest and recover. And from there, I would call him saying I am breaking up.

Yes fake a miscarriage, but not leave right away. give it a few weeks and then discover evidence of his cheating and then leave for that.

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Anonymous wrote:Although PP is right, I'd probably do what you propose and move thousands of miles away and fake a miscarriage. How vested is he in the pregnancy? You can always claim you used a sperm donor later if he happens to find out--and I would absolutely tell my family and everyone else that's what I did just in case he shows up one day.

He could request a paternity test if he finds out the child was born and the birthday with the expected delivery date.
He could move to the same state as OP and request visitation rights.

I doubt he would ever move to that area. He's tied to wear he is for the foreseeable future because of his families business and his role in the company.

If he has the money and really wants a biological child, he could have used a surrogate with his sperm. And if he really wants you to have a child with him, why does he cheat? Is he going to be a good father or a selfish abusive jerk?

I have no idea why he cheats. I regularly have sex with him, I rarely argue, I cook, I clean, I make decent money... He is very wealthy and doesn't care about my income. He doesn't want to be a single parent.

He cheats because he’s f@cked up. Cheating isn’t anything you did or didn’t do.

I don’t think it’s credible to leave and pretend you miscarried. He will check you out. I would fake a miscarriage right here, before leaving DC. Wait a few days after, acting sad and upset. And then I would say I need a couple of weeks away, alone, to rest and recover. And from there, I would call him saying I am breaking up.

Make him pay child support and his wealthy family can start a college fund.

Following the novel idea ... Would OP benefit from taking something with his DNA with her? Just in case she later wanted to prove paternity later for her or the child’s own reasons.

Anonymous wrote:Are courts in the habit of allowing men to demand paternity tests from mothers when child support isn't part of the equation?


Also, this is a work of fiction, but I credit OP for a more compelling storyline than the usual Hallmark Romance and Lifetime Mystery reject scripts that get posted here. for that I award you with a B+/A-

Yes. If the man has reason to believe he is the father, he can petition to have paternity established. A friend believed he was the father of a high school gf’s oldest based on appearance and dates. He had no idea because she never told him. There was another man in the picture that was the only dad the little girl knew. Turned out my friend was the bio dad.

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Anonymous wrote:Are courts in the habit of allowing men to demand paternity tests from mothers when child support isn't part of the equation?


Also, this is a work of fiction, but I credit OP for a more compelling storyline than the usual Hallmark Romance and Lifetime Mystery reject scripts that get posted here. for that I award you with a B+/A-

I'm not the best write but I'm telling the truth. Why would someone joke about this?

Boredom. Testing out a story they are writing. I can actually see this as a lifetime movie, especially if you move back to a small Midwestern town, you eventually fall for a handsome local man and your ex returns in 5 years and dies falling off a cliff.


You should also know that in the age of DNA you don't have a snowball's chance in hell at keeping this a secret forever.