Anonymous
Post 12/22/2019 10:36     Subject: Taking TOO long in the shower
Our DD had thus problem. Turned out to be related to late-diagnosed autism/ADHD/anxiety issues.
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2019 10:31     Subject: Taking TOO long in the shower
My dad used to bang on the bathroom door and threaten to shut the hot water off. Two minutes later that’s exactly what he’d do!!

Family discussion about shower time limits because everyone has to be respectful of everyone else. Put a time in the bathroom. End of timer gets a 1 minute grace period to rinse - after that the hot water gets shut off.

Anonymous
Post 12/20/2019 00:19     Subject: Taking TOO long in the shower
Anonymous wrote:DS16 has cultivated a new habit: 30+ minute showers in the morning, which has resulted in a lukewarm/cold shower for two other family members prior to work/school this week.

Over the last year, we have had repeated conversations about this/requests to keep showers to 15 minutes, and thought we were past this particular issue, but now this.

DH is over it (he got the cold shower), and threatening to shut off the hot water the next time this happens.

Thoughts/suggestions on how to manage this?


Keep the showers to 12 minutes or this: Water on to get wet. Water off to soap up and shampoo. Water on only to rinse off.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 23:39     Subject: Taking TOO long in the shower
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He is playing with his junior. Evening shower or go last in the morning. Tell him to play in his room not in the shower.


Seriously?

I mean we all know that's what he's doing. You would address it that directly?

And, just because we tell him that, does not mean he will comply. What mechanism will resolve the excess hot water usage?


Yes, being straightforward is best.

First, I would tell him to limit showers to 10 minutes so there’s enough water for everyone. I would ask maybe 2 or 3 times.

After that, I would have his dad pull him aside and say “Hey, masturbation is normal but there’s a time and place for everything. Everyone knows what you’re doing in the shower when you’re in there for 30 minutes. Other people need to shower in the morning. This has to stop.”

If the private talk from dad doesn’t work, then the next day I would knock on the door after 10 minutes and say “Hey Larlo! Stop masturbating!” I would keep knocking every 5 minutes or so...

You gotta do what you gotta do.


Don’t tell him everyone knows what he is doing in there. Are you trying to humiliate this poor kid?! Ugh. Op turn up the heat temp or he should shower at night. Just tell him mornings are a bit much for all to shower or say showers aren’t working well and please shower at night until you get them fixed.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 09:42     Subject: Taking TOO long in the shower
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They make water heaters that have unlimited hot water, I'd go for that.


So... what's the price tag on everyone being late to work and school plus installing one of these? Because that seems ridiculous to me to still mess up the rest of the family's morning so a teen can spank it.


Its about $12-1500. Worth every penny.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 09:20     Subject: Taking TOO long in the shower
Anonymous wrote:Good lord, when did parents stop having the ability to parent? You are making this so ridiculous. You've talked to him about it, he has ignored you. So now the water gets shut off . Buy him a timer so he can keep track of time.

Are you unable to parent at all? I can't imagine what he gets away with because of your incompetent parenting.


As far as I can tell from the way people use the word on DCUM, "to parent" means "to punish."
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 09:17     Subject: Taking TOO long in the shower
My dad did this to my brother growing up. Took two times of ice cold water to do the trick. No amount of yelling, cajoling, pleading did it.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 09:04     Subject: Taking TOO long in the shower
Good lord, when did parents stop having the ability to parent? You are making this so ridiculous. You've talked to him about it, he has ignored you. So now the water gets shut off . Buy him a timer so he can keep track of time.

Are you unable to parent at all? I can't imagine what he gets away with because of your incompetent parenting.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 08:58     Subject: Taking TOO long in the shower
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don’t you have another shower or two? Why do you have to wait? We have 3 and 3 people can take shower at the same time.


I can't speak for OP, but no, not every household has multiple showers.


Ours does, but old house = old plumbing, so water pressure and temperature suffer when two are showering at once.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 08:46     Subject: Taking TOO long in the shower
Anonymous wrote:Don’t you have another shower or two? Why do you have to wait? We have 3 and 3 people can take shower at the same time.


I can't speak for OP, but no, not every household has multiple showers.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2019 06:33     Subject: Taking TOO long in the shower
Anonymous wrote:Regardless of the reason (we all know what it is), and regardless of the specific solution you choose, I'd really emphasize that your main issue is the lack of consideration for others. It's not exactly surprising that a teenager wouldn't care about their parents being forced to take a cold shower because of them, but it's absolutely not okay and you should not let that attitude slide. You can see some kids around that age developing a sense of entitlement that they'll carry through adulthood and it's truly unpleasant to witness - so if I were you I'd do everything I could to stop it while it's still time!


I think this is the most important part of the entire discussion and problem. The son needs to show consideration and respect for his parents, who will shower after him.