Anonymous wrote:Wow with the fear mongering. To those saying no one should do it — are you reading something I’m not? Care to share a link with us? Because from what I’m reading there is a risk for sure but it is not nearly as bad as you’re making it out to be.

Most of what I’ve read says that COVID positive women who have given birth generally don’t pass it on to the child. The worst case scenarios I’ve read (very severe cases) still resulted in live births and were complicated by other factors — mothers with health problems like obesity, giving birth in the worst-hit hospitals in the Bronx. (Specifically referring to the NYT article which is probably where you’re getting your worst case scenario from)

Of course there are risks, and in a perfect world everyone should wait. But anyone over 35 and/or with fertility issues needs to balance the need to wait up to possibly 18 months before this is over with their own fertility and timeline. Let’s all discuss calmly, shall we?

Have you ever had a respiratory illness while far long in pregnancy? It's very taxing on the body. From personal experience, my temperature approached 104F my resting heart rate was 130 while the baby's was at 160. There are no allowable drugs you can take. They even warn against taking inhalers, etc. I cannot imagine fighting off COVID 19 while pregnant.

Just so we're all on the same page;

https://www.google.com/amp/s/globalnews.ca/news/6794666/coronavirus-newborn-dies-severe-covid-19-case-mom-delivers-early/amp/

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.nytimes.com/2020/04/12/nyregion/coronavirus-births-mothers.amp.html

https://nypost.com/2020/04/07/pregnant-woman-with-coronavirus-dies-during-labor-in-london-hospital/

Wow with the fear mongering. To those saying no one should do it — are you reading something I’m not? Care to share a link with us? Because from what I’m reading there is a risk for sure but it is not nearly as bad as you’re making it out to be.

Most of what I’ve read says that COVID positive women who have given birth generally don’t pass it on to the child. The worst case scenarios I’ve read (very severe cases) still resulted in live births and were complicated by other factors — mothers with health problems like obesity, giving birth in the worst-hit hospitals in the Bronx. (Specifically referring to the NYT article which is probably where you’re getting your worst case scenario from)

Of course there are risks, and in a perfect world everyone should wait. But anyone over 35 and/or with fertility issues needs to balance the need to wait up to possibly 18 months before this is over with their own fertility and timeline. Let’s all discuss calmly, shall we?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not delaying. The earliest I'd need any real prenatal care is 12 weeks from now. I think if we're still doing this in several months, other approaches to delivering care will evolve (e.g., in home visits). By the time I delivered the world will be substantially better than it is now.

I am sorry for those delivering soon - that sounds very stressful

There is no evidence that anything will be better in 9 months and that's assuming you don't catch the virus in the next 9 months while pregnant and end of fighting for your life. Keep in mind pregnant women can take nothing when ill. All the experimental drugs are off the table.

DP who is 40, here. If nothing is going to be better in 9 months then I'm better off taking my chances TTC now. I can't wait forever, and for all I know I'm asymptomatic now. Also, BS to "can take nothing while ill."

I take Covid very seriously, haven't been to a store in 3 weeks. But honestly IMO the bigger reason not to TTC this week is potentially having a Christmas / NYE baby.

You say you take it seriously but are willing to risk your life to continue TTCing. At 40 you are absolutely in the age range that dies from the virus. The added medical appointments put you at risk of contracting it much more than today. It's a choice of course, but one that seems not the best.

Not to mention the potential risk to the baby if you run a fever during this time.

Give it up lady. If the PP wants to continue TTC, that’s no business of yours at all. My husband and I are still trying and feel 100% comfortable with it after speaking with both my OV & fertility dr.

Imagine that after all of this trying you get sick at 4 months pregnant and have a raging fever, land in the hospital alone. The doctors can't assure you that your pregnancy is viable or that the baby won't be born without a permanent disablement. Or how about you are 30+ weeks and land in the hospital facing a premature birth to try to lessen the burden of the baby on your body. You have weeks of visiting the baby in the hospital scared that one of the NICU nurses could bring it in and wipe out the babies in the NICU. These are not far fetched scenarios. You just have to be unlucky and the more people that have it the greater the odds you'd be unlucky.

Ok so you think the women who are 35+ should just keep waiting? That’s just crazy. Some women have age against them and waiting another year can make things even worse.


I’m only 31 but since I have pcos, we have been struggling for years. My fertility treatments are on hold but my fertility dr told me there is no harm in trying on our own which is what we are doing. I get times are “scary” but we want a baby and I don’t see the point in waiting this out as it can literally be over a year of this. Just not worth it in my opinion.

Again, if you aren't there you don't know. I understand that you really want kids. The reality starts to change once you have kids and once you are really invested at 8-9 months and realize your life and your baby's life is at risk when someone sneezes on you.

Anonymous wrote:The people who think this isn’t worth risking - what is worth risking your life for? Because what else is life about?

