Anonymous
02/22/2020 20:43
Subject: Irish twins/two under two
Anonymous wrote:We are about to have two under 15 months. If you've survived a similar age span, any tips and tricks? Thanks!
Millions of women have survived so what's your problem?
By now, you should know what creates babies--unprotected sex--so why don't you get some industrial strength birth control, your zDH gets snipped, or simply abstain. There is no excuse for getting pregnant with all the birth control options available except laziness!
Anonymous
02/22/2020 18:35
Subject: Irish twins/two under two
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mine are 11.5 months apart. Irish twins. When people with two under two tell me they have Irish twins I’m like yeah nice try.
I feel the same way when people with Irish twins say it’s just as hard as regular twins.
Ehh. I think it would be harder. Two small kids who are at different stages. Plus none of the twin identity weirdness moms of twins have.
+1 Not to mention recovering from two separate childbirth experiences in such a short time frame. Way harder.
Anonymous
02/22/2020 18:18
Subject: Irish twins/two under two
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:As a nanny I have had the experience of actual twins, Irish twins, 2-under-2, 3-under-3, etc. (I’ve been a nanny for a looong time!).
The biggest thing you can do is to prepare your older for the baby by thinking through your routine and making space for newborn care.
—outings: where are the small, fenced-in local parks? Will the season mean that you need to do some indoor outings too? If so, which ones are both manageable with a newborn and relatively less germy.
—sleep training: if your first isn’t STTN reliably, make that a priority ASAP. Get a solid nap schedule in place and a solid bedtime routine
—meals: make sure your first can self-feed safely to some extent. Plan ahead and choose a few favorite foods to stock up on (e.g., if your toddler likes oatmeal, I would be batch-cooking steel cut oats with fruit and cinnamon and whatever else and freezing in individual portions). Muffins tins are great for freezing the right amount for one toddler meal. You want to always have at least one low-maintenance food you can quickly serve. Think about your toddler’s diet and try to move towards easier foods where you can. E.g., if your kid like steamed carrots, see if you can get them into baked sweet potatoes because those you just stick in the toaster oven and forget about vs. having to supervise something as it steams.
—house rules: think about the rules you currently enforce and how they might need to change due to having a baby. Does the current routine require you to lift toddler into the high chair, for example? Replace it with a chair he can climb into. Does your toddler know how to wait a minute for something he needs? If not, introduce some silly games, songs, stories, finger plays, etc. that you initially do together with your toddler (think “itsy bitsy spider”), then over time you can transition to doing less until you can just sing the song and your toddler does the motions. This helps you to distract him while you prep a bottle or burp a baby.
Physical space—It is hugely helpful to create a “room of yes” where your kid could be locked in and remain completely safe if necessary—furniture bolted to the wall, outlets completely covered, no choking hazards, nothing climbable, etc. You may need to stash toddler somewhere in a diaper emergency, so it’s useful to have a way to lock them in, whether that is a gate on the door or reversing the handle. Mostly, though this room is for you to sit and nurse the baby somewhere that the toddler can freely run and play and you won’t have to stop to rescue him.
Routine: Build a space into your daily routines for you to focus on the baby for a moment. E.g., with 2 you twins and a newborn, I trained the twins before the baby was born to color for about 5 minutes before each meal. They would sit at their little table, get crayons out, get paper and sit and color. For younger kids I have done play-dough or sensory bags/jars. But build it into the routine so that you can pause and focus on the baby for a minute without having to come up with something in the moment to distract toddler.
Yeah you’re definitely not a parent. Real parents don’t have time for this. Wait until you have your own - it will be completely different, I assure you.
As it happens I am ALSO a mom of my own fraternal twins. Which part is SOOOO hard and unrealistic? Babyproofing a room? Sleep training? Meal prep?
You’re just way too regimented. I now understand why. Having twins you would have to be, plus you work taking care of children. No one else puts this much thought into it.
Anonymous
02/22/2020 17:22
Subject: Irish twins/two under two
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:As a nanny I have had the experience of actual twins, Irish twins, 2-under-2, 3-under-3, etc. (I’ve been a nanny for a looong time!
The biggest thing you can do is to prepare your older for the baby by thinking through your routine and making space for newborn care.
—outings: where are the small, fenced-in local parks? Will the season mean that you need to do some indoor outings too? If so, which ones are both manageable with a newborn and relatively less germy.
—sleep training: if your first isn’t STTN reliably, make that a priority ASAP. Get a solid nap schedule in place and a solid bedtime routine
—meals: make sure your first can self-feed safely to some extent. Plan ahead and choose a few favorite foods to stock up on (e.g., if your toddler likes oatmeal, I would be batch-cooking steel cut oats with fruit and cinnamon and whatever else and freezing in individual portions). Muffins tins are great for freezing the right amount for one toddler meal. You want to always have at least one low-maintenance food you can quickly serve. Think about your toddler’s diet and try to move towards easier foods where you can. E.g., if your kid like steamed carrots, see if you can get them into baked sweet potatoes because those you just stick in the toaster oven and forget about vs. having to supervise something as it steams.
