Anonymous
Post 08/12/2020 18:36     Subject: Any moms with all boys that love it and do not feel disappointed?
I have 2 girls, I would have wanted a boy for a third but that’s mainly bc I didn’t want a third child so if I had to do it I would want a different experience at least lol. Since I don’t get to pick, we stuck with the two girls.

My husband gets asked a lot about if he wants a boy, we had no preference he just wanted two of the same for some reason - lol so he was happy with two girls. Would have wanted two boys if our first was a boy.
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2020 14:41     Subject: Any moms with all boys that love it and do not feel disappointed?
I love having three boys, and am having a blast raising them. I will admit, I do get a little sad thinking about our relationship as an adult. While it’s not always true, it does often seem that a the girl’s family is made a priority in adulthood.
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2020 12:45     Subject: Any moms with all boys that love it and do not feel disappointed?
I have sons. They are amazing and I've never wanted anything more.

Having said that, I have no clue what it's like to be a girl parent, so who knows. I can't compare. I just know I'm really happy.
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2020 12:37     Subject: Re:Any moms with all boys that love it and do not feel disappointed?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have a daughter (pregnant with # 2 and don't know the gender). I love her so much, but was scared when I was told that I was having a girl because I have a horrible relationship with my mother and because I have struggled with an eating disorder and dealt with sexual harassment/assault. Boys are obviously not immune to anything that I've experienced, but the body issues and sexual harassment issues do seem to happen more to women.

I do not know what it is like to navigate the world as a boy/man, but it breaks my heart that my daughter will face scrutiny at a young age for her body from society (even now my family comments on my 12 month old's "chubby thighs" and says things like "X's daughter will be long and lean, because she's in the 15th percentile [at 6 months]..."). It's so sad that actual babies are viewed through the lens of our messed up body standards. These experiences honestly make me hope that # 2 is a boy, but I only know what it's like with a girl and my daughter is amazing. She is incredibly intelligent, curious, sweet, willful, and silly. I'm incredibly grateful to be her mom and I think that most parents must feel that way.

You must be joking about “ messed up body standards”. Most people who view themselves as normal weight in America are actually overweight. Lastly, there are more than 40% of obese people in US and the numbers only keep growing.


That may be true, but you must also know that there is a huge pressure to be skinny among a certain demographic and that anorexia and bulimia disproportionately affect girls for many of the reasons that the OP here raised, right?
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2020 11:58     Subject: Any moms with all boys that love it and do not feel disappointed?
Anonymous wrote:Love my boys. Girls so much more trouble.


Disgusting. What a lovely attitude to pass on to your sons.
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2020 11:56     Subject: Re:Any moms with all boys that love it and do not feel disappointed?
I have three boys and would love to have had a girl but we’re done. I’m sure I will miss out on many mom/daughter special moments but I love my sons to death and I’d never make a trade.
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2020 11:03     Subject: Re:Any moms with all boys that love it and do not feel disappointed?
Right. Because all boys are a certain way, and all girls are a certain way. And none of them will ever be transgender.
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2020 10:51     Subject: Re:Any moms with all boys that love it and do not feel disappointed?
I wouldn't say that I love being a boy mom, but I love my sons. I'm not disappointed, but I am curious as to how I would be as a girl mom. I understand why some people wouldn't want to be a boy mom. Boys are rough on you, each other, and things. DH will tell you in a heartbeat that I'm the center of the boys' worlds. Every pretend game of Legos and built empires has me at the center as the ruler, whether that be as a queen or something else. I still get plenty of hugs and kisses.
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2020 10:00     Subject: Re:Any moms with all boys that love it and do not feel disappointed?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have a daughter (pregnant with # 2 and don't know the gender). I love her so much, but was scared when I was told that I was having a girl because I have a horrible relationship with my mother and because I have struggled with an eating disorder and dealt with sexual harassment/assault. Boys are obviously not immune to anything that I've experienced, but the body issues and sexual harassment issues do seem to happen more to women.

I do not know what it is like to navigate the world as a boy/man, but it breaks my heart that my daughter will face scrutiny at a young age for her body from society (even now my family comments on my 12 month old's "chubby thighs" and says things like "X's daughter will be long and lean, because she's in the 15th percentile [at 6 months]..."). It's so sad that actual babies are viewed through the lens of our messed up body standards. These experiences honestly make me hope that # 2 is a boy, but I only know what it's like with a girl and my daughter is amazing. She is incredibly intelligent, curious, sweet, willful, and silly. I'm incredibly grateful to be her mom and I think that most parents must feel that way.

You must be joking about “ messed up body standards”. Most people who view themselves as normal weight in America are actually overweight. Lastly, there are more than 40% of obese people in US and the numbers only keep growing.