OP here. I think this grossly oversimplifies the question. In my case, I have an 18 month old. Avoiding risks to my health is a priority first and foremost to try and keep him healthy, and secondly to keep myself healthy so we lessen the risk of him losing a parent. Not to mention dh, our parents, other loved ones and all the doctors on the front line we might compromise by actively choosing to try and conceive and put myself in a situation where I’d need medical attention. I also have other conditions that require seeing three types of doctors regularly through pregnancy to monitor those conditions. Each of those doctors is necessary and is additional exposure for everyone involved.

I am disappointed. It took me awhile to conceive my first, even when I was in my twenties. I had hoped to have my kids relatively close in age, geared up for another long, emotionally difficult ttc period, but could never in my wildest thoughts have imagined this scenario.

I’m also not judging many people who are choosing to continue trying. Especially if age is a big factor, and if this is a first child. I think personally those are the two scenarios I’d probably be on the fence delaying over. Wishing good health & safety to all of you

Anonymous wrote:The people who think this isn’t worth risking - what is worth risking your life for? Because what else is life about?

Is the assumption that no other children are involved? Then sure. But if you have other children, no, not worth risking their lives.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not delaying. The earliest I'd need any real prenatal care is 12 weeks from now. I think if we're still doing this in several months, other approaches to delivering care will evolve (e.g., in home visits). By the time I delivered the world will be substantially better than it is now.

I am sorry for those delivering soon - that sounds very stressful

There is no evidence that anything will be better in 9 months and that's assuming you don't catch the virus in the next 9 months while pregnant and end of fighting for your life. Keep in mind pregnant women can take nothing when ill. All the experimental drugs are off the table.

DP who is 40, here. If nothing is going to be better in 9 months then I'm better off taking my chances TTC now. I can't wait forever, and for all I know I'm asymptomatic now. Also, BS to "can take nothing while ill."

I take Covid very seriously, haven't been to a store in 3 weeks. But honestly IMO the bigger reason not to TTC this week is potentially having a Christmas / NYE baby.

You say you take it seriously but are willing to risk your life to continue TTCing. At 40 you are absolutely in the age range that dies from the virus. The added medical appointments put you at risk of contracting it much more than today. It's a choice of course, but one that seems not the best.

Not to mention the potential risk to the baby if you run a fever during this time.

Give it up lady. If the PP wants to continue TTC, that’s no business of yours at all. My husband and I are still trying and feel 100% comfortable with it after speaking with both my OV & fertility dr.

Imagine that after all of this trying you get sick at 4 months pregnant and have a raging fever, land in the hospital alone. The doctors can't assure you that your pregnancy is viable or that the baby won't be born without a permanent disablement. Or how about you are 30+ weeks and land in the hospital facing a premature birth to try to lessen the burden of the baby on your body. You have weeks of visiting the baby in the hospital scared that one of the NICU nurses could bring it in and wipe out the babies in the NICU. These are not far fetched scenarios. You just have to be unlucky and the more people that have it the greater the odds you'd be unlucky.

Ok so you think the women who are 35+ should just keep waiting? That’s just crazy. Some women have age against them and waiting another year can make things even worse.


I’m only 31 but since I have pcos, we have been struggling for years. My fertility treatments are on hold but my fertility dr told me there is no harm in trying on our own which is what we are doing. I get times are “scary” but we want a baby and I don’t see the point in waiting this out as it can literally be over a year of this. Just not worth it in my opinion.

The people who think this isn’t worth risking - what is worth risking your life for? Because what else is life about?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not delaying. The earliest I'd need any real prenatal care is 12 weeks from now. I think if we're still doing this in several months, other approaches to delivering care will evolve (e.g., in home visits). By the time I delivered the world will be substantially better than it is now.

I am sorry for those delivering soon - that sounds very stressful

There is no evidence that anything will be better in 9 months and that's assuming you don't catch the virus in the next 9 months while pregnant and end of fighting for your life. Keep in mind pregnant women can take nothing when ill. All the experimental drugs are off the table.

DP who is 40, here. If nothing is going to be better in 9 months then I'm better off taking my chances TTC now. I can't wait forever, and for all I know I'm asymptomatic now. Also, BS to "can take nothing while ill."

I take Covid very seriously, haven't been to a store in 3 weeks. But honestly IMO the bigger reason not to TTC this week is potentially having a Christmas / NYE baby.

You say you take it seriously but are willing to risk your life to continue TTCing. At 40 you are absolutely in the age range that dies from the virus. The added medical appointments put you at risk of contracting it much more than today. It's a choice of course, but one that seems not the best.

Not to mention the potential risk to the baby if you run a fever during this time.

Give it up lady. If the PP wants to continue TTC, that’s no business of yours at all. My husband and I are still trying and feel 100% comfortable with it after speaking with both my OV & fertility dr.

Imagine that after all of this trying you get sick at 4 months pregnant and have a raging fever, land in the hospital alone. The doctors can't assure you that your pregnancy is viable or that the baby won't be born without a permanent disablement. Or how about you are 30+ weeks and land in the hospital facing a premature birth to try to lessen the burden of the baby on your body. You have weeks of visiting the baby in the hospital scared that one of the NICU nurses could bring it in and wipe out the babies in the NICU. These are not far fetched scenarios. You just have to be unlucky and the more people that have it the greater the odds you'd be unlucky.

