Anonymous
02/16/2021 22:08
Subject: Why do kids who can afford to go away for college stay close to home and even room with their high
Anonymous wrote:school friends? Hear me out. If you can afford $30-40k/yr for college I don’t know why people go to GMU, CUA, AU, Marymount, Howard, etc AND LIVE AT THEM. For that amount of money you could send your kid to a private with merit aid 3,000 miles away or an OOS public with merit. I know these are good schools but I thought one of the primary purposes of staying close was to save money by living at your house. I’m genuinely curious because it’s so odd to me. All of the people I know who’ve had their kids stay this close have money. My parents said no to “plane-ride” schools because of airfare and limited me to 2 hrs from home because they couldn’t understand directions. I was pissed! Why don’t kids want to explore a new place? Expand their horizons?
Because they are losers who are not as cool as you!
OP, do you also have a very hard time understanding why people would disagree from your political point of view?
Anonymous
02/16/2021 20:13
Subject: Why do kids who can afford to go away for college stay close to home and even room with their high
Because some children like their family members and high school friends.
Anonymous
02/16/2021 20:12
Subject: Re:Why do kids who can afford to go away for college stay close to home and even room with their high
Anonymous wrote:There are so many college opportunities near DC. Just within the metro area we have some of the best schools in the country (JHU, Georgetown), a top ranked public (UMD), and some great LAC options. If you open it up to three hours away which is a pretty normal distance from home for most kids in the rest of the country (even ones going to their state school), you have hundreds of options including two ivies. We happen to live in the heart of higher education. I think a lot of kids find schools they love nearby without even considering location.
GW & American aren’t shabby either.
Anonymous
02/16/2021 20:04
Subject: Why do kids who can afford to go away for college stay close to home and even room with their high
Anonymous wrote:PP. That said, some people just like to stay close. Most kids do. Mine are going far away because they want to explore. I agree that exploring is a good thing, but the plane angle is a small pain. I think many overestimate the cost, but there is some cost (plus summer storage)
Some parents want to keep their kids close. My parents refused to allow me to go to an out of state school, even with a large amount of merit aid. I was severely scolded even for applying.
Anonymous
02/16/2021 14:19
Subject: Re:Why do kids who can afford to go away for college stay close to home and even room with their high
Anonymous wrote:There's such an overblown emphasis on a kid immediately leaving home (by some method) as soon as they turn 18 in the United States. I know, I know. Plenty live at home for community college or to work, but it's usually looked upon with at least a slight veil of shame. It's ingrained in our culture to equate success with being fiercely independent. I would say this goes hand-in-hand with the prioritization of the nuclear family household. Many other parts of the world emphasis intergenerational households and living at home into adulthood (and not as a point of failure but rather an excellent option).
That being said, going to college close to home but still living in dorms seems like a great way to balance growing independence while also nurturing family life. I see nothing wrong with it. And I'm saying this as an American who stubbornly moved abroad for college the moment I graduated high school.
+1 Going far away is fine but so is staying close. Maybe they love their city or are close with their family. There can be non-pathological reasons for making a choice you wouldn't make.
Anonymous
02/16/2021 14:14
Subject: Re:Why do kids who can afford to go away for college stay close to home and even room with their high
Truth is most families and teens, even rich ones, are super insular and provincial, plus parents nudge their kids to stay close to home. Over half of my UMC high school went to the same two public universities and kept seemingly 95% of their same high school friend group throughout college! After college many of them lived with each other in Chicago.
It takes a strong-willed outgoing broadminded teen to want to attend college hundreds if not 1,000-plus miles from home where they might not know anyone or perhaps only sort of know a handful of peers. I admire that fearless 'explorer' trait but not every 18-y/o has it. I'm not even sure if my kids have it, although I hope they do and we've saved the money necessary for them to go anywhere they want.
It takes a strong-willed outgoing broadminded teen to want to attend college hundreds if not 1,000-plus miles from home where they might not know anyone or perhaps only sort of know a handful of peers. I admire that fearless 'explorer' trait but not every 18-y/o has it. I'm not even sure if my kids have it, although I hope they do and we've saved the money necessary for them to go anywhere they want.
Anonymous
02/16/2021 11:31
Subject: Re:Why do kids who can afford to go away for college stay close to home and even room with their high
There's such an overblown emphasis on a kid immediately leaving home (by some method) as soon as they turn 18 in the United States. I know, I know. Plenty live at home for community college or to work, but it's usually looked upon with at least a slight veil of shame. It's ingrained in our culture to equate success with being fiercely independent. I would say this goes hand-in-hand with the prioritization of the nuclear family household. Many other parts of the world emphasis intergenerational households and living at home into adulthood (and not as a point of failure but rather an excellent option).
That being said, going to college close to home but still living in dorms seems like a great way to balance growing independence while also nurturing family life. I see nothing wrong with it. And I'm saying this as an American who stubbornly moved abroad for college the moment I graduated high school.
That being said, going to college close to home but still living in dorms seems like a great way to balance growing independence while also nurturing family life. I see nothing wrong with it. And I'm saying this as an American who stubbornly moved abroad for college the moment I graduated high school.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 20:03
Subject: Re:Why do kids who can afford to go away for college stay close to home and even room with their high
I didn’t grow up in the DMV and don’t think it’s all that. I would be happy if my kids settled elsewhere.
It’s a big world out there.
It’s a big world out there.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 17:13
Subject: Why do kids who can afford to go away for college stay close to home and even room with their high
Anonymous wrote:school friends? Hear me out. If you can afford $30-40k/yr for college I don’t know why people go to GMU, CUA, AU, Marymount, Howard, etc AND LIVE AT THEM. For that amount of money you could send your kid to a private with merit aid 3,000 miles away or an OOS public with merit. I know these are good schools but I thought one of the primary purposes of staying close was to save money by living at your house. I’m genuinely curious because it’s so odd to me. All of the people I know who’ve had their kids stay this close have money. My parents said no to “plane-ride” schools because of airfare and limited me to 2 hrs from home because they couldn’t understand directions. I was pissed! Why don’t kids want to explore a new place? Expand their horizons?
Here is another thread of people who do things differently are "odd". You must not have much to do or think about if you care so much about things that do not affect you one bit.
My answer to you is: use you imagination!
Anonymous
02/15/2021 17:04
Subject: Why do kids who can afford to go away for college stay close to home and even room with their high
Anonymous wrote:I went to college 7 miles from my home. I lived 21 miles from
Manhattan and majored in business and wanted to work in Wall Street. I worked at two major banks part time during college and got hired to a management training program on Wall Street fresh out of school.
If I lived in Peoria I would have still gone to school in NYC area
Yup. I also went to school less than 20 miles from home - actually in Manhattan. I can promise you a river can be a HUUUGE psychological barrier.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 17:02
Subject: Why do kids who can afford to go away for college stay close to home and even room with their high
Anonymous wrote:Not everyone can get merit aid. Plane tickets are expensive during holidays.
and the distance expenses really do add up. My kid is at a school that you would recommend instead of what these families are choosing. It is no small thing for us to deal with the back and forth during a pandemic. Fortunately we have sufficient means (flexible work hours, tons of vacation days, cash for a hotel) that it isn't a big deal for us to drive a thousand miles to get him there or back (we do not think flying is safe) but it is not for the meek.
I also advise, OP, that you be less judgmental.
You don't know any of these family's stories. Financial, health, like spending time together...
Maybe Howard is the dream?
Maybe the kid had crones and doesn't want new doctors?
Maybe dad is dying.
Maybe an extracurricular activity is really that important and it is local.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 09:09
Subject: Why do kids who can afford to go away for college stay close to home and even room with their high
My DC is applying to all nearby schools, 45 minutes to 2.5 hours away. He had no interest in going further away. I think for him the transition to college feels big enough, he is not also seeking to live in a new / faraway area to experience very different surroundings. Although I totally get why some people would want to go far away.
Anonymous
09/17/2020 09:33
Subject: Why do kids who can afford to go away for college stay close to home and even room with their high
I went to college 7 miles from my home. I lived 21 miles from
Manhattan and majored in business and wanted to work in Wall Street. I worked at two major banks part time during college and got hired to a management training program on Wall Street fresh out of school.
If I lived in Peoria I would have still gone to school in NYC area
Manhattan and majored in business and wanted to work in Wall Street. I worked at two major banks part time during college and got hired to a management training program on Wall Street fresh out of school.
If I lived in Peoria I would have still gone to school in NYC area
Anonymous
09/17/2020 09:29
Subject: Why do kids who can afford to go away for college stay close to home and even room with their high
OP there's an expression "To each, their own" I think you can probably apply that to your question. If that doesn't satisfy you, well then you might want to redirect your attention elsewhere.