Anonymous wrote:If the difference is this doofus getting home at 5 or at 7, what exactly would a sitter accomplish for kids past the baby/toddler stage during those oh so crucial two hours?

Taking the supervision of the kids off her hands to give her a mental and physical break for a reliable period each day. A sitter can play board games or take the kids in a hike while mom reads, makes dinner quietly or goes on a solo walk.

And look if your husband is already exposing himself to covid in the work place, you might as well consider hiring a teenager nearby to help Mom
out, and yes that would even be in a pandemic.

If the difference is this doofus getting home at 5 or at 7, what exactly would a sitter accomplish for kids past the baby/toddler stage during those oh so crucial two hours?

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Anonymous wrote:
What kind of a moron is suggesting hiring a babysitter during a PANDEMIC???

I thought that was odd.

I also think that the very prevalent idea that there are tons of people hanging out who want to pick up a two hour babysitting job in the middle of the day is kind of off. I tend to think the people suggesting this have no experience with actually hiring a babysitter.

While I agree with both of you that I would never do this, SO MANY PEOPLE ARE! Also, there are lots of high school and college students who lost their summer jobs, so I imagine a sitter wouldn't be hard to find. I just can't imagine doing this now, but the idea is everywhere and multiple people have posted that this is their plan.

Anonymous wrote:
What kind of a moron is suggesting hiring a babysitter during a PANDEMIC???

I thought that was odd.

I also think that the very prevalent idea that there are tons of people hanging out who want to pick up a two hour babysitting job in the middle of the day is kind of off. I tend to think the people suggesting this have no experience with actually hiring a babysitter.

OP presented this like the dad is never around but she is an unrealiable narrator now that it turns out he is home by 7 each evening with kids well past the toddler stage.

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Anonymous wrote:Let him take it, but you get time to yourself every weekend while he catches up on dad time.

The Disney dad dynamic is not good for anyone. She does all the work, discipline, teaching, meals, house maintenance Mon-Fri and he can swing in for two days of good off time?

The only thing here that ends on weekends is teaching. All that other stuff still occurs Saturdays and Sundays.

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Anonymous wrote:7pm isn’t that late for a full time worker.

+1. Especially not a lawyer.

+2. It's really not, nor is it a big deal.

Anonymous wrote:Let him take it, but you get time to yourself every weekend while he catches up on dad time.

The Disney dad dynamic is not good for anyone. She does all the work, discipline, teaching, meals, house maintenance Mon-Fri and he can swing in for two days of good off time?

Yes, I would discuss the impact on you. If he really wants to take this opportunity , what can he do to alleviate the workload on you? As a team lead would there be any flexibility in the work hours including working from home one day a week, going in earlier so he can be off on Fridays etc? If they really want him that much, he may be able to negotiate a small concession with schedule. With childcare constraints he may not be the only one at his job with challenges working a 9-7 schedule.

If there is really zero flexibility in schedule, what would he suggest? How will this work when you go back in the fall if it is a hybrid model, if the kids are remote, and if they are in person? Presumably he is making s commitment to the team that has to work no matter what your schedule and the kids schedule is in the fall so I would look at several scenarios.

What kind of a moron is suggesting hiring a babysitter during a PANDEMIC???

Anonymous wrote:7pm isn’t that late for a full time worker.

+1. Especially not a lawyer.

7pm isn’t that late for a full time worker.

People are being mean. I think it is important to talk about it as a team and discuss impact and action plan. So the spouse opinion matters. I don’t think either person should have complete unilateral decision making.

But, I think you can make it work. I would define some clear times for yourself - he cooks batch meals over the weekend so you don’t have to cook. He takes the kids sat and sun until 11:30am. Movie night every Friday.

Curious if the 9-7 is with commute? Or does he stop at 7 and have a 90 min drive home?

You are not at all being selfish. I think it is very reasonable to voice your concerns.

Let him take it, but you get time to yourself every weekend while he catches up on dad time.