Anonymous
Post 01/03/2020 12:48     Subject: Husband wants a divorce...tell me it will be okay!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Shouldn’t she close all their joint accounts and credit cards?


I would. I would open my own today and close the others.


You cannot unilaterally close joint accounts


But you can unilaterally withdraw all the money...


It's amazing how the very first advice women offer other women when a divorce is pending is--STEAL ALL HIS MONEY. RIGHT NOW!

Attention men: Don't get married. This tells you how women view you--as an ATM machine.


If he's smart, he's already secured his cash while he is still responsible for all their joint obligations.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2020 12:47     Subject: Re:Husband wants a divorce...tell me it will be okay!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, there’s someone else in the picture. In addition to legal and financials sorted, see if you can find out about the affair. Although it may not affect the legal outcome, it might help during negotiations (work affair, image maintenance ).

Make sure you go after the best financial deal for yourself and your child. Do not be weak on this time and read Chump Lady.



He's absolutely having an affair.


Which really has no baring on any of this.
ZachF
Post 01/03/2020 12:47     Subject: Husband wants a divorce...tell me it will be okay!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:“Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly.”


I like this.

And, it might not seem like it now but good riddance!! He seems horrible.


She hasn't told us anything about him except that he gave back his Christmas gift and announced that he wants out. I can read into that either way. I question just how horrible she could be that this man can't stand another day in his house with her. How horrible could she be that he made the hard, painful decision to leave the house to her and move out to his own place (while still responsible for the mortgage and any credit card bills or anything else in their name) and have to become a visiting parent? I'm sorry but I'm not automatically sympathetic.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2020 12:41     Subject: Husband wants a divorce...tell me it will be okay!
It will be better than okay!
ZachF
Post 01/03/2020 12:38     Subject: Husband wants a divorce...tell me it will be okay!
Anonymous wrote:We’ve only been married for 3 years and we have a two year old. He moved out the day after Christmas. He gave me back the gift I bought him for Christmas and told me that I don’t put any thought into the gifts I get him, he’s no longer in love with me, and he refuses to go into a new year/decade being married to me. I’ve had time to process all of this, but it still hurts like hell. I honestly think there’s another woman because this came out of nowhere. I’m sure I can take care of the mortgage on my own, but I’m worried about other bills as the mortgage is most of one paycheck. Someone tell me everything will be okay!


There it is again. Another woman claiming this just "came out of nowhere." I'm calling total BS on this. Do you mean to tell me that the days leading up to this bombshell were all marital bliss, including your sex life, without a clue that anything was wrong? And then he just dropped this bomb on you? Yeah, it had to be another woman stealing your man away. I'm sure it has nothing to do with you and you have always been the perfect wife.
Anonymous
Post 01/02/2020 22:24     Subject: Husband wants a divorce...tell me it will be okay!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Abandonment! It’s my understanding that it looks bad legally if someone moves out before agreements have been drawn up.


No. If he’d up and moved to the other side of the country, took all their money, and refused to have contact with their child or contribute financially, then you might be able to claim abandonment. But simply moving out locally without leaving OP destitute and while maintaining contact with their child is not going to be considered abandonment.


This... people toss around legal terminology without knowing what they're talking about. Abandonment is just up and leaving and not trying to maintain a connection or relationship with the child.


Abandonment is leaving the marriage when the other person doesn't agree. It's not just about the child. You can abandon the marriage.
Anonymous
Post 01/02/2020 14:34     Subject: Husband wants a divorce...tell me it will be okay!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Abandonment! It’s my understanding that it looks bad legally if someone moves out before agreements have been drawn up.


No. If he’d up and moved to the other side of the country, took all their money, and refused to have contact with their child or contribute financially, then you might be able to claim abandonment. But simply moving out locally without leaving OP destitute and while maintaining contact with their child is not going to be considered abandonment.


This... people toss around legal terminology without knowing what they're talking about. Abandonment is just up and leaving and not trying to maintain a connection or relationship with the child.
Anonymous
Post 01/01/2020 13:40     Subject: Husband wants a divorce...tell me it will be okay!
I'm sorry OP. I hope when you look back at this time next year, you'll feel like he gave you an unexpected gift!