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Anonymous wrote:This argument, taking place on the DCUM Private Schools forum, is so far from the reality of the majority of women in the US and the world as to be laughable. The vast majority of you choose to raise your children in a bubble, esp those sending their sons to STA. it is laughable that you are even having this discussion with straight faces.

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Although I have to say, it is certainly entertaining!

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Anonymous wrote:What percentage of St. Albans mom work? It seems like once women hit their mid-30's at all the area private schools. many choose to stay home. That's always surprising to me considering how many extremely well educated and liberal moms are at these schools.

Well your premise is in incorrect. St. Albans is not mostly liberal moms. It is mostly republicans in my two sons grades. The administration and Cathedral may be more liberal leaning but the current parents and boys are not. NCS, Sidwell, Holton, and GDS are where you will find more liberal moms.

This may be your experience, and I have no doubt you are relaying your experience, but it is not my experience nor my son's. We have found that there is a small, albeit vocal, minority of hard-core Republicans, and within that some Trump supporters as well as some never-Trumpers. These families often live in NoVA. Overall, however, here are far more moderate and liberal-leaning boys and families (often socially liberal but fiscally conservative). I would agree that there are few hard-core liberals at STA but the majority of families are liberal-leaning moderates. I also do agree there are more girls at NCS who are truly liberal.

If your son is in the upper school, suggest he join Gov Club. Gov Club is co-ed and gives the best snap-shot into the political disposition of the Close high school students as it requires the kids (so both STA and NCS here) declare their political affiliation. I can tell you that the liberal, Democrats camp is always much larger than the conservative group, and its not just NCS girls. There have even been instances when the "Republican/conservative group" has had to ask some "independents" (or kids who move back and forth based on issues) to stand with them to even out numbers for various exercises.

Too often people presume that the Cathedral schools have a majority of conservative families based only on appearances. This is not a good way to judge anyone's political affiliation. In Washington at least, preppy does not equal conservative.

But aren't you talking of the kids here and not the parents (OP's focus)?

Most teens I know have very strong views of their own and may not necessarily fall on the same end of the political spectrum of their parents (in fact, may purposely advocate the other side for the sake of it!!)

Anonymous wrote:This argument, taking place on the DCUM Private Schools forum, is so far from the reality of the majority of women in the US and the world as to be laughable. The vast majority of you choose to raise your children in a bubble, esp those sending their sons to STA. it is laughable that you are even having this discussion with straight faces.

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Anonymous wrote:What percentage of St. Albans mom work? It seems like once women hit their mid-30's at all the area private schools. many choose to stay home. That's always surprising to me considering how many extremely well educated and liberal moms are at these schools.

Well your premise is in incorrect. St. Albans is not mostly liberal moms. It is mostly republicans in my two sons grades. The administration and Cathedral may be more liberal leaning but the current parents and boys are not. NCS, Sidwell, Holton, and GDS are where you will find more liberal moms.

If this is true, then it makes sense that they would be more likely to prescribe to more traditional gender roles than some other schools.

How silly. True feminism is when women have the CHOICE to work or not work and can choose what is best for them without feeling societal pressures one way or the other. Get with the times. I have done both and now choose not to work and I am liberal and educated.

Wrong. Women providing unpaid labor to men does NOT support women. It continues to enable the patriarchy to rely on women’s unpaid labor to advance their own agenda.

THANK YOU.

And can we please stop acting like “managing the household” is a thing? It’s just .... living. Stop trying to make fetch happen.

I think some people on here are angry they have to work today. I love not working and my only regret is that I didn’t quit sooner! I actually have time now for me and finally have time to do all of my favorite things and spend stress free time with my kids. How sad that you consider spending time with your kids as free labor. That’s the problem right there.

That’s great you’re happy. But again, you’re NOT helping women by staying home and enabling the patriarchy.

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Anonymous wrote:What percentage of St. Albans mom work? It seems like once women hit their mid-30's at all the area private schools. many choose to stay home. That's always surprising to me considering how many extremely well educated and liberal moms are at these schools.

Well your premise is in incorrect. St. