Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes people speak louder than they think. It isn't the same content, but one time I mentioned to my husband that I thought a ref's offsides call was unfair and inconsistent in favor of the other team. I didn't think anyone could hear, but one of the parents of the players on the other team came over and apologized for it afterwards. I felt so awkward because I didn't even care that deeply in the first place.

But this is okay. It's not a criticism of the team or players. Lots of parents were upset about a call this weekend and several grumbled loudly but not rudely. It wasn't like they were heckling the ref. It was more like a collective groan.

Very different than having a side conversation with another parent about what some players, presumably not their own, are doing wrong.

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes people speak louder than they think. It isn't the same content, but one time I mentioned to my husband that I thought a ref's offsides call was unfair and inconsistent in favor of the other team. I didn't think anyone could hear, but one of the parents of the players on the other team came over and apologized for it afterwards. I felt so awkward because I didn't even care that deeply in the first place.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just started travel this year, so maybe my expectations are off. Wanted to get a gut check:

Spouse gets a little enthusiastic on the sidelines. Never calls out any individual player by name (other than our kid), but may call out if the defense or offense is lacking. Nothing mean-spirited, mostly encouragement. Sure, there were also some private parent-to-parent conversations on the sideline that may have been more critical, but nothing loud enough for a player or even another parent in the stands to hear . . . unless they were eavesdropping.

Yesterday, after the tournament weekend, spouse gets a call from the OWNER of the club dressing him down for his sideline behavior. Another parent on the team got the same call. I would have thought adults could have a conversation with each other, or even with the coach, before involving the owner of the entire organization.

IS THIS NORMAL?

Answer me this. Is your husband's name Messi, Ronaldo, Pele or Maradona?
If not, maybe he should shut his trap?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What clubs are owned by individual people? I never knew this. Thanks.

Almost none in the DC area. They are virtually all not-for-profits around here.

OP’s DH sounds like a toxic idiot, and people who call out that sort of ridiculous behavior are not “Karens”.

Anonymous wrote:Just started travel this year, so maybe my expectations are off. Wanted to get a gut check:

Spouse gets a little enthusiastic on the sidelines. Never calls out any individual player by name (other than our kid), but may call out if the defense or offense is lacking. Nothing mean-spirited, mostly encouragement. Sure, there were also some private parent-to-parent conversations on the sideline that may have been more critical, but nothing loud enough for a player or even another parent in the stands to hear . . . unless they were eavesdropping.

Yesterday, after the tournament weekend, spouse gets a call from the OWNER of the club dressing him down for his sideline behavior. Another parent on the team got the same call. I would have thought adults could have a conversation with each other, or even with the coach, before involving the owner of the entire organization.

IS THIS NORMAL?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just started travel this year, so maybe my expectations are off. Wanted to get a gut check:

Spouse gets a little enthusiastic on the sidelines. Never calls out any individual player by name (other than our kid), but may call out if the defense or offense is lacking. Nothing mean-spirited, mostly encouragement. Sure, there were also some private parent-to-parent conversations on the sideline that may have been more critical, but nothing loud enough for a player or even another parent in the stands to hear . . . unless they were eavesdropping.

Yesterday, after the tournament weekend, spouse gets a call from the OWNER of the club dressing him down for his sideline behavior. Another parent on the team got the same call. I would have thought adults could have a conversation with each other, or even with the coach, before involving the owner of the entire organization.

IS THIS NORMAL?

No. This is disgraceful. I would immediately remove your kid from the team and find a club that will welcome your family as you deserve. Sideline input from parents is very important for for the growth of the kids - and its especially important that they get feedback from parents who are not their own parents because their own parents tend to have trouble seeing the faults in their own kids' abilities. Wherever you go you should encourage your DH to carry on providing input. Some other parents may initially resist but they will come around as they see their kids improve as a consequence.

Troll and/or idiot.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just started travel this year, so maybe my expectations are off. Wanted to get a gut check:

Spouse gets a little enthusiastic on the sidelines. Never calls out any individual player by name (other than our kid), but may call out if the defense or offense is lacking. Nothing mean-spirited, mostly encouragement. Sure, there were also some private parent-to-parent conversations on the sideline that may have been more critical, but nothing loud enough for a player or even another parent in the stands to hear . . . unless they were eavesdropping.

Yesterday, after the tournament weekend, spouse gets a call from the OWNER of the club dressing him down for his sideline behavior. Another parent on the team got the same call. I would have thought adults could have a conversation with each other, or even with the coach, before involving the owner of the entire organization.

IS THIS NORMAL?

No. This is disgraceful. I would immediately remove your kid from the team and find a club that will welcome your family as you deserve. Sideline input from parents is very important for for the growth of the kids - and its especially important that they get feedback from parents who are not their own parents because their own parents tend to have trouble seeing the faults in their own kids' abilities. Wherever you go you should encourage your DH to carry on providing input. Some other parents may initially resist but they will come around as they see their kids improve as a consequence.

Anonymous wrote:How does your HUSBANDs bad behaviour turn this into a KAREN situation. It's not a Karen/female thing. It's a male ego (living vicariously) thing!! Sexists for sure.