Anonymous wrote:OP here

It’s not that I’m writing checks at stores haha. It’s only to myself out of our joint acct that only my DH deposits into.

If it is a joint account and your name is on it along with your husbands, even if he is only one putting money into it, you have access to it. What about that do you not understand.

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Anonymous wrote:Where did all the money from your bank account go?

Stuff

So how much more "stuff" do you need?
He's probably ticked you're wasting money on (more) frivolous stuff regardless of whether or not you/he has a 6-figure income. Rich people are rich b/c they keep their spending in check.

Oh please! It has nothing to do with that. Like I said, it’s because he likes to see where the money is going plain and simple.

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Anonymous wrote:Where did all the money from your bank account go?

Stuff

So how much more "stuff" do you need?
He's probably ticked you're wasting money on (more) frivolous stuff regardless of whether or not you/he has a 6-figure income. Rich people are rich b/c they keep their spending in check.

Anonymous wrote:Op, you kind of sound like a gold digger. This control over money comes with the territory

Whatever. I asked my DH which wife of ALL our friends in the same situation as us would he consider not a gold digger. He couldn’t name one! So basically ANY woman who marries a man with money is considered a gold digger no matter what. But remember men with money use it to get women right!?

Anonymous wrote:Where did all the money from your bank account go?

Stuff

Op, you kind of sound like a gold digger. This control over money comes with the territory

Where did all the money from your bank account go?

Anonymous wrote:Sell one of your luxury vehicles. Call CarMax to make an appointment.

Omg he would totally divorce me if I did that trust me! Knowing that I have 6 figures cash in my name would send him into a panic! I really think like one commenter said, he doesn’t trust me. And by keeping me financially dependent on him makes him feel better and more secure. Even though I did insist all vehicles purchased for had to be in my name ONLY. I know I know it’s weird!

OP here

It’s not that I’m writing checks at stores haha. It’s only to myself out of our joint acct that only my DH deposits into.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s a joint account; don’t you know the password? Is the account joint in ownership, but your husband is the only one putting money into it?

Yep! Kind of like all the credit cards too.

I don't understand OP. How did you pay for things back before you got laid off? I'm assuming credit card or debit card, no?

Are you trying to say your husband gives you an allowance if you're working, but now that you're out of work you're denied?

Please explain. It's like playing 20 questions with you and you reply with vague dubious answers

I use credit cards, he is account holder. Using the credit cards gives him the ability to see every single little thing I buy which is annoying at times. He doesn’t bother me too much about purchases but the few times a year he does is enough to make me feel insecure and angry. I know 100% he loves this control over me and would prefer I didn’t work at all! So writing a check from our joint acct to myself and depositing it into my own separate bank acct infuriates him because then he can’t see what I’m buying. It’s not about the money. It’s about control. Get it?

I am in my early 60's (not OP) and I still write checks.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is a troll. No one "asks for a check" from their dh any more. Sounds like it may have been written in the 90s at the earliest, or some senior citizen is amusing themselves by writing dcum fan fiction. I'm in my 50s and OP sounds like a geezer. Try again.

Who writes a check?!

No way this post real

I am in my early 40’s and I write checks.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s a joint account; don’t you know the password? Is the account joint in ownership, but your husband is the only one putting money into it?

Yep! Kind of like all the credit cards too.

I don't understand OP. How did you pay for things back before you got laid off? I'm assuming credit card or debit card, no?

Are you trying to say your husband gives you an allowance if you're working, but now that you're out of work you're denied?

Please explain. It's like playing 20 questions with you and you reply with vague dubious answers

Anonymous wrote:It’s a joint account; don’t you know the password? Is the account joint in ownership, but your husband is the only one putting money into it?

Yep! Kind of like all the credit cards too.

It’s a joint account; don’t you know the password? Is the account joint in ownership, but your husband is the only one putting money into it?