Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’m back at work FT and so is my husband. We both work FT from home. I have no desire to be a SAHM. We have had two previous nannies but letting them go wasn’t our fault. One was very unreliable and the other one left when they lined up a longterm position. I stand by my decision.

Nope, they were both your fault. Your job isn’t ideal but you don’t even realize this. You are also neurotic, controlling and will continue rotating through nannies. The only thing that nanny learned is that they dodged a bullet.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’m back at work FT and so is my husband. We both work FT from home. I have no desire to be a SAHM. We have had two previous nannies but letting them go wasn’t our fault. One was very unreliable and the other one left when they lined up a longterm position. I stand by my decision.

Then why did you post in the first place? And why the need to keep changing the story when the holes were pointed out to you simply to make yourself look better? You screwed up. Learn from it and move on.

I walked 5 miles tonight for my regular exercise. 1 mile is nothing. For me it is 13 minutes, for a regular or slow walker it is 15-20 minutes. Your feet are more reliable than a car in traffic. You messed up, OP.

If there were a freak emergency snow storm in October (Haha) she could take a ride-share.

I am happy the nanny will not be working for you. You sound like a nightmare.

OP here. I’m back at work FT and so is my husband. We both work FT from home. I have no desire to be a SAHM. We have had two previous nannies but letting them go wasn’t our fault. One was very unreliable and the other one left when they lined up a longterm position. I stand by my decision.

OP has no wish to return to work and wants clearance to stay at home. She will do all she can to make sure any childcare situation they choose looks unsafe and untrustworthy.

OP sounds like an absolute nightmare of a boss.

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Anonymous wrote:If you didn't state upfront that a driver's license was a job requirement, then yes, you overreacted.

OP here. She told me that she would be driving sometimes and had a reliable vehicle to get to/from work.

By that time she would have renewed her license. I say let her go because you are going to drive her crazy

Not a nanny, here. Mother of one child. Have a had a nanny and hired many temp sitters.

OP, you are being ridiculous. Hire whomever you want, but if this is really the only reason you decided not to go with this nanny, then maybe you are not cut out for hiring help at home.

Nannies are PEOPLE. And it’s a pandemic! If you don’t have enough grace to see that this was an honest misunderstanding that was immaterial to the temporary position for which you were hiring, you don’t deserve to hire this woman. I hope she has already found a position working for someone who isn’t a suspicious control freak.

And good luck to you finding a nanny. It can be very hard to find someone who is good with your kid, is reliable, gets along with your family, and has the right experience. Especially if you keep adding extraneous made-up requirements on top of that so you can revoke offers last minute. You will need a LOT of luck.

And another thing, two of the most reliable sitters I’ve ever had did not drive.

Poster has said NOTHING about checking the nanny’s work references( personal or caregiver) or her criminal background check. The poster is making assumptions based on the perception of a bad driving record , based on a pandemic expired license at that.

I’d NEVER do an MVR check on a nanny unless she was driving my car or if driving was a huge part of the job.

It would probably be highly annoying to work for OP as she is presenting like on over-indexing type of personality. I’m sure if the nanny used a mug and forgot to tell right away she’d try to assume she was dishonest as well.

My two cents, OP has run through sitters/teachers and has no intention of actually hiring and building an authentic relationship with her child’s caregiver.

OP is stuck on her point, super annoying when posters act like they are posing questions, but are truly seeking an amen corner.

Op, you obviously wanted an out for the offer for this nanny.

Good luck finding a caregiver I’m sure another family would be more focused on meeting their families care need, versus whatever it is you’re doing.

Why does she have to drive if it’s not a job requirement? She lives a mile away from you. That is walking distance. If you don’t need her to drive your kid to activities then what’s the big deal? If there is a medical emergency then she should be calling 911 and not trying to drive to the hospital anyway. You are wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. She did say she was going to renew it but didn’t because of the pandemic. It doesn’t matter now since we are not moving forward with her. Most of the people against me are likely nanny. The couple of responses that agree are parents.

Well I am a parent and think you are an idiot who is absolutely in the wrong. But sure, go ahead and assume that everyone who is against you is a nanny.

A parent who calls people idiots. Great role model.

Just calling a spade a spade.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. She did say she was going to renew it but didn’t because of the pandemic. It doesn’t matter now since we are not moving forward with her. Most of the people against me are likely nanny. The couple of responses that agree are parents.

Well I am a parent and think you are an idiot who is absolutely in the wrong. But sure, go ahead and assume that everyone who is against you is a nanny.

I'm the one who thinks many of the responders are nannies, and I am not the OP.

I agree. I’m not a nanny but a parent who hired a nanny. I would not be comfortable with this and OP was also not comfortable with it. Go with your inner feeling. I can say that I never looked back at a nanny I DIDN’T hire and say gosh I wish I had. A mile can be a long way in rain sleet and snow also. It doesn’t matter. It didn’t work out.

This is a temporary nanny position. It will be over before DC sees any sleet or snow. Please.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. She did say she was going to renew it but didn’t because of the pandemic. It doesn’t matter now since we are not moving forward with her. Most of the people against me are likely nanny. The couple of responses that agree are parents.

Well I am a parent and think you are an idiot who is absolutely in the wrong. But sure, go ahead and assume that everyone who is against you is a nanny.

I'm the one who thinks many of the responders are nannies, and I am not the OP.

I agree. I’m not a nanny but a parent who hired a nanny. I would not be comfortable with this and OP was also not comfortable with it. Go with your inner feeling. I can say that I never looked back at a nanny I DIDN’T hire and say gosh I wish I had. A mile can be a long way in rain sleet and snow also. It doesn’t matter. It didn’t work out.