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Anonymous wrote:OP I really don't understand where you're coming from. I think it's common for us with kids with special needs to have a bit of an AHA moment about ourselves when we see our child and their behaviors and how they are perceived. I got a diagnosis as an adult, so I guess yay for me, but on the other hand, I got to my 40s without it so it's not exactly a game changer. Why is it so threatening to you that someone could have these realizations about themselves?

I understand OP. There's a lot of resentment in my circles about these "HFA" stories. None of our kids are going to Harvard, getting married, having three kids and a big career.

Our kids will never get the help and reasearch they need when the spectrum is drawn to include all the way out to "typical but quirky.:

My kid might go to Harvard but she is definitely not "typical but quirky." I don't see how recognizing that it is a broad spectrum is harmful to your kids. When autism was thought to be only a rare and severe condition, there was much less help available and lots of kids were mislabeled as "schizhophrenic" or "mentally retarded."

Because all the research dollars flow there. They aren't including lower functioning kids.

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Anonymous wrote:OP I really don't understand where you're coming from. I think it's common for us with kids with special needs to have a bit of an AHA moment about ourselves when we see our child and their behaviors and how they are perceived. I got a diagnosis as an adult, so I guess yay for me, but on the other hand, I got to my 40s without it so it's not exactly a game changer. Why is it so threatening to you that someone could have these realizations about themselves?

I understand OP. There's a lot of resentment in my circles about these "HFA" stories. None of our kids are going to Harvard, getting married, having three kids and a big career.

Our kids will never get the help and reasearch they need when the spectrum is drawn to include all the way out to "typical but quirky.:

My kid might go to Harvard but she is definitely not "typical but quirky." I don't see how recognizing that it is a broad spectrum is harmful to your kids. When autism was thought to be only a rare and severe condition, there was much less help available and lots of kids were mislabeled as "schizhophrenic" or "mentally retarded."

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Anonymous wrote:OP I really don't understand where you're coming from. I think it's common for us with kids with special needs to have a bit of an AHA moment about ourselves when we see our child and their behaviors and how they are perceived. I got a diagnosis as an adult, so I guess yay for me, but on the other hand, I got to my 40s without it so it's not exactly a game changer. Why is it so threatening to you that someone could have these realizations about themselves?

I understand OP. There's a lot of resentment in my circles about these "HFA" stories. None of our kids are going to Harvard, getting married, having three kids and a big career.

Our kids will never get the help and reasearch they need when the spectrum is drawn to include all the way out to "typical but quirky.:

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Anonymous wrote:OP I really don't understand where you're coming from. I think it's common for us with kids with special needs to have a bit of an AHA moment about ourselves when we see our child and their behaviors and how they are perceived. I got a diagnosis as an adult, so I guess yay for me, but on the other hand, I got to my 40s without it so it's not exactly a game changer. Why is it so threatening to you that someone could have these realizations about themselves?

I understand OP. There's a lot of resentment in my circles about these "HFA" stories. None of our kids are going to Harvard, getting married, having three kids and a big career.

Our kids will never get the help and reasearch they need when the spectrum is drawn to include all the way out to "typical but quirky.:

Anonymous wrote:OP I really don't understand where you're coming from. I think it's common for us with kids with special needs to have a bit of an AHA moment about ourselves when we see our child and their behaviors and how they are perceived. I got a diagnosis as an adult, so I guess yay for me, but on the other hand, I got to my 40s without it so it's not exactly a game changer. Why is it so threatening to you that someone could have these realizations about themselves?

Anonymous wrote:I admit this gave me a bit of an eye-roll. This lady went to Harvard on a full ride, writes and advice column for Slate and various publications, has 3 kids and a husband. And has just self-diagnose herself with autism..

https://nicole.substack.com/p/a-little-bit-autistic-a-little-bit

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, I can't get worked about this. If you self-identify as an adult, then you get to decide for yourself what to say about it and what services you want/need. Whatever she is doing seems to work for her, so good for her. She beat the odds. It's not the same as being a parent trying to make sure your kid can be in a good place 20 years from now.

There's no crystal ball but she shows that a child who struggled can grow up and be a functional human being. This is reassuring to me as a parent, not offensive.

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If you have never needed therapy, you don’t have clinical depression, and if you wrote a dramatic blog post all about your clinical depression I would think you were a twit.

You don’t have to feel the same way I do. Part of this is specifically about Nicole Cliff’s position as a Twitter personality in the cancel-culture millieau, and I truly don’t want autism research and treatment mixed up with that nonsense.

Oh, so it's "spectrum" that you don't understand.

The diagnostic criteria for depression, as for autism, layer out into levels of severity. Some can be lived with or dealt with without professional help, although it is a challenge.

PP, not all clinical depression is a "major depressive episode." Not all autism is expressed at the severe end of the spectrum. If you can't admit that, then it is you who is unprofessional and unscientific, because you are going off on your own with that outdated perspective.

Even at Level 1, true ASD has a profound impact:


Level 1 autism:
https://www.healthline.com/health/levels-of-autism#level-autism

People with level 1 autism have noticeable issues with communication skills and socializing with others. They can usually have a conversation, but it might be difficult to maintain a back-and-forth banter.

Others at this level might find it hard to reach out and make new friends. According to the DSM-5, people who receive a diagnosis of level 1 autism require support.

Symptoms
decreased interest in social interactions or activities
difficulty initiating social interactions, such as talking to a person
ability to engage with a person but may struggle to maintain a give-and-take of a typical conversation
obvious signs of communication difficulty
trouble adapting to changes in routine or behavior
difficulty planning and organizing

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, I can't get worked about this. If you self-identify as an adult, then you get to decide for yourself what to say about it and what services you want/need. Whatever she is doing seems to work for her, so good for her. She beat the odds. It's not the same as being a parent trying to make sure your kid can be in a good place 20 years from now.

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If you have never needed therapy, you don’t have clinical depression, and if you wrote a dramatic blog post all about your clinical depression I would think you were a twit.

You don’t have to feel the same way I do. Part of this is specifically about Nicole Cliff’s position as a Twitter personality in the cancel-culture millieau, and I truly don’t want autism research and treatment mixed up with that nonsense.

Oh, so it's "spectrum" that you don't understand.

The diagnostic criteria for depression, as for autism, layer out into levels of severity. Some can be lived with or dealt with without professional help, although it is a challenge.

PP, not all clinical depression is a "major depressive episode." Not all autism is expressed at the severe end of the spectrum. If you can't admit that, then it is you who is unprofessional and unscientific, because you are going off on your own with that outdated perspective.