—house rules: think about the rules you currently enforce and how they might need to change due to having a baby. Does the current routine require you to lift toddler into the high chair, for example? Replace it with a chair he can climb into. Does your toddler know how to wait a minute for something he needs? If not, introduce some silly games, songs, stories, finger plays, etc. that you initially do together with your toddler (think “itsy bitsy spider”), then over time you can transition to doing less until you can just sing the song and your toddler does the motions. This helps you to distract him while you prep a bottle or burp a baby.
Physical space—It is hugely helpful to create a “room of yes” where your kid could be locked in and remain completely safe if necessary—furniture bolted to the wall, outlets completely covered, no choking hazards, nothing climbable, etc. You may need to stash toddler somewhere in a diaper emergency, so it’s useful to have a way to lock them in, whether that is a gate on the door or reversing the handle. Mostly, though this room is for you to sit and nurse the baby somewhere that the toddler can freely run and play and you won’t have to stop to rescue him.
Routine: Build a space into your daily routines for you to focus on the baby for a moment. E.g., with 2 you twins and a newborn, I trained the twins before the baby was born to color for about 5 minutes before each meal. They would sit at their little table, get crayons out, get paper and sit and color. For younger kids I have done play-dough or sensory bags/jars. But build it into the routine so that you can pause and focus on the baby for a minute without having to come up with something in the moment to distract toddler.
Yeah you’re definitely not a parent. Real parents don’t have time for this. Wait until you have your own - it will be completely different, I assure you.
As it happens I am ALSO a mom of my own fraternal twins. Which part is SOOOO hard and unrealistic? Babyproofing a room? Sleep training? Meal prep?
Anonymous
02/22/2020 17:19
Subject: Irish twins/two under two
Anonymous wrote:Um, you can't have 2 kids under the age of 12 months old if both were born of you. Um, if you get pregnant the DAY you come home from the hospital, and it takes 9 months for 2nd baby to develop and be born, the FIRST baby is 18 months of age when 2nd baby is born. And most people don't conceive the DAY they come home from the hospital, LOL, but a month or so later. And, um, you can't get pregnant BEFORE the 1st baby is born, biology doesn't work that way. Of course, you can have a 1st baby born at 7 months and get pregnant fairly immediately.
So Irish Twins is 2 close in age, with the oldest being somewhere in the 1 year old department - 18 mos, 19 months, 17 months if the 2nd was a little early, etc.
so OP is right - Irish Twins, oldest is 15 months of age at baby's birth.
You can’t be that stupid. I hope this is a really bad attempt at trolling.
My sister and I are 22 months apart. My sister and brother are 19 months apart. None of us are Irish twins because we don’t fit the actual definition of what an Irish twin is.
Anonymous
02/22/2020 14:42
Subject: Irish twins/two under two
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mine are 11.5 months apart. Irish twins. When people with two under two tell me they have Irish twins I’m like yeah nice try.
I feel the same way when people with Irish twins say it’s just as hard as regular twins.
Ehh. I think it would be harder. Two small kids who are at different stages. Plus none of the twin identity weirdness moms of twins have.
Twins is by far harder.
Wouldn’t it just depend on the kids themselves? I had an incredibly Easy first baby and an incredibly difficult second baby. If I had twins who were both like the first, it would have been much harder than a singleton I’m sure but likely still wouldn’t have been that bad. If I had twins where both were like my second baby, I don’t know how we would have survived.
Anonymous
02/22/2020 13:39
Subject: Irish twins/two under two
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mine are 11.5 months apart. Irish twins. When people with two under two tell me they have Irish twins I’m like yeah nice try.
I feel the same way when people with Irish twins say it’s just as hard as regular twins.
Ehh. I think it would be harder. Two small kids who are at different stages. Plus none of the twin identity weirdness moms of twins have.
Twins is by far harder.
You have both?
Anonymous
02/22/2020 10:01
Subject: Irish twins/two under two
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mine are 11.5 months apart. Irish twins. When people with two under two tell me they have Irish twins I’m like yeah nice try.
I feel the same way when people with Irish twins say it’s just as hard as regular twins.
Ehh. I think it would be harder. Two small kids who are at different stages. Plus none of the twin identity weirdness moms of twins have.
Twins is by far harder.
