I'm really sick of snotty bitches like you. Am neither speaking directly to you, nor accusing you of anything. Merely offering an example. I shouldn't actually have to explain this particular incident in full--but in fact, the parents weren't friends of ours, in spite of the fact that they were at our house. Don't you have anything better to do than to try to jump on every individual response from someone and pick on that individual to make it about them? Seriously, fuck off back to whatever hole you crawled out off. Really really tired of you.

Anonymous wrote:

MYOB is hard to do when they are in your house, engaging in the latest round of bad behaviour with no comment from Mom or Dad. I usually end up disciplining in my house, regardless of whose child it is, if the parents don't step up to it. "My house, my rules" with a semi-smile. My kids try to 'help' their friends out with "we're not allowed to jump on the couch" or whatever. Even if my kids were allowed to jump on our couch, I'd never let them to that at someone else's house..but, eh, I digress.

Why are you friends with these people? If they are such awful parents, maybe you shouldn't invite them over to your house. How is it fun for you to have to discipline your friend's children in your house? Cut them off. If that means you have to cut off all your friends . . . maybe the problem is YOU.

Anonymous wrote:

If you could puh-leaze control your kids so they aren't a problem for other people, that would be great.

Sure, parents have always had issues with kids doing things behind their backs. But I think the last ten to twenty years is the first time that children do really bad things right to a parent's face. And why? Because they totally get away with it. They aren't yanked off the playground. If they do something bad at someone's house, no one is making them apologize to their hosts and fix whatever they did. They get wussy reprimands like "you're not making good choices". The parents are either so conflict-avoiding or have their heads up some parenting guru's ass that they don't know how to put a child in their place when they do something wrong. It's pathetic.

I get a two year old that misbehaves right in front of a parent. That's a lack of impulse control. But when a six or seven year old does it, the parents aren't doing their job.



It is not your problem if your friend lets her kid spit in her face. It isn't a problem for you. It is her problem. MYOB.


It is my problem if my kid sees it and starts to think that behavior is OK. Which is why we all avoid moms like the friend.

No one is complaining about parents whose kids behave badly, if the parent does react in an appropriate way. OP's complaint is that some parents don't do anything and just let the kids run wild.

Anonymous wrote:

If you could puh-leaze control your kids so they aren't a problem for other people, that would be great.

Sure, parents have always had issues with kids doing things behind their backs. But I think the last ten to twenty years is the first time that children do really bad things right to a parent's face. And why? Because they totally get away with it. They aren't yanked off the playground. If they do something bad at someone's house, no one is making them apologize to their hosts and fix whatever they did. They get wussy reprimands like "you're not making good choices". The parents are either so conflict-avoiding or have their heads up some parenting guru's ass that they don't know how to put a child in their place when they do something wrong. It's pathetic.

I get a two year old that misbehaves right in front of a parent. That's a lack of impulse control. But when a six or seven year old does it, the parents aren't doing their job.

It is not your problem if your friend lets her kid spit in her face. It isn't a problem for you. It is her problem. MYOB.

If you could puh-leaze control your kids so they aren't a problem for other people, that would be great.

Sure, parents have always had issues with kids doing things behind their backs. But I think the last ten to twenty years is the first time that children do really bad things right to a parent's face. And why? Because they totally get away with it. They aren't yanked off the playground. If they do something bad at someone's house, no one is making them apologize to their hosts and fix whatever they did. They get wussy reprimands like "you're not making good choices". The parents are either so conflict-avoiding or have their heads up some parenting guru's ass that they don't know how to put a child in their place when they do something wrong. It's pathetic.

I get a two year old that misbehaves right in front of a parent. That's a lack of impulse control. But when a six or seven year old does it, the parents aren't doing their job.

MYOB is hard to do when they are in your house, engaging in the latest round of bad behaviour with no comment from Mom or Dad. I usually end up disciplining in my house, regardless of whose child it is, if the parents don't step up to it. "My house, my rules" with a semi-smile. My kids try to 'help' their friends out with "we're not allowed to jump on the couch" or whatever. Even if my kids were allowed to jump on our couch, I'd never let them to that at someone else's house..but, eh, I digress.

Anonymous wrote:Puh-leaze! People have been going on about "kids these days" for 40, 50 years. Probably longer. Some people are good parents, some people aren't. Sometimes, the behavior you witness is a child at its worst. Sometimes it is the normal behavior for the child. But at the end of the day, MYOB.