Anonymous
11/22/2020 13:30
Subject: What has your child taught you about yourself?
Just wanted to tell the mothers who have posted about appreciating shy, quiet children how great you are and how much I wish my mother had been the same. I am an introvert who grew up with an extroverted mother and an extroverted sister-my mother never understood me and said hurtful things. As an adult, I struggle daily with feelings of unworthiness, anxiety and depression. I am and have been working on it for years and I know there are many reasons why this is something I deal with but having a mother who found me lacking was and is painful.
Anonymous
11/22/2020 11:52
Subject: What has your child taught you about yourself?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How much quiet, shy kids bore/annoy us. DH and I are both outgoing and all our kids are outgoing. Thank god. Never really noticed/realized until we compared them to other kids who have an issue coming out of their shell, especially during covid.
This is weird. Quiet kids annoy you?
Uhhm maybe annoy is too strong. Kids who you really have to bring out of their shell, or who are very shy/don't talk. Not talking special needs here- just kids without a lot of personality I think is weird because it's the antithesis of what being a kid should be. I'll just say I 'get' more vocal kids and it's easier to know what they are thinking/how they are feeling/what they need and to have fun hanging with them/bonding/communicating, etc. I don't go around hating quiet kids, I just appreciate that ours are outgoing- not hyper or motormouths, but able to converse/share ideas and keep it going.
Impossible to assess. My child is super outgoing at home but incredibly shy and quiet around other people. Until she gets used to them and feels safe, and then she's outgoing again.
I'm glad you enjoy your own kids, but comparing the behavior of your kids to other kids is impossible because you will never know other kids as you know your own. And for that matter -- you will never really know what your kids are like when you aren't around.
My kid is the same. Painfully shy around strangers, very outspoken and outgoing at home. Once she gets to really know you and your kids, she is a different person (but it takes a long time for her)
Anonymous
11/21/2020 07:48
Subject: Re:What has your child taught you about yourself?
Anonymous wrote:13+ years down the road, I don't regret it at all.
And you never think it can happen to you?
I’m not the PP, but I’m estranged from my family with zero regrets.
If my kids truly needed to cut me off to preserve their own sanity, I would absolutely support that decision. It would hurt like hell, but their well-being comes before my own. I’d sincerely apologize, make right what I could, and respect their decision.
My family has done none of these. No apologies, no fixing anything, just continuing to blame me and guilt me into letting them back in. If I behaved that way, then yea, my kids would be doing the right thing if they cut me off.