Anonymous
02/22/2020 09:41
Subject: Irish twins/two under two
Anonymous wrote:Um, you can't have 2 kids under the age of 12 months old if both were born of you. Um, if you get pregnant the DAY you come home from the hospital, and it takes 9 months for 2nd baby to develop and be born, the FIRST baby is 18 months of age when 2nd baby is born. And most people don't conceive the DAY they come home from the hospital, LOL, but a month or so later. And, um, you can't get pregnant BEFORE the 1st baby is born, biology doesn't work that way. Of course, you can have a 1st baby born at 7 months and get pregnant fairly immediately.
So Irish Twins is 2 close in age, with the oldest being somewhere in the 1 year old department - 18 mos, 19 months, 17 months if the 2nd was a little early, etc.
so OP is right - Irish Twins, oldest is 15 months of age at baby's birth.
Tori Spelling had her two kids 10 months apart: Hattie and Finn so it can be done!
Anonymous
02/22/2020 09:26
Subject: Irish twins/two under two
Anonymous wrote:As a nanny I have had the experience of actual twins, Irish twins, 2-under-2, 3-under-3, etc. (I’ve been a nanny for a looong time!
The biggest thing you can do is to prepare your older for the baby by thinking through your routine and making space for newborn care.
—outings: where are the small, fenced-in local parks? Will the season mean that you need to do some indoor outings too? If so, which ones are both manageable with a newborn and relatively less germy.
—sleep training: if your first isn’t STTN reliably, make that a priority ASAP. Get a solid nap schedule in place and a solid bedtime routine
—meals: make sure your first can self-feed safely to some extent. Plan ahead and choose a few favorite foods to stock up on (e.g., if your toddler likes oatmeal, I would be batch-cooking steel cut oats with fruit and cinnamon and whatever else and freezing in individual portions). Muffins tins are great for freezing the right amount for one toddler meal. You want to always have at least one low-maintenance food you can quickly serve. Think about your toddler’s diet and try to move towards easier foods where you can. E.g., if your kid like steamed carrots, see if you can get them into baked sweet potatoes because those you just stick in the toaster oven and forget about vs. having to supervise something as it steams.
—house rules: think about the rules you currently enforce and how they might need to change due to having a baby. Does the current routine require you to lift toddler into the high chair, for example? Replace it with a chair he can climb into. Does your toddler know how to wait a minute for something he needs? If not, introduce some silly games, songs, stories, finger plays, etc. that you initially do together with your toddler (think “itsy bitsy spider”), then over time you can transition to doing less until you can just sing the song and your toddler does the motions. This helps you to distract him while you prep a bottle or burp a baby.
Physical space—It is hugely helpful to create a “room of yes” where your kid could be locked in and remain completely safe if necessary—furniture bolted to the wall, outlets completely covered, no choking hazards, nothing climbable, etc. You may need to stash toddler somewhere in a diaper emergency, so it’s useful to have a way to lock them in, whether that is a gate on the door or reversing the handle. Mostly, though this room is for you to sit and nurse the baby somewhere that the toddler can freely run and play and you won’t have to stop to rescue him.
Routine: Build a space into your daily routines for you to focus on the baby for a moment. E.g., with 2 you twins and a newborn, I trained the twins before the baby was born to color for about 5 minutes before each meal. They would sit at their little table, get crayons out, get paper and sit and color. For younger kids I have done play-dough or sensory bags/jars. But build it into the routine so that you can pause and focus on the baby for a minute without having to come up with something in the moment to distract toddler.
Yeah you’re definitely not a parent. Real parents don’t have time for this. Wait until you have your own - it will be completely different, I assure you.
Anonymous
02/22/2020 08:46
Subject: Irish twins/two under two
As a nanny I have had the experience of actual twins, Irish twins, 2-under-2, 3-under-3, etc. (I’ve been a nanny for a looong time! ).
The biggest thing you can do is to prepare your older for the baby by thinking through your routine and making space for newborn care.
—outings: where are the small, fenced-in local parks? Will the season mean that you need to do some indoor outings too? If so, which ones are both manageable with a newborn and relatively less germy.
—sleep training: if your first isn’t STTN reliably, make that a priority ASAP. Get a solid nap schedule in place and a solid bedtime routine
—meals: make sure your first can self-feed safely to some extent. Plan ahead and choose a few favorite foods to stock up on (e.g., if your toddler likes oatmeal, I would be batch-cooking steel cut oats with fruit and cinnamon and whatever else and freezing in individual portions). Muffins tins are great for freezing the right amount for one toddler meal. You want to always have at least one low-maintenance food you can quickly serve. Think about your toddler’s diet and try to move towards easier foods where you can. E.g., if your kid like steamed carrots, see if you can get them into baked sweet potatoes because those you just stick in the toaster oven and forget about vs. having to supervise something as it steams.
—house rules: think about the rules you currently enforce and how they might need to change due to having a baby. Does the current routine require you to lift toddler into the high chair, for example? Replace it with a chair he can climb into. Does your toddler know how to wait a minute for something he needs? If not, introduce some silly games, songs, stories, finger plays, etc. that you initially do together with your toddler (think “itsy bitsy spider”), then over time you can transition to doing less until you can just sing the song and your toddler does the motions. This helps you to distract him while you prep a bottle or burp a baby.
Physical space—It is hugely helpful to create a “room of yes” where your kid could be locked in and remain completely safe if necessary—furniture bolted to the wall, outlets completely covered, no choking hazards, nothing climbable, etc. You may need to stash toddler somewhere in a diaper emergency, so it’s useful to have a way to lock them in, whether that is a gate on the door or reversing the handle. Mostly, though this room is for you to sit and nurse the baby somewhere that the toddler can freely run and play and you won’t have to stop to rescue him.
Routine: Build a space into your daily routines for you to focus on the baby for a moment. E.g., with 2 you twins and a newborn, I trained the twins before the baby was born to color for about 5 minutes before each meal. They would sit at their little table, get crayons out, get paper and sit and color. For younger kids I have done play-dough or sensory bags/jars. But build it into the routine so that you can pause and focus on the baby for a minute without having to come up with something in the moment to distract toddler.
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The biggest thing you can do is to prepare your older for the baby by thinking through your routine and making space for newborn care.
—outings: where are the small, fenced-in local parks? Will the season mean that you need to do some indoor outings too? If so, which ones are both manageable with a newborn and relatively less germy.
—sleep training: if your first isn’t STTN reliably, make that a priority ASAP. Get a solid nap schedule in place and a solid bedtime routine
—meals: make sure your first can self-feed safely to some extent. Plan ahead and choose a few favorite foods to stock up on (e.g., if your toddler likes oatmeal, I would be batch-cooking steel cut oats with fruit and cinnamon and whatever else and freezing in individual portions). Muffins tins are great for freezing the right amount for one toddler meal. You want to always have at least one low-maintenance food you can quickly serve. Think about your toddler’s diet and try to move towards easier foods where you can. E.g., if your kid like steamed carrots, see if you can get them into baked sweet potatoes because those you just stick in the toaster oven and forget about vs. having to supervise something as it steams.
—house rules: think about the rules you currently enforce and how they might need to change due to having a baby. Does the current routine require you to lift toddler into the high chair, for example? Replace it with a chair he can climb into. Does your toddler know how to wait a minute for something he needs? If not, introduce some silly games, songs, stories, finger plays, etc. that you initially do together with your toddler (think “itsy bitsy spider”), then over time you can transition to doing less until you can just sing the song and your toddler does the motions. This helps you to distract him while you prep a bottle or burp a baby.
Physical space—It is hugely helpful to create a “room of yes” where your kid could be locked in and remain completely safe if necessary—furniture bolted to the wall, outlets completely covered, no choking hazards, nothing climbable, etc. You may need to stash toddler somewhere in a diaper emergency, so it’s useful to have a way to lock them in, whether that is a gate on the door or reversing the handle. Mostly, though this room is for you to sit and nurse the baby somewhere that the toddler can freely run and play and you won’t have to stop to rescue him.
Routine: Build a space into your daily routines for you to focus on the baby for a moment. E.g., with 2 you twins and a newborn, I trained the twins before the baby was born to color for about 5 minutes before each meal. They would sit at their little table, get crayons out, get paper and sit and color. For younger kids I have done play-dough or sensory bags/jars. But build it into the routine so that you can pause and focus on the baby for a minute without having to come up with something in the moment to distract toddler.
Anonymous
02/22/2020 07:55
Subject: Irish twins/two under two
Brittney Spears and Tori spelling both have Irish twins.
I had 2 in 23 months. It was hard for the first year. Now they are 5 and 7 and it’s so fun. Im so glad they are so close and we aren’t held back by siblings so much younger.
I had 2 in 23 months. It was hard for the first year. Now they are 5 and 7 and it’s so fun. Im so glad they are so close and we aren’t held back by siblings so much younger.
Anonymous
02/22/2020 07:44
Subject: Irish twins/two under two
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mine are 11.5 months apart. Irish twins. When people with two under two tell me they have Irish twins I’m like yeah nice try.
I feel the same way when people with Irish twins say it’s just as hard as regular twins.
Ehh. I think it would be harder. Two small kids who are at different stages. Plus none of the twin identity weirdness moms of twins have.
Anonymous
02/22/2020 07:08
Subject: Irish twins/two under two
Anonymous wrote:Mine are 11.5 months apart. Irish twins. When people with two under two tell me they have Irish twins I’m like yeah nice try.
I feel the same way when people with Irish twins say it’s just as hard as regular twins.
Anonymous
02/22/2020 06:38
Subject: Irish twins/two under two
Anonymous wrote:Irish twins are two kids within 12 months. Not two kids under 2.
Came here to say this.