Completely inappropriate. I would say disturbing

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Anonymous wrote:My dad did this to me basically until I left for college. It made me uncomfortable and he acted like I was some kind of pervert when I asked him to stop. PLEASE step in if you think it is making your daughters uncomfortable. I can almost guarantee you that it is, but they don't want to hurt their dad.

+1 me too.

I didn't mind being slapped on the butt though I hated getting poked in the side.

The butt slapping has stopped now that I'm grown and married, but the poking continues. I'm 30 years old, stop trying to tickle me!

That would make so uncomfortable as a young female.

Well, take a photo of him doing it and send it to his friends and colleagues. If he’s right that it’s fine, he’ll be ok with you doing this.

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Anonymous wrote:Did he all of the sudden start this now, at these ages? Or has he always done it? I come from a family of bum pinchers/swatters, so I don't think it's inherently weird.

+1

Also how are you DD reacting? If they're fine, I'd be fine.

If you socialize them to not think creepy things are creepy it's fine and they go out into the world not knowing right from wrong... so no!

This!

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Anonymous wrote:It is inappropriate. Like Joe Biden kissing his granddaughter full on the mouth kind of inappropriate. Anyone doing those things needs permission from the person it's being done to.

Some families kiss like that. Its fine.

Ugh my grandfather kisses like that and makes a big deal when you won't. I was finally the first person to be like , no I hate that when I was in my 20s. I think it's fine if ALL people in a family want to kiss like that but take the lead on the person who is getting the kiss to see what they want. And no I don't come from a cold family. We are Italian and kiss literally to say hello when you just saw the person 5 hours ago

Tell him to keep his hands to himself. Not acceptable period,

And you start slapping his but every single time he walks in a room see how he likes it.

Not ok!

Anonymous wrote:It is inappropriate. Like Joe Biden kissing his granddaughter full on the mouth kind of inappropriate. Anyone doing those things needs permission from the person it's being done to.

Or Trump touching Ivanka lots of those photos it’s creepy.

Or Trump and his new DNA sample for rape. Of wait he actually has to give samples twice because two people are accusing him of RAPE.

#trumpvirus2020

If my dad has done this to me as a teenager-20 year old, I would have hated it but also would have felt uncomfortable telling him to stop. Many teenagers don’t feel confident enough to say how they really feel about things and also may think this behavior is normal.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. When they’re walking by. He’s always been like this but at their ages I think it’s weird. It would have made me uncomfortable if my Dad did this.

It's not weird, but you're gonna make it weird.

This. He's been doing it for years and NOW you're noticing? Get a grip, OP.

If anyone outside of my husband slapped my butt I would slap their cheek or their hand immediately.

He is telling your daughter with his action that the behavior is okay from a man and someone that is an authority.

Tell the girls they have a right to slap his hand away. Teach them this: I am the boss of my body, and no one else’s.

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Anonymous wrote:I think this is highly inappropriate. Am I crazy? He’s telling me I have the one with issues and am looking for problems.

This is a huge huge issue. If my spouse brought up a concern I would hear them out not call them crazy and accuse them of having problems.

People keep saying if his daughters were bothered they'd ask him to stop. Look how he responds to his wife!

He'd probably be like many of you " Lighten up it' just teasing and playful affection." " Lighten up I'm your dad."

No, mom probably accused him of abusing his daughters and he rightfully said she's crazy.

Anonymous wrote:At the end of the day, if I am doing something that makes my spouse feel uncomfortable, then I try best to stop it.

Unless momma was sexually abused by her father, I think she's nuts.

Anonymous wrote:It is inappropriate. Like Joe Biden kissing his granddaughter full on the mouth kind of inappropriate. Anyone doing those things needs permission from the person it's being done to.

Mouth kissing isn't inappropriate. You've just somehow sexualized it in your mind. Prude Americans...

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Anonymous wrote:His kids, fine as long as it doesn't bother the kids.

I agree.

Do you REALLY think his daughters are going to be honest about this?

This is highly inappropriate. A big 'hell no' from me. Creepy

+1. Kids often feel they can’t or shouldn’t tell a parent to knock it off. Buy you daughters internalize the message that if someone touches them in a way that makes them uncomfortable, they should make a fuss if it’s “just” dad being dad, or boys being boys, “someone being playful”. Women often freeze and don’t speak up when they should because they have had years of stuff like this.

I know that if someone pops my 16 year old DD’s butt and she doesn’t like it, she can always tell the person to cut it out— dad, an uncle, a boy at school, a boss down the road. She shouldn’t have to ask herself if this is one of those instances where she has to “keep sweet”. Because it’s her body and she decides who touches her and how.