Anonymous
12/28/2019 11:03
Subject: Should I reject him or schedule another date?
Anonymous wrote:OP here.
This guy is amazing and has a great, easy going personality. However, I don’t feel physical attraction towards him.
I guess the reason for this might be that he’s not my ‘type’. I’m attracted to tall, slender men. This guy on the other hand is short and stocky. I don’t mean to sound shallow, but I’m just not attracted to that body type at all.
I feel that I need my man to be way taller than me. I’m attracted to tall men. With this guy, I’m trying to focus on his great personality force myself to look past his body structure, but unconsciously I can’t help it.
I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or not (please let me know). The last date I felt we were in the friend zone. The reason I feel repulsed is because I see him as someone like my dad’s friend, rather than a future sexual and romantic partner. I can’t picture him as being my future husband,
Des this make me sound awful and am I being unreasonable?
You are totally reasonable, because in reality he has preferences too. He most probably wouldn't be attracted to a woman bigger and taller than him, so don't feel bad.
I think the biggest problem here is that you feel repulsed. It is one thing to not be attracted and another to feel repulsed. There is hope if you think that a person is likable, cute, but you just don't feel the spark. There is 0 hope he will grow on you if you are repulsed by a thought of kissing him.
Anonymous
12/28/2019 10:38
Subject: Should I reject him or schedule another date?
Question for OP. Again, I want to know what you consider way taller than you. How tall are you and how tall/short is the guy?
Anonymous
12/28/2019 10:33
Subject: Should I reject him or schedule another date?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here.
We spent a great time on our date and we had lots of banter. I find it very easy to have conversations with him and I can be myself 100% around him. I feel very comfortable in his presence.
But I can’t bring myself to be physical with him. I just don’t want to go down that route. I feel repulsed by the thought. He’s not bad looking or anything. I just can’t picture myself initiating anything physical with him.
Part of me wants to text him to part ways but I don’t know if I’ll regret doing this.
Maybe this is some type of subconscious warning? My aunt met my dad three days before my mom did. As my aunt tells it, a mutual friend introduced them and when the friend suggested they double date, my aunt blurted “Dear God, no!”. She couldn’t even put her finger on it. My dad went on to ruin my mom’s life including talking her into breaking off an engagement to another man.
I am super confused by this story.
Anonymous
12/27/2019 22:29
Subject: Should I reject him or schedule another date?
If I can’t even consider the possibility of kissing someone on a first date, I’m out. I’m not a slow burner; the chemistry is either there or it’s not. I’m 55 by the way.
Anonymous
12/27/2019 21:58
Subject: Should I reject him or schedule another date?
Anonymous wrote:OP here.
This guy is amazing and has a great, easy going personality. However, I don’t feel physical attraction towards him.
I guess the reason for this might be that he’s not my ‘type’. I’m attracted to tall, slender men. This guy on the other hand is short and stocky. I don’t mean to sound shallow, but I’m just not attracted to that body type at all.
I feel that I need my man to be way taller than me. I’m attracted to tall men. With this guy, I’m trying to focus on his great personality force myself to look past his body structure, but unconsciously I can’t help it.
I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or not (please let me know). The last date I felt we were in the friend zone. The reason I feel repulsed is because I see him as someone like my dad’s friend, rather than a future sexual and romantic partner. I can’t picture him as being my future husband,
Des this make me sound awful and am I being unreasonable?
Yes. Men don't have this luxury, you know that don't you? Are you as vapid as you are vain? Leave this man alone.
Anonymous
12/27/2019 20:28
Subject: Should I reject him or schedule another date?
Anonymous wrote:I totally don’t get the really tall guy thing. I can understand the extremely short thing being a turnoff. But really tall guys can’t possibly be a good fit for lovemaking being so tall. Must be odd. And the growth hormones went to their bones and such and they usually are small in the you know what.
Sure.
Anonymous
12/27/2019 20:14
Subject: Should I reject him or schedule another date?
Schedule a second date to simply validating/confirming your feeling. So no wonder of what if later on.
Anonymous
12/27/2019 19:57
Subject: Re:Should I reject him or schedule another date?
How can he be perfect on paper? You didn't get his basic stats like height? I always ask but I am tall myself so it matters to me.
Anonymous
12/27/2019 17:46
Subject: Re:Should I reject him or schedule another date?
Anonymous wrote:https://www.dailymotion.com/video/x6oynec
Start at 10 min
I’ve never heard her before, but I like her!
Anonymous
12/27/2019 17:42
Subject: Re:Should I reject him or schedule another date?
OP, I don't you should try to force yourself to feel attracted to this man. I am not even convinced it's because he is not your "type." I've met a few men that were the exact opposite of my "type" and was still attracted to them as individuals. It sounds like you like him as a friend.
Anonymous
12/27/2019 17:38
Subject: Should I reject him or schedule another date?
Anonymous wrote:I totally don’t get the really tall guy thing. I can understand the extremely short thing being a turnoff. But really tall guys can’t possibly be a good fit for lovemaking being so tall. Must be odd. And the growth hormones went to their bones and such and they usually are small in the you know what.
It’s actually wonderful. I had no idea I could have my chest reached with lips and much more comfortable positions with a height difference. Or angles I’d never felt before because of propping that could occur. My guy isn’t small.
Anonymous
12/27/2019 17:37
Subject: Re:Should I reject him or schedule another date?
Anonymous
12/27/2019 17:36
Subject: Should I reject him or schedule another date?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Freaking millennials. Expecting everything in 10 minutes.
Ain't got 10, let's make it 8.
No millennial schedules time for banter. I suspect OP is the divorcee whose sister wants her to get the d, and she is way too picky. The last guy didn’t like Indian food. This guy doesn’t give her the feels. You know when the spark will come, OP? When YOU DO!
Schedule another date and please drink alcohol to calm your nerves, then try to experience a little bit of safe inhibition before you die. Your goal is not marriage on date #1 to get to bed or date #2.
Anonymous
12/27/2019 17:27
Subject: Should I reject him or schedule another date?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP is the female version of an incel.
You don’t know much about incels if you think that.
She’s not into this one guy. She isn’t claiming all men are rotten and only want big boobed dumb blondes.
Sure Jan.
Anonymous
12/27/2019 17:25
Subject: Should I reject him or schedule another date?
I totally don’t get the really tall guy thing. I can understand the extremely short thing being a turnoff. But really tall guys can’t possibly be a good fit for lovemaking being so tall. Must be odd. And the growth hormones went to their bones and such and they usually are small in the you know what.