Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 14:20     Subject: Puppy indirectly injured me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What would you do if your DD had caused the freak accident? You'd get therapy, I hope. Talk to your therapist about your resentment.


Yep. OP should rehome her daughter while she’s at it - you know, just in case.


You people are insane! It’s a DOG!!!!

OP, you should rehire it and not feel an ounce of guilt. You matter. This dog obsession by the PPs is not healthy. You have negative memories with the dog, don’t sentence yourself to 15 years of drudgery taking care of it. Find it a new home. Your daughter will be fine.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 14:15     Subject: Puppy indirectly injured me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP you sound like a control freak. Stop blaming the puppy. You can equally be at blame for not putting a puppy somewhere safe while you were carrying things on the stairs or not holding on or whatever. You sound like one of those people who never take responsibility. I feel sorry for you daughter.


OP here. How is this any different than getting rear-ended at a stop light? Would you blame the person who got rear-ended for driving a car that day and being in the wrong place at the wrong time?

I was walking down the stairs holding some laundry, and I thought the puppy was not around. It seemed safe at the time to walk down the stairs. I wasn't able to hold the hand rail because I was carrying the laundry. Sometimes you can't hold the hand rail if you have something in both hands.

Since that incident, whenever I am walking down the stairs I make sure I know where the puppy is, and I always hold the hand rail.

That doesn't change the fact that I now have a life-long, permanent injury that bothers me every day. I'm in an online support group for this condition, and that helps a lot. They're the only ones who understand what I'm going through. I have some resentment toward the puppy but mostly I just regret adopting the puppy in the first place. It probably would have been better not to get another dog after our elderly dog died this past fall.



Because one injury was caused by a person who has free will and independent reasoning, and yours was "caused" by a dog. But really, your own carelessness.

JFC, OP.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 14:15     Subject: Puppy indirectly injured me
Anonymous wrote:How do you have a puppy, carry something that blocks your vision / makes it unable to hold the handrail, and NOT check to see where the puppy is before you start down the stairs? I'm glad you were injured and not the puppy.


My God, what is wrong with you?

OP, it's ok to rehome the puppy. I get why it's hard for you to move past the accident with this constant reminder and it sounds as if this just isn't the right fit for your family and your older dog anyway (and therefore for the puppy either). There is no reason rehoming it now to a good home will traumatize the puppy. And yes, your daughter will be sad, which sucks and I'm not minimizing that, but life is full of partings. My parents put my kitten to sleep when I was little because it had a medical issue they couldn't afford to pay to have fixed and determined with the vet it was the best course of action, and I was really upset about that for a long time. But I didn't hate them, I got over it, and as I grew up I also understood why they made the choices they did, and also that it was actually best for the kitten too. And rehoming is much better than euthanization!
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 14:08     Subject: Puppy indirectly injured me

You sound really weird circling around your injury and blathering on instead of saying:

I don’t like our puppy but feel bad rehoming him.
He made me fall down the stairs and I permanently displaced a testicle.
He’s not as well-behaved as all the other puppies I’ve had.

Rehome him, OP. It’s clear you can’t handle him.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 13:59     Subject: Puppy indirectly injured me
OP, what on earth was this injury???
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 13:47     Subject: Puppy indirectly injured me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
It’s a dog. Get rid of it.

+1

I can't see why you're making such an epic drama out of this.

I wouldn't hold it against the puppy but you do, so move on. Your 5 year old daughter may be upset at first but I'm sure she'll get over it.


The 5 year old will probably hold it against her mom for the rest of her life. In a couple decades, she'll post about her terrible mother who got rid of her beloved puppy during the pandemic and posters will tell her to get over herself.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 13:47     Subject: Puppy indirectly injured me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do the puppy a huge favor and rehome it. It deserves so much better.


But she still needs to learn how to deal with unplanned accidents, difficulties, disappointments etc. Her daughter is young. Things can't all be controlled. I am a control freak and have needed to work on this myself. I have young adult children, been married over 30 years, life happens and you have to learn to let go, pick your battles.


DP
Frankly, I'm worried about the puppy. I am someone who has pushed for it to be rehomed. I think it will eventually not be with the OP, one way or the other, and that will be even more traumatic for the daughter, not to mention the puppy.


