Anonymous
Post 04/18/2020 12:42     Subject: Anyone else nearing the end of their rope?
Anonymous wrote:I have 4, including 9 mo twins. I do HR from home which is crazy busy right now and DH is furloughed as hotel manager. My job needs me like crazy but DH and I map out shifts, I decompress for 5 minutes. I take a walk around my back yard and go back in, breastfeed the twins while on a zoom with video off and get back to business. Between zooms, I plan 30/minute sessions of fun or teaching with the two older ones and the twins. We are very tired but happy. I am alive and well. I have a job
My kids are healthy. I have no help, my family are all deceased and I am truly alone with no options for nannies and whatever. What do you think women did during the Little House on the Prairie days?They made it work and so can you.


I reached the limit about 2 weeks ago, when I had no down time but everyone was having time to chill, watch TV and work out. Given that I’m thankfully still working but putting in longer hours, I just pulled out a calendar and said: “the amount of work in the house has increased with everyone at home. This is what I can do. But the rest needs to be split up.” More importantly, I’m not the enforcer of the chore list, which is helpful.
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2020 12:16     Subject: Anyone else nearing the end of their rope?
Anonymous wrote:I have 4, including 9 mo twins. I do HR from home which is crazy busy right now and DH is furloughed as hotel manager. My job needs me like crazy but DH and I map out shifts, I decompress for 5 minutes. I take a walk around my back yard and go back in, breastfeed the twins while on a zoom with video off and get back to business. Between zooms, I plan 30/minute sessions of fun or teaching with the two older ones and the twins. We are very tired but happy. I am alive and well. I have a job
My kids are healthy. I have no help, my family are all deceased and I am truly alone with no options for nannies and whatever. What do you think women did during the Little House on the Prairie days?They made it work and so can you.


Will it? Unfortunately, it wont work.. for some. Please, we don’t need your righteous judgements or as someone called it.. winning the olympics of suffering.
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2020 02:10     Subject: Anyone else nearing the end of their rope?
I have 4, including 9 mo twins. I do HR from home which is crazy busy right now and DH is furloughed as hotel manager. My job needs me like crazy but DH and I map out shifts, I decompress for 5 minutes. I take a walk around my back yard and go back in, breastfeed the twins while on a zoom with video off and get back to business. Between zooms, I plan 30/minute sessions of fun or teaching with the two older ones and the twins. We are very tired but happy. I am alive and well. I have a job
My kids are healthy. I have no help, my family are all deceased and I am truly alone with no options for nannies and whatever. What do you think women did during the Little House on the Prairie days?They made it work and so can you.
Anonymous
Post 04/17/2020 15:21     Subject: Anyone else nearing the end of their rope?
I'm so sorry. This whole thing has been a disaster for everyone - women in particular. You aren't the first woman I've heard say "my husband's on work calls all day...business as usual" while they are juggling the kids, the schooling, their jobs, the house, the groceries, the cooking and everything else. THIS IS NOT FAIR. The parents who are making it sort of work are doing two hour shifts. None of this business as usual crap. RAISE A RUCKUS, LADIES!!!!!
Anonymous
Post 04/17/2020 15:07     Subject: Anyone else nearing the end of their rope?
SAHM and it is hard for me too. I don’t think this is easy for anyone. It is hard to entertain a 3 yr old all day without leaving the house and also homeschool older children while entertaining 3 yr old, and do the constant cooking and cleaning. The isolation and monotony gets to all of us, I think.
Anonymous
Post 04/17/2020 14:58     Subject: Anyone else nearing the end of their rope?
Take a leave of absence. It will still suck, but at least you won't be about to jump off the deep end.

Or it's time to use leave, if you have it. You take 2 weeks, then DH takes 2 weeks. But yes, with those ages I can totally understand how it's impossible to get anything besides child care done.
Anonymous
Post 04/17/2020 14:55     Subject: Anyone else nearing the end of their rope?
OP do you have a spare room? I would tell your nanny you can afford to keep paying her if she comes and lives in with her kid. If she would be amenable to that at least. I considered it then just let our nanny come
Anonymous
Post 04/17/2020 14:51     Subject: Anyone else nearing the end of their rope?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Hire a nanny. Use essential childcare. More people are doing it than you think.


We have a full time nanny normally - however she has a 10 year old son who has no school (single parent) so she has been home with him. We are still paying her full time so really cannot afford to hire someone else too.


have your nanny bring her kid to your house.
Anonymous
Post 04/17/2020 09:29     Subject: Re:Anyone else nearing the end of their rope?
I would talk to your husband and let him know you need his help. This is a crazy time and his job should understand that this is not business as usual at his house. He needs to be helping with the kids during the day. Or he has to be solely responsible for dinner and all night time care so you can have a break and time to work. You seem to accept that it is ok for your work to suffer but not your husbands.

You are partners in raising your kids, DH needs to find a way to pull more weight in the house.
Anonymous
Post 04/17/2020 09:12     Subject: Anyone else nearing the end of their rope?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Hire a nanny. Use essential childcare. More people are doing it than you think.


We have a full time nanny normally - however she has a 10 year old son who has no school (single parent) so she has been home with him. We are still paying her full time so really cannot afford to hire someone else too.


Why are you not using your Nanny? Have her come over with her son and do her job.


Her husband is an essential worker so it’s not worth the risk to us.


You have a nanny. You are paying her. You are telling her to not come. Then please don’t complain. Seriously. We can’t help you. And some of us have it worse. And we don’t have a nanny who we are telling to stay home.


Ok, so anyone who is doing the right thing but not having their nanny or their maid come shouldn't be allowed to complain? Got it. You win gold in the misery Olympics then, congratulations.
Anonymous
Post 04/17/2020 00:36     Subject: Anyone else nearing the end of their rope?
Some of you are really awful.

OP, I think it's really nice that you're still paying your nanny during this time. With that said, I was also wondering like other posters if nanny coming with 10 year old could be an option but with your follow up that nanny's spouse is an essential worker, completely understand being cautious about having nanny and child come.
As much as it sucks, if you really need care, consider hiring someone part-time (so many nannies and sitters have been let go and without being compensated like you are) and decreasing your nanny's pay.