Saying "X child will be long and lean because she is in the 15th percentile [for weight]" when said child is 6 months old or commenting negatively about a 12 month old's chubby thighs is messed up to me. I view these comments as stemming from the internalized body issues that the individuals commenting on the children have and I believe that these individuals have these issues, in part, because our culture shames and discriminates against fat people and celebrates thin people (I've been very thin all of my life and I see how I am treated differently from my sister, who is considered fat by most standards). Americans may be more overweight than the populations of other countries, but it doesn't mean that we can't or don't celebrate excessive thinness as a culture. It also doesn't mean that we don't discriminate against people who are considered "fat" and fat shame. This type of scrutiny is typified by the comments that my relatives made about my daughter and another child in my family. I do think that boys receive less scrutiny for the weight or are at least less openly shamed and derided for not meeting particular beauty standards.
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2020 01:08     Subject: Re:Any moms with all boys that love it and do not feel disappointed?
Anonymous wrote:I have a daughter (pregnant with # 2 and don't know the gender). I love her so much, but was scared when I was told that I was having a girl because I have a horrible relationship with my mother and because I have struggled with an eating disorder and dealt with sexual harassment/assault. Boys are obviously not immune to anything that I've experienced, but the body issues and sexual harassment issues do seem to happen more to women.

I do not know what it is like to navigate the world as a boy/man, but it breaks my heart that my daughter will face scrutiny at a young age for her body from society (even now my family comments on my 12 month old's "chubby thighs" and says things like "X's daughter will be long and lean, because she's in the 15th percentile [at 6 months]..."). It's so sad that actual babies are viewed through the lens of our messed up body standards. These experiences honestly make me hope that # 2 is a boy, but I only know what it's like with a girl and my daughter is amazing. She is incredibly intelligent, curious, sweet, willful, and silly. I'm incredibly grateful to be her mom and I think that most parents must feel that way.

You must be joking about “ messed up body standards”. Most people who view themselves as normal weight in America are actually overweight. Lastly, there are more than 40% of obese people in US and the numbers only keep growing.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2020 23:16     Subject: Re:Any moms with all boys that love it and do not feel disappointed?
I do. I'm thankful that I was able to have two healthy children in my 40s with no problems conceiving. I'm glad that they will have an easier life as men. It's a much tougher job to raise girls in today's world and life is still more difficult for women. Pressure to be thin and stay pretty, educated but not too much to outshine your husband, to make $, to be the perfect mom while also working 60 hours/week dealing with misogynistic pigs, pressure to sex up your husband every other night with acrobatics involved. Biological clocks, men who are commitment phobes, judgement for SAH, WOH, breastfeeding, bottle feeding. Women are still experiencing domestic violence, abuse, financial ruin after divorce at significantly higher rates than men do. The world is not getting better for women and I'm glad that my kids will not have to deal with this. I promised myself that I will do my best to raise my boys to be kind, honest, respectful, reliable and hard working men.
This rings so true

https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/women/cynthia-nixon-be-a-lady-video-they-say-girls-magazine-feminism-a9359611.html
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2020 22:51     Subject: Re:Any moms with all boys that love it and do not feel disappointed?
I have a daughter (pregnant with # 2 and don't know the gender). I love her so much, but was scared when I was told that I was having a girl because I have a horrible relationship with my mother and because I have struggled with an eating disorder and dealt with sexual harassment/assault. Boys are obviously not immune to anything that I've experienced, but the body issues and sexual harassment issues do seem to happen more to women.

I do not know what it is like to navigate the world as a boy/man, but it breaks my heart that my daughter will face scrutiny at a young age for her body from society (even now my family comments on my 12 month old's "chubby thighs" and says things like "X's daughter will be long and lean, because she's in the 15th percentile [at 6 months]..."). It's so sad that actual babies are viewed through the lens of our messed up body standards. These experiences honestly make me hope that # 2 is a boy, but I only know what it's like with a girl and my daughter is amazing. She is incredibly intelligent, curious, sweet, willful, and silly. I'm incredibly grateful to be her mom and I think that most parents must feel that way.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2020 19:25     Subject: Any moms with all boys that love it and do not feel disappointed?
Love my boys. Girls so much more trouble.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2020 18:53     Subject: Any moms with all boys that love it and do not feel disappointed?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I only have a son and am so thankful I feel I’d worry more about girls, like added risks to be a woman in this day and age




Fair point.


It’s always been pretty dicey time be a woman. Frankly there’s never been a better time to be a woman. I worry about someone doing something to my daughter and I worry about my son doing something to himself (I.e. diving in shallow water, driving too fast or any of the myriad dumb ass decisions boys tend to make).
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2020 21:56     Subject: Any moms with all boys that love it and do not feel disappointed?
Anonymous wrote:I only have a son and am so thankful I feel I’d worry more about girls, like added risks to be a woman in this day and age




Fair point.