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Anonymous wrote:Substance addiction is one of the reasons why many people I know are reluctant to bequeath to their children. They know the money will be wasted and if DIL is married to such an idiotic man, she can’t be trusted to manage money for the kids either.

Unfortunately, this is probably the case. If OP's DH can't be bothered to pay for rehab on his own, he's not serious about getting sober.

OP, you need to worry less about inheritance and more about going to Al-Anon.

OP here. DH acknowledges that he has a problem. He’s had health problems as a result of his drinking, not to mention the legal troubles because he does stupid things like going out and walking drunk. I am upset because FIL verbally assured me that there would be something for our children and it turns out the only asset left to them through DH is the property. The property is out of state and not worth a lot. It just seems unbalanced that FIL’s wife gets much more than his son.

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Anonymous wrote:Substance addiction is one of the reasons why many people I know are reluctant to bequeath to their children. They know the money will be wasted and if DIL is married to such an idiotic man, she can’t be trusted to manage money for the kids either.

Unfortunately, this is probably the case. If OP's DH can't be bothered to pay for rehab on his own, he's not serious about getting sober.

OP, you need to worry less about inheritance and more about going to Al-Anon.

Anonymous wrote:Substance addiction is one of the reasons why many people I know are reluctant to bequeath to their children. They know the money will be wasted and if DIL is married to such an idiotic man, she can’t be trusted to manage money for the kids either.

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Anonymous wrote:Your drunk husband is an idiot. No one is owed an inheritance and anyone who plans their life around it could be on a fools mission.

+1

People like OP - I really hope the MIL they hate so much, but are banking on, leaves all their money to charity.

Anonymous wrote:Many years ago, I asked about their inheritance and FIL told me over the phone that they’ll be taken care of. However, we’ve learned that this hasn’t been the case and majority of FIL’s assets were assigned to his much younger wife as the beneficiary. I finally asked her about giving money for our children and she said she would not give us any because DH (FIL’s son) forfeited his inheritance in a series of angry text messages sent to FIL. I’ve seen the screenshots and it’s true DH texted some really nasty things to his dad and even called FIL’s wife a name but he was drunk and didn’t mean it. DH is inheriting a smaller property but that is it. Can we take FIL’s wife to court? Are these texts admissible to begin with?

Anonymous wrote:Your drunk husband is an idiot. No one is owed an inheritance and anyone who plans their life around it could be on a fools mission.

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Anonymous wrote:You asked someone on the phone if your kids are going to get money?

OP, that is trashy.

OP here. We live in a different state from FIL and his wife so of course, the only communication has been to call her. I am only looking out for FIL ‘s grandchildren. And I don’t think it’s wrong to want to pay for DH to go to rehab if it treats his alcohol problem and improves the overall well-being of our family. He is FIL’s son after all.

You need to stop looking at your step MIL's money as if it is yours. It isn't. FIL left that money to his wife and you need to get over it.

If you can not afford your lifestyle you will need to make some changes. Downsize, the sooner the better. College is expensive and it sounds as though you've got some catch up to do. Maybe a second job?

Anonymous wrote:How is it stealing when it is for their dad?

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Anonymous wrote:You asked someone on the phone if your kids are going to get money?

OP, that is trashy.

OP here. We live in a different state from FIL and his wife so of course, the only communication has been to call her. I am only looking out for FIL ‘s grandchildren. And I don’t think it’s wrong to want to pay for DH to go to rehab if it treats his alcohol problem and improves the overall well-being of our family. He is FIL’s son after all.