This guy is dishonest. How can you be sure he’s divorced and not merely separated? Dump him immediately.

Anonymous wrote:Sometime ago on this board I proposed a similar problem from a GF that has inappropriate relationships with ex’s and random people she’s gotten underneath and I was told to grow up. You people said it was basically normal and she was being mature. A woman that knows what she wants! Don’t take any advice here!

Link? I want to see if this is actually analogous.

Get tested for STDs immediately. And dump this f***ing loser.

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are a prop in their ongoing saga. I would move on.

This. He's absolutely still sleeping with her.

Whatever you do DO NOT MARRY THIS MAN. You should break up. Now.

He's almost 40, your are dating over 2 years and he's still very close to his ex... no way.

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FIVE YEARS since his divorce and he’s still not over her??!!??

Come on OP. You know better. Why are you still with this guy?

+ infinity

Dump him OP. Don't waste any more time.

He’s still into her, at least emotionally.

OP, you’re so young and deserve so much more . Free yourself from this nonsense and don’t look back.

Onward and upward!

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Anonymous wrote:
Does he have kids with her?

OP: Nope, no kids, so all contact is totally by choice.

DTMFA. He's hung up on her. You deserve better.

Anonymous wrote:OP he's keeping her on the back burner for some reason. I would move on, but first would call her to see what's really been going on. You might get a big surprise. Plus it may be the push you needed. You're wasting your youth on this cheater OP. I still can't believe you put up with him meeting her for dinner (dates). Think about it....

OP: I honestly didn't know about the dinner and drink dates. You know how it is early in the relationship when you're trying to play it cool and not breathe down their neck to find out where they are all the time? I didn't really start inquiring about this stuff until 9-12 months into dating. He was very skittish and is still a very private person, so I tread very lightly at first. Joke's on me, I guess.

Anonymous wrote:I'd end the relationship. He is not ready and has not moved on.

You don't want to end up with someone like this...

This

OP he's keeping her on the back burner for some reason. I would move on, but first would call her to see what's really been going on. You might get a big surprise. Plus it may be the push you needed. You're wasting your youth on this cheater OP. I still can't believe you put up with him meeting her for dinner (dates). Think about it....

OP, WTF.....How have you been in this relationship so long? Have some self respect and dump IMMEDIATELY.

Sometime ago on this board I proposed a similar problem from a GF that has inappropriate relationships with ex’s and random people she’s gotten underneath and I was told to grow up. You people said it was basically normal and she was being mature. A woman that knows what she wants! Don’t take any advice here!