Anonymous wrote:I'd like to know what the "don't try now" folks think the plan is. We'll be dealing with this disease indefinitely, and some experts think it won't be seasonal. We may or may not get a vaccine, ever. But some unknown portion of the population will never have symptoms, so it's not inevitable that you'll get "sick" even when you inevitably get it.

I'm not being snarky, I honestly want to know what factors will make you think it's okay to TTC again. Widespread testing? An effective treatment? Less pressure on hospitals?

I'm 36 weeks pregnant and facing a c-section. It's a very scary prospect considering my first born is a high risk group for dying from COVID. It's also scary that I had a really nasty flu in February that landed me in the hospital. We had discussed trying again in a year or so. No way would I do it if we have no vaccine. I'm not willing to risk my life or my family for another child during a pandemic. It's not the right choice by my family even if I want a child.

I'd like to know what the "don't try now" folks think the plan is. We'll be dealing with this disease indefinitely, and some experts think it won't be seasonal. We may or may not get a vaccine, ever. But some unknown portion of the population will never have symptoms, so it's not inevitable that you'll get "sick" even when you inevitably get it.

I'm not being snarky, I honestly want to know what factors will make you think it's okay to TTC again. Widespread testing? An effective treatment? Less pressure on hospitals?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not delaying. The earliest I'd need any real prenatal care is 12 weeks from now. I think if we're still doing this in several months, other approaches to delivering care will evolve (e.g., in home visits). By the time I delivered the world will be substantially better than it is now.

I am sorry for those delivering soon - that sounds very stressful

There is no evidence that anything will be better in 9 months and that's assuming you don't catch the virus in the next 9 months while pregnant and end of fighting for your life. Keep in mind pregnant women can take nothing when ill. All the experimental drugs are off the table.

DP who is 40, here. If nothing is going to be better in 9 months then I'm better off taking my chances TTC now. I can't wait forever, and for all I know I'm asymptomatic now. Also, BS to "can take nothing while ill."

I take Covid very seriously, haven't been to a store in 3 weeks. But honestly IMO the bigger reason not to TTC this week is potentially having a Christmas / NYE baby.

You say you take it seriously but are willing to risk your life to continue TTCing. At 40 you are absolutely in the age range that dies from the virus. The added medical appointments put you at risk of contracting it much more than today. It's a choice of course, but one that seems not the best.

Not to mention the potential risk to the baby if you run a fever during this time.

Give it up lady. If the PP wants to continue TTC, that’s no business of yours at all. My husband and I are still trying and feel 100% comfortable with it after speaking with both my OV & fertility dr.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not delaying. The earliest I'd need any real prenatal care is 12 weeks from now. I think if we're still doing this in several months, other approaches to delivering care will evolve (e.g., in home visits). By the time I delivered the world will be substantially better than it is now.

I am sorry for those delivering soon - that sounds very stressful

There is no evidence that anything will be better in 9 months and that's assuming you don't catch the virus in the next 9 months while pregnant and end of fighting for your life. Keep in mind pregnant women can take nothing when ill. All the experimental drugs are off the table.

DP who is 40, here. If nothing is going to be better in 9 months then I'm better off taking my chances TTC now. I can't wait forever, and for all I know I'm asymptomatic now. Also, BS to "can take nothing while ill."

I take Covid very seriously, haven't been to a store in 3 weeks. But honestly IMO the bigger reason not to TTC this week is potentially having a Christmas / NYE baby.

You say you take it seriously but are willing to risk your life to continue TTCing. At 40 you are absolutely in the age range that dies from the virus. The added medical appointments put you at risk of contracting it much more than today. It's a choice of course, but one that seems not the best.

Not to mention the potential risk to the baby if you run a fever during this time.

PP, there’s no age range that dies from COVID. Anyone from newborn to 90 year old can. Chill out.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not delaying. The earliest I'd need any real prenatal care is 12 weeks from now. I think if we're still doing this in several months, other approaches to delivering care will evolve (e.g., in home visits). By the time I delivered the world will be substantially better than it is now.

I am sorry for those delivering soon - that sounds very stressful

There is no evidence that anything will be better in 9 months and that's assuming you don't catch the virus in the next 9 months while pregnant and end of fighting for your life. Keep in mind pregnant women can take nothing when ill. All the experimental drugs are off the table.

DP who is 40, here. If nothing is going to be better in 9 months then I'm better off taking my chances TTC now. I can't wait forever, and for all I know I'm asymptomatic now. Also, BS to "can take nothing while ill."

I take Covid very seriously, haven't been to a store in 3 weeks. But honestly IMO the bigger reason not to TTC this week is potentially having a Christmas / NYE baby.

You say you take it seriously but are willing to risk your life to continue TTCing. At 40 you are absolutely in the age range that dies from the virus. The added medical appointments put you at risk of contracting it much more than today. It's a choice of course, but one that seems not the best.