Anonymous wrote:I am in an interracial marriage (wife is Indian, and I'm a white guy), and as our DC have gotten older more parents have gotten divorced. We were recently talking and noticed how it has been almost all white couples who have gotten separated or divorced and almost none of the couples of color or interracial couples. We've been at a pretty diverse private school since kindergarten where it's about 50/50 so it's not necessarily because of a lack of representation. Any thoughts?
It's not so much about race as it is about cross-cultural. I think that in UMC and higher classes, people who marry cross-culture, often do a bit more work beforehand in talking about cultural differences and trying to work out if they agree about many values (children, money, family, etc). A lot more of the relationships that are likely to fail, fail before the wedding takes place, rather than afterwards. And that rules out a large percentage of marriages. It has been shown that the largest single reason for divorce is a difference about money, saving, and spending. In cross-cultural relationships, a lot more discuss this, often with prenuptials before they get married. If they can't agree on money issues, they often don't get married.
I've noticed that American-born minorities have divorce rates closer to non-mixed marriages, so it is more likely about whether the minorities are American-born or not as to whether they are more likely to discuss money or children (another major cause of divorce) before getting married.