Her daughter, on only child, is “super attached” to the puppy, already coping with the loss of a previous dog, and possibly coping with other significant losses as well due to life with covid. Not that this should rule out rehiring the dog, but it may be a significant, even possibly traumatic event for the daughter. And, as you point out, the puppy. I don’t get making this decision without at least exploring it in therapy first. And that might include exploring why she hasn’t explored these issues in therapy.


Sorry for the typos and autocorrects. The worst one is: re-homing, Not rehiring.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 13:44     Subject: Puppy indirectly injured me
Anonymous wrote:
It’s a dog. Get rid of it.

+1

I can't see why you're making such an epic drama out of this.

I wouldn't hold it against the puppy but you do, so move on. Your 5 year old daughter may be upset at first but I'm sure she'll get over it.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 13:44     Subject: Puppy indirectly injured me
Are you always so difficult OP?

"Return the dog" op lists reasons why she won't

"Keep the dog" op lists all the ways she's resentful and how her life is changed forever

Op just wants to complain and have people give her attention. Makes me wonder how "life altering and permanent" this injury actually is
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 13:43     Subject: Puppy indirectly injured me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do the puppy a huge favor and rehome it. It deserves so much better.


But she still needs to learn how to deal with unplanned accidents, difficulties, disappointments etc. Her daughter is young. Things can't all be controlled. I am a control freak and have needed to work on this myself. I have young adult children, been married over 30 years, life happens and you have to learn to let go, pick your battles.


DP
Frankly, I'm worried about the puppy. I am someone who has pushed for it to be rehomed. I think it will eventually not be with the OP, one way or the other, and that will be even more traumatic for the daughter, not to mention the puppy.


pp here, I agree unfortunately, rehoming probably is best, and soon so someone else can work on training while it's still young!! Neglected puppies develop more bad behaviors and it gets harder to rehome. (I'm also concerned about the bigger picture, beyond this puppy.)
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 13:41     Subject: Puppy indirectly injured me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do the puppy a huge favor and rehome it. It deserves so much better.


But she still needs to learn how to deal with unplanned accidents, difficulties, disappointments etc. Her daughter is young. Things can't all be controlled. I am a control freak and have needed to work on this myself. I have young adult children, been married over 30 years, life happens and you have to learn to let go, pick your battles.


DP
Frankly, I'm worried about the puppy. I am someone who has pushed for it to be rehomed. I think it will eventually not be with the OP, one way or the other, and that will be even more traumatic for the daughter, not to mention the puppy.


Her daughter, on only child, is “super attached” to the puppy, already coping with the loss of a previous dog, and possibly coping with other significant losses as well due to life with covid. Not that this should rule out rehiring the dog, but it may be a significant, even possibly traumatic event for the daughter. And, as you point out, the puppy. I don’t get making this decision without at least exploring it in therapy first. And that might include exploring why she hasn’t explored these issues in therapy.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 13:38     Subject: Puppy indirectly injured me
How do you have a puppy, carry something that blocks your vision / makes it unable to hold the handrail, and NOT check to see where the puppy is before you start down the stairs? I'm glad you were injured and not the puppy.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 13:34     Subject: Puppy indirectly injured me
Sorry, OP. Return the dog. It’s okay to find it hard to move past the injury.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 13:34     Subject: Puppy indirectly injured me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do the puppy a huge favor and rehome it. It deserves so much better.


But she still needs to learn how to deal with unplanned accidents, difficulties, disappointments etc. Her daughter is young. Things can't all be controlled. I am a control freak and have needed to work on this myself. I have young adult children, been married over 30 years, life happens and you have to learn to let go, pick your battles.


DP
Frankly, I'm worried about the puppy. I am someone who has pushed for it to be rehomed. I think it will eventually not be with the OP, one way or the other, and that will be even more traumatic for the daughter, not to mention the puppy.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2020 13:19     Subject: Puppy indirectly injured me
Anonymous wrote:Do the puppy a huge favor and rehome it. It deserves so much better.


But she still needs to learn how to deal with unplanned accidents, difficulties, disappointments etc. Her daughter is young. Things can't all be controlled. I am a control freak and have needed to work on this myself. I have young adult children, been married over 30 years, life happens and you have to learn to let go, pick your battles.