Anonymous
12/18/2020 14:05
Subject: Reaction to college acceptance
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The other parent may be anxious because their child hadn't heard from their top choice yet or they got rejected from their top choice and were still dealing with it.
Some people have difficulty being happy for others.
Could be many things but who cares? Your child is going to their 1st choice.
This is not about being happy for others! How can you be so clueless? It is in poor taste and is bragging! Let me guess, you also posted it on Facebook or some other nonsense. Grow up, OP.
I'm not the OP but I do feel that some people react to others good news by an immediate thought to how this compares to them. If that makes sense. I was trying to be nice in my reply but the point was it doesn't matter how others react.
My daughters had good luck with college acceptances and I never told most people until the girls decided where they were going and then, only when asked. It is annoying to hear and see constant bragging. Since I am no saint, my family would sometimes chuckle privately at some of the stuff people were bragging about. Family secret. Shhh.
Anonymous
12/18/2020 14:05
Subject: Reaction to college acceptance
Anonymous wrote:"good value" "no crazy extracurriculars" It's UVA. I don't think anyone is shouting that they are going to UVA from the rooftops. UVA, not Harvard. Big, big difference. Bragging about doing the bare minimum is off putting to people.
Oh geez, you’re just as bad, if not worse, than the OP.
Anonymous
12/18/2020 14:02
Subject: Reaction to college acceptance
"good value" "no crazy extracurriculars" It's UVA. I don't think anyone is shouting that they are going to UVA from the rooftops. UVA, not Harvard. Big, big difference. Bragging about doing the bare minimum is off putting to people.
Anonymous
12/18/2020 13:54
Subject: Reaction to college acceptance
You are an obnoxious, elitist braggart, OP. Your friends didn't want to indulge this worst part of your personality, so they politely shut you down by not responding.
Anonymous
12/18/2020 13:49
Subject: Reaction to college acceptance
We definitely know some braggy parents we’d rather not hear announce that little Johnny got into Penn, but for the most part it’s fun and we’re happy for the kids and the parents. And in this case Johnny really did get into Penn and ugh, she’s probably already wearing the hat and circling the grocery store until everyone sees it!
Honestly though, she’s a nice person and it’s super-important to her so whatever. Am I any better? I’m on this insane website with you lunatics so probably not.
Honestly though, she’s a nice person and it’s super-important to her so whatever. Am I any better? I’m on this insane website with you lunatics so probably not.
Anonymous
12/18/2020 13:49
Subject: Reaction to college acceptance
Anonymous wrote:The other parent may be anxious because their child hadn't heard from their top choice yet or they got rejected from their top choice and were still dealing with it.
Some people have difficulty being happy for others.
Could be many things but who cares? Your child is going to their 1st choice.
This is not about being happy for others! How can you be so clueless? It is in poor taste and is bragging! Let me guess, you also posted it on Facebook or some other nonsense. Grow up, OP.
Anonymous
12/18/2020 13:36
Subject: Reaction to college acceptance
The other parent may be anxious because their child hadn't heard from their top choice yet or they got rejected from their top choice and were still dealing with it.
Some people have difficulty being happy for others.
Could be many things but who cares? Your child is going to their 1st choice.
Some people have difficulty being happy for others.
Could be many things but who cares? Your child is going to their 1st choice.
Anonymous
12/18/2020 13:35
Subject: Reaction to college acceptance
Yes - this is news for grandparents, not other parents of seniors. Unless they ask, don't offer up.
Your child will get all the congratulations they deserve in April when everyone knows where they are going.
Your child will get all the congratulations they deserve in April when everyone knows where they are going.
Anonymous
12/18/2020 13:29
Subject: Re:Reaction to college acceptance
Basically don’t share unless specifically asked
Anonymous
12/18/2020 11:51
Subject: Reaction to college acceptance
It wasn’t a “reaction to college acceptance,” OP. It was a reaction to your arrogance and bragging. This isn’t information you share unsolicited beyond your immediate family.
Anonymous
12/18/2020 11:45
Subject: Reaction to college acceptance
Anonymous wrote:OP, it’s really bad form to be bragging like that.
First, it’s really your child’s news to share (or not).
Second, it’s totally insensitive to people waiting to hear. Wait for people to ask or bring it up.
My child’s school let the seniors make a rule as to how they wanted to discuss college admissions. They voted not to discuss among themselves until May. Sure, there were little discussions between close friends, but it was not a large scale topic until people knew where they were in. There were kids who got in early to Stanford, etc. who didn’t tell friends for months. I found it kind of weird, but it did take the pressure off of the kids a bit.
Love this.
Anonymous
12/18/2020 11:42
Subject: Reaction to college acceptance
OP, it’s really bad form to be bragging like that.
First, it’s really your child’s news to share (or not).
Second, it’s totally insensitive to people waiting to hear. Wait for people to ask or bring it up.
My child’s school let the seniors make a rule as to how they wanted to discuss college admissions. They voted not to discuss among themselves until May. Sure, there were little discussions between close friends, but it was not a large scale topic until people knew where they were in. There were kids who got in early to Stanford, etc. who didn’t tell friends for months. I found it kind of weird, but it did take the pressure off of the kids a bit.
First, it’s really your child’s news to share (or not).
Second, it’s totally insensitive to people waiting to hear. Wait for people to ask or bring it up.
My child’s school let the seniors make a rule as to how they wanted to discuss college admissions. They voted not to discuss among themselves until May. Sure, there were little discussions between close friends, but it was not a large scale topic until people knew where they were in. There were kids who got in early to Stanford, etc. who didn’t tell friends for months. I found it kind of weird, but it did take the pressure off of the kids a bit.
Anonymous
12/18/2020 11:25
Subject: Re:Reaction to college acceptance
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op, more likely they just don’t particularly care where your kid is going to college.
+1.
It’s great news for your kid, congratulations! But other people really aren’t as excited about your kid as you are.[/quote]
x1000
Tell your parents, OP.
Anonymous
12/18/2020 11:23
Subject: Re:Reaction to college acceptance
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:People are jealous. I learned my lesson to not share news.
OP here. This is close to my own thinking. Here are my two thoughts:
1) We’re not one of those families that believes a student must cure cancer to go to a good school. My kid took tough courses, got good grades and test scores, and wrote great essays. That’s it. I think there’s disbelief that it can be that simple. So, there’s the notion that we’re “lucky.”
2) We do not believe that somewhat better ranked privates are worth the money; instead we see UVA as a great value. Thus, we were very practical with the ED selection. Many other kids with similar qualifications ED to a reach, and are oftentimes disappointed. Typically, these students cycle back to a better state school. From that perspective, we cut the madness short. Again, we are “lucky.”
In sum, I think it’s jealously and disbelief that we got the “prize” without the craziness.
Just stop OP.
+1
It is a tough time to wait. Try not not to be so tone deaf, OP.
Anonymous
12/18/2020 11:08
Subject: Reaction to college acceptance
OP, because conversations are suppose to be give-and-take, they were quiet because they are not ready to share new with you, yet.