Anonymous
Post 11/02/2020 15:32     Subject: Kids with parents with different last names
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think it is selfish on the part of the parents. I think siblings should all have the same last name. I didn't want to change my last name so I changed my middle name to my husband's last name. The common name unites us and helps identify us as a family to others. It makes life easier if I have to go pick up a package for him, if we are traveling, etc.


LOL @ selfish. You do you, but these invented bogeymans do not actually happen in the real world. I pick up packages/medicine for my husband and kid all the time (and vice versa), we travel with no issues, etc.


+1 I'm not even married to my partner and don't have the same last name as him or my child, and literally has never ever been a problem to travel, pick up medication, etc.

Also, I have 4 siblings and 2 of them have a different last name and again, has never ever been an issue to not share a last name. We can all identify our siblings and our mom, without sharing a last name.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2020 21:35     Subject: Kids with parents with different last names
Are you dense? Two parents have different last names, so they compromised on the children each having a last name. I know two families that did this. Do I think it's stupid? Yes. But are they allowed to name their kids whatever the hell they want? Again, yes.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2020 16:47     Subject: Kids with parents with different last names
I believe in Chinese naming convention the family name is first, then the given name. Op may just be thinking everyone has a different last name because it came second.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2020 16:39     Subject: Re:Kids with parents with different last names
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I guess no one is ever just curious about things. Op, I would be curious too.


Op here. I was just curious. And we know plenty of divorced and blended families. I’m very well aware kids can have different fathers. I just thought this situation was a little odd because siblings look the same as in they look totally like full siblings.

There was an Asian family with all 4 family members with different last names. Also seem like a non blended family. I would never ask in real life. That’s why I asked on an anonymous forum.



Not sure what specific ethnicity you could be referring to, but in parts of South India women take the first name of their father as their last name, and when they are married, they take their husband's first name. I know a family where the husband's last name is his dad's first name, his wife still had her dad's first name as her last name,(essentially her maiden name), their children had the first name of husband as their last names.


The Asian family I think is Chinese.


I have a friend from Tibet. He had a son here in the US and he told me (years ago) that he decided to give his son his same last name. It was the first time his family had a surname. That it was not common in his culture.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2020 15:14     Subject: Kids with parents with different last names
Maybe the wife cheated on the husband and the younger kid is her lover's child? And he wouldn't want the kid taking his last name? Just a thought.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2020 09:29     Subject: Kids with parents with different last names
Here you go.

Eighty Eight pages to disrupt your normative view of how and why people have certain names.

https://www.fbiic.gov/public/2008/nov/Naming_practice_guide_UK_2006.pdf

Shouts to all disruptors of heteronormative biases.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2020 09:23     Subject: Kids with parents with different last names
This is soooooooo googleable it's ridiculous.

But I'll bite.

here are your keywords (cultural naming conventions from around the world)

you're welcome.

As a matter if fact LMGTFY:

https://lmgtfy.app/?q=cultural+naming+conventions+around+the+world

Anonymous
Post 11/01/2020 09:14     Subject: Kids with parents with different last names
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It keeps both names going. I see nothing wrong with it. My husband suggested we give our kids my name only.




My friend gave his kid his wife's last name. He came from an abusive family and did not want to be associated with them anymore. His daughter's full name does not contain any reference to his side of the family.


But why not just change his name as well?