Anonymous
Post 07/08/2020 19:22     Subject: When teen says something that is really damaging to relationship
Anonymous wrote:Op, just curious has he told you several times not to touch him? My mom would always touch me even when she knew I didn't enjoy it. And when I would ask her to stop the waterworks would start to guilt me "because she's my mom and how much I must dislike her if I don't want her to touch me". There were times I blew up because I was so sick of her disrespecting my wish not to be touched.

I had a very similar experience
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2020 19:20     Subject: When teen says something that is really damaging to relationship
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Some people touch more than others, apparently. I think touching is as important as eating a healthy diet and getting exercise when it comes to getting what you need to be happy in life. 12 hugs per day is optimum. Teenagers, unless they have a boyfriend or girlfriend, are in limbo. I occasionally hug my oldest even if he doesn't want me to because too bad, it's healthy. I wouldn't want my kids entering life feeling like touching was weird and made them uncomfortable. That would be sad.


https://www.healthline.com/health/hugging-benefits

Wow. You are awfully controlling and presumptuous.


Huh? How so?
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2020 18:50     Subject: When teen says something that is really damaging to relationship
Hopefully you have both learned some things from this

1. DS has learned the severity of yelling sexual abuse and has learned to speak up "mom please don't do that"
2. You have learned to ask your son before touching him. And that you should also respect when your son says not to touch him "I'm sorry for swatting your leg" instwad of "I was just swatting your leg because there was a bug. It's not a big deal"
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2020 18:48     Subject: When teen says something that is really damaging to relationship
Anonymous wrote:Some people touch more than others, apparently. I think touching is as important as eating a healthy diet and getting exercise when it comes to getting what you need to be happy in life. 12 hugs per day is optimum. Teenagers, unless they have a boyfriend or girlfriend, are in limbo. I occasionally hug my oldest even if he doesn't want me to because too bad, it's healthy. I wouldn't want my kids entering life feeling like touching was weird and made them uncomfortable. That would be sad.


https://www.healthline.com/health/hugging-benefits

Wow. You are awfully controlling and presumptuous.
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2020 18:33     Subject: When teen says something that is really damaging to relationship
Anonymous wrote:Wow, you need to get a grip. You completely overreacted and whatever weirdness is now occurring is 100% your fault.

I mean, really? You up and left the family camping trip?

Jesus.


+1
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2020 18:29     Subject: When teen says something that is really damaging to relationship
Some people touch more than others, apparently. I think touching is as important as eating a healthy diet and getting exercise when it comes to getting what you need to be happy in life. 12 hugs per day is optimum. Teenagers, unless they have a boyfriend or girlfriend, are in limbo. I occasionally hug my oldest even if he doesn't want me to because too bad, it's healthy. I wouldn't want my kids entering life feeling like touching was weird and made them uncomfortable. That would be sad.


https://www.healthline.com/health/hugging-benefits
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2020 18:22     Subject: When teen says something that is really damaging to relationship
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is why so many of the school programs about these things are stupid. I've heard my DC say that if they don't go to the doctor it's criminal neglect. Sorry, I decide when they go to the doctor, not my DC. I think it's good they're trying, but it needs to be re-thought out.

If that had happened to me I would have educated my DC right then and there that he was being ridiculous and hadn't gotten the point of the lesson at school.


Umm your child’s education should not only be left to the teachers. You can teach your child too you know


That's exactly what I wrote in the post you responded to.
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2020 18:17     Subject: When teen says something that is really damaging to relationship
I wouldn't take him to school
Let his father. Your son owes you an apology that is real
What a jerk.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2020 18:09     Subject: When teen says something that is really damaging to relationship
Oops, just read you talked it through.

Yah!