Anonymous wrote:I’m leaving the program because I refuse to keep trying to win a losing battle with a mother who keeps putting up obstacles for me. Her mom asked for my help getting her last jobless heroin addict live-in boyfriend out and I did. Which was months of a stressful s***show getting my friends/police involved, getting her legal paperwork needed, court dates, her sending pics of vandalism/destruction, text threats of burning her house down after he got eviction notice!

I know I don’t have a chance in hell making a difference in this child’s life now. Getting her to college and keeping her from getting pregnant by the time she’s 16 has been my #1 goal. But I also need to take care of my safety and my family. I’m extremely uncomfortable with the fact that this new family member and his crowd/lifestyle will end up at my home whether it’s dropping her off, bday parties I give her etc. Like my parents said, “you can rescue 3 sweet pit bulls and hope none will ever hurt your child but is that a risk you should take? Live by the odds not your heart”. I know 100% if I posted on here I was a victim of a crime given these circumstances everyone would jump down my throat and blame me! “What were you thinking would happen, you’re not very bright lady, you deserved it for being so ignorant” etc.... I would not have one person feel sorry for me and would be complete victim blame!

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Anonymous wrote:Didn't you get training in non-judgmental interactions before volunteering? Your conversations are not at all appropriate. I'm also surprised that letting the girl sleep over is allowed.

Yes we are trained to look for abuse and potentially abusive situations. I feel this is a potential situation 100%! It’s just a matter of time. As far as sleep overs the mom would happily let her stay with me 90% of the time! She even wanted to name me as the child’s Legal guardian if something happened to her.

Your manager, if s/he were a mandated reporter and trusted you, would have to report it as you have suspicions of abuse. Right? Is s/he not a mandated reporter? If not, what kind of program is this? And why aren't you mandated? What is your degree in?

A formerly incarcerated person is considered to have paid their debt to society. For you to judge a "potential situation" on past criminal status is wrong.

The mother wanted to name you as guardian in her will. What's the status of that?

This is one of the dumbest statements I’ve ever read on here.

Anonymous wrote:There's nothing you can do OP. This story is repeated 1000s of times around the country: Birth Mom and Birth Father have no personal agency and feel entitled to entitlements.

All my district attorney friends and social worker friends see this all the time, despite all the welfare, handouts, special programs, and mentors like you provided.

The 14 yo girl needs other role models and to GTFO of there once 18.

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Anonymous wrote:Didn't you get training in non-judgmental interactions before volunteering? Your conversations are not at all appropriate. I'm also surprised that letting the girl sleep over is allowed.

Yes we are trained to look for abuse and potentially abusive situations. I feel this is a potential situation 100%! It’s just a matter of time. As far as sleep overs the mom would happily let her stay with me 90% of the time! She even wanted to name me as the child’s Legal guardian if something happened to her.

Your manager, if s/he were a mandated reporter and trusted you, would have to report it as you have suspicions of abuse. Right? Is s/he not a mandated reporter? If not, what kind of program is this? And why aren't you mandated? What is your degree in?

A formerly incarcerated person is considered to have paid their debt to society. For you to judge a "potential situation" on past criminal status is wrong.

The mother wanted to name you as guardian in her will. What's the status of that?