Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The boarding school was Montana Academy, sort of the gold standard in the industry. It’s a non-profit but costs a fortune. We hired a separate form to handle all health insurance reimbursements for us for a reasonable fee. Montana has passed legislation in the last couple of years strengthening oversight over the industry, but still there are some really awful boarding schools, both in terms of methods and academics. MA was strong on both. My teen is still close to his friends from there.
The benefit of (the good) therapeutic boarding schools is that there are often issues within the family/home that are best addresses when the teen is outside of the home for a sustained period of time. That’s why PHP’s etc. don’t work as well for kids who don’t have deep clinical diagnoses but are often struggling from anxiety/depression/substance use in response to issues that they can’t cope with. MA is careful about who they accept and will not accept kids who need hospital oversight (suicidal, bipolar, schizophrenia, in criminal justice system). Cash-strapped programs aren’t as careful, which could land your teen with peers he shouldn’t be around. You have to completely trust your educational consultant—their expertise, integrity, and motives.
thanks for your post. does that school have doctors on staff? I can absolutely understand why residential care could be appropriate, but I have a sibling permanently scarred by being sent to “wilderness therapy” in Montana in the 90s.
Anonymous wrote:The boarding school was Montana Academy, sort of the gold standard in the industry. It’s a non-profit but costs a fortune. We hired a separate form to handle all health insurance reimbursements for us for a reasonable fee. Montana has passed legislation in the last couple of years strengthening oversight over the industry, but still there are some really awful boarding schools, both in terms of methods and academics. MA was strong on both. My teen is still close to his friends from there.
The benefit of (the good) therapeutic boarding schools is that there are often issues within the family/home that are best addresses when the teen is outside of the home for a sustained period of time. That’s why PHP’s etc. don’t work as well for kids who don’t have deep clinical diagnoses but are often struggling from anxiety/depression/substance use in response to issues that they can’t cope with. MA is careful about who they accept and will not accept kids who need hospital oversight (suicidal, bipolar, schizophrenia, in criminal justice system). Cash-strapped programs aren’t as careful, which could land your teen with peers he shouldn’t be around. You have to completely trust your educational consultant—their expertise, integrity, and motives.
Anonymous wrote:My son went to a wilderness program and is now at a TBS (was thinking about Montana Academy for him at one point, but decided on another program). It is a needed step for some kids and should be covered by insurance.....now fighting the school district to pay for TBS....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is your kid on medication? Doing CBT? What is he doing now to address the issue?
Neither of these solve the problem of a child being isolated from his peers.
Interesting that op never answered the question.
Medication certainly helps children with anxiety and depression, no matter the cause.
Anxiety and depression are feelings that feel very bad.
A parent who doesn't understand that is lacking the empathy the child needs to understand. A child with anxiety should not be shuffled off to a wilderness program. Again, total lack of empathy about the child's feelings.
There is more going on here besides peer isolation.
Unfortunately, therapists are unable to tell the parents when the problem is the parents as that doesn't pay.
Anonymous wrote:OP PLEASE do more research. Many “wilderness” programs are really abusive and not therepeutic at all. My brother was sent to one at 13 and it reall scarred him.
You need more/better family therapy before you resort to sending your very young child away to be cared for by adults you don’t know. Yes, that means considering outpatient/inpatient (actually therepeutic) as needed. A good therapist will work on strategies to get your child to therapy.
Anonymous wrote:My teen recently did a hybrid wilderness therapy program followed by therapeutic boarding school at the same age and similar progressive global meltdown. Would be happy to share our experience. Not sure how to do so anonymously on this forum.
Anonymous wrote:9:58,
Do you mind sharing the name of the wilderness program you used?