Anonymous
Post 03/09/2020 23:09     Subject: DH doesn't want me to cut my hair.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When you’re approached from behind and the person says, “Excuse me sir”, you’ll never cut your hair short again. Have seen this way too many times and the women are not the “butchy” type.


Np. See that wouldnt stop me at all. Who cares that a stranger would think I am a guy! Have to pretty blind to miss the breasts though.

No thank you sir... Enjoy
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2020 21:11     Subject: DH doesn't want me to cut my hair.
Married 21 years here. Happily married. Of course it's your hair and you can do what you want, we all know or should know that. But there is a reality of taking your partner's opinion into consideration.

I think "men want what they married." (and so do women). My DH loved my long 80s tight-curl perm and Shades EQ purple tint. He actually thought my hair was my real color, ha ha!

Anyways first I lost the magenta look, then over the years, I kept the 80s perm look for him, but finally stopped perming, and although he didn't complain, I know that was tough on him. But my real hair is stick straight and I was just done with it.

Then a few years ago I decided I was going to go natural, which by now is salt and pepper. He really struggled with that, especially when it was only 1/2 grown out (because it really looked bad when 1/2 grown out!)

I've left it long because I want to compromise with at least some of what he liked when he married me. And I look good with straight, super-shiny long salt and pepper with a little white streak hair!

So I like the bra strap length idea for you, OP. I think it's nice that you are taking your DH into consideration.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2020 20:46     Subject: Re:DH doesn't want me to cut my hair.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A DH here. He's afraid this is step one toward the Karen-cut.


Maybe you could get the " dick" cut for being so ridiculous. We all are going to get old. Why not embrace the karen look. Whatever that means


"Karen" / "call the manager" cuts are awful. Middle aged woman here, just get it cut to your bra strap and see how you like it. You can always go shorter next time if it's still too much.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2020 19:56     Subject: Re:DH doesn't want me to cut my hair.
Anonymous wrote:A DH here. He's afraid this is step one toward the Karen-cut.


Maybe you could get the " dick" cut for being so ridiculous. We all are going to get old. Why not embrace the karen look. Whatever that means
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2020 19:54     Subject: DH doesn't want me to cut my hair.
Anonymous wrote:When you’re approached from behind and the person says, “Excuse me sir”, you’ll never cut your hair short again. Have seen this way too many times and the women are not the “butchy” type.


Np. See that wouldnt stop me at all. Who cares that a stranger would think I am a guy! Have to pretty blind to miss the breasts though.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2020 19:52     Subject: Re:DH doesn't want me to cut my hair.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If it’s hip length, I would cut it in stages. Cut it to your bra strap and see how YOU like it. If it’s still too long/much, do as a PP suggested and do a few inches past the shoulder. For the love of God, do not cut yourself a mom bob after having waist length hair. And realize that shoulder length means you can really only do a low ponytail - no decent higher pony or bun. The shorter you go, the fewer options you have (which, I am guessing, is not what you want with little kids).


+1, a bit longer than shoulder is nicer to pull it up


To be honest I am a bit nervous about cutting it, but it really is becoming too much. I like the gradual cutting suggestions.

To the other pps yes it is my hair and ultimately my decision, but I like to take his opinion into account.


Then why ask us at all? Just do what your dh wants. No skin off our backs.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2020 19:51     Subject: DH doesn't want me to cut my hair.
Hair that long does not look good. Seems like a security blanket. Duggarish. Not in fashion.

Cut it to bra strap
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2020 19:48     Subject: DH doesn't want me to cut my hair.
When you’re approached from behind and the person says, “Excuse me sir”, you’ll never cut your hair short again. Have seen this way too many times and the women are not the “butchy” type.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2020 15:04     Subject: DH doesn't want me to cut my hair.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My wife had some seriously impressive hair (not waist length, but below the bra strap) at various times. When she cut it to shoulder/shoulder blade length, it wasn't as striking, but it still looked pretty good. A different time when she cut it in a bob, it looked terrible. She knows I like long hair. The shoulder blade cut just felt like she was making things more manageable for herself. The bob felt like she didn't give a shit, at all, what I thought.

(I've felt like growing a beard at various times, but she really dislikes facial hair, so I shave 6 days a week because I want her to find me attractive.)


You suuuuuuck


Oh, it looks good on you, though.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2020 14:13     Subject: Re:DH doesn't want me to cut my hair.
I like the idea of getting it cut to roughly your bra strap. That keeps it long enough to pull back. As far as the weight goes, go to someone who knows what their doing and tell them to work in some layers or cut into the shape a bit to take out the poofiness. I have very thick and poofy hair, and thinning shears + texturizing are a godsend.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2020 14:06     Subject: Re:DH doesn't want me to cut my hair.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A DH here. He's afraid this is step one toward the Karen-cut.


Maybe so. However, I haven't seen long hair down to the hip on any woman older than 20 that looks good. Hair that length, especially over 30, looks very much like a Duggar hairstyle. It is aging and out dated on middle aged women and never looks healthy. Hair to your shoulder blades is still long, not a "Karen" cut and will look a million times better.


I respectfully disagree. Every woman is different, hair can be anywhere from over processed to healthy. I can't understand how every single woman over 30 has Duggar hair if it's long. I know many women in their 30's, 40's and beyond who have shoulder length hair that is in great shape and looks flattering. Do you, OP.


Shoulder length, yes. OP has HIP length hair. How many women in their 30s, 40s + do you know with hair down to their hips? I don’t know any personally. Of the ones I’ve seen, that would be the Duggars, Dr Quinn Medicine Woman, actresses in Legends of the Fall and King Arthur, Renaissance Festival patrons..
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2020 14:02     Subject: Re:DH doesn't want me to cut my hair.
My partner wanted shorter hair and I didn't think I'd like it, but I was wrong.
First it wasn't my call (was attached to the long hair look). So I went all in and supported what she wanted.
It looks great and gives her a unique look.
She's much happier which gives her even more confidence and makes it even sexier.
Also it seriously cut down on the time to get ready. Which is bonus to all of it that I hadn't even considered.
In short, haha, it is awesome.