Anonymous wrote:No one is shaming the people who have gained weight on here, why are the ones that have maintained their weight being shamed?

I didn't realize they were.

It's the people who are like "I was 5'8 and 115 now I'm 120 OMG I NEED TO LOSE FIVE POUNDS!"

And I am not a "Fat Positive!" person either. I can't stand how our society has appeared to have given up on the obesity problem and in some aspects is glorifying it. But there is also no need to require your BMI to stay under 20. To be 5'8 and under 120 lbs is what supermodels require and is genetically impossible for most people. There are a whole range of body weights per height that can be healthy, and a muscular athlete, a person with wide hips and a wide frame, and a small boned Asian woman will all have different ideal weights within this range. But the women boasting their weights on this thread skew at the very low end of the healthy BMI range, if not clinically underweight.

5'4" and weighed 125 when I got married 15yrs ago. Man did I love that body then and boy did I take it for granted. Worked out every day. Super fit, super muscular. Could wear whatever I wanted. Worried constantly about how "fat" I was. sigh. Two kids later where I gained nearly 80lbs with the first and 55lbs with the second, I'm stuck at 160. ugh. It's disgusting. Trying to get to 140lbs right now and am back to a regular workout routine for the first time in years. If I had advice for my former self it would be to never stop working out. I should have worked out during my first pregnancy, but I basically stopped and ate instead, and never got the motivation back.

No one is shaming the people who have gained weight on here, why are the ones that have maintained their weight being shamed?

5’9”
Married 135
10 years, 2 kids and hypothyroidism later, 165

5’6, I weighed 130 when I got married 17 years ago at age 32. I now weigh 160. Awful! My 40s were a terrible decade filled with stress and I packed on the pounds. Peri menopause has made it really tough to lose the weight. Bought a peloton recently and am getting back into the shape I want to be in.

5’10” and 165 lbs when married, 5’9” and 160 lbs now. Shorter and slimmer a bit!

Married 6 years ago
5’8”
140 when married
140 now

128 15 years ago, 134 now. 5'6" 3 kids.

I was about 112 when I got married 20 years ago, and about 120 now. I was a little too thin then. Would like to drop a couple of pounds now, but I'm at the age where weight falls off my face and my belly doesn't shrink at all, so I may as well just try to maintain. I'm 5/5".

5'10" and 175 when I was married; 195 now.

It's weird to me to see all these numbers out of context. Every body is different. Gaining weight after marriage could be due to exercising less (or exercising more, if you are building muscle), or to having kids, or to recovering from an eating disorder, or from depression, or to drinking more... so many factors, some positive, some negative. For some bodies, 110 is their healthiest weight. For others, 150. It really depends.

I am someone who loses weight when I am under a lot of stress or depressed. I also sometimes also start losing my hair or get eczema. Several times in my life, I've had female friends commend me for looking good simply because I was thinner, not realizing that losing weight was a sign of illness for me. I once told a friend that my weight loss was due to stress and she said, "Lucky you!" and she meant it.

Anyway, I think I probably weigh about the same now as I did when I got married 6 years ago. I've gone through two different bouts of depression/anxiety since then, and done a lot of work on myself through therapy and reading. For what it's worth, I'm 5'4".

Anonymous wrote:I don't believe all the 5'8, 120 lb women on here. Those are models standards.

Lol. I was 5’8 118-120. When we got married I had put on a few pounds to 122 from going out to eat often. No model. I was skinny though.

I have slowly gained after having kids. I know have a thyroid problem too. I am 155. I wish I was 145. Not looking to get super skinny because at my age know you have to choose between your ass and face and I’ll take my face with a chocolate chip cookie. Enjoy life. A few pounds are sometimes hard for me to accept but when I see others a few pounds overweight I still think they are gorgeous.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't believe all the 5'8, 120 lb women on here. Those are models standards.

Self selection bias. Those are the women choosing to answer.

+1
I’m 5’7, 135 and have to work really hard to stay here.

5’4” 125 then — 3 kids and 10 years later 135. I’m fine with it and so is my husband.

Anonymous wrote:I don't believe all the 5'8, 120 lb women on here. Those are models standards.

Self selection bias. Those are the women choosing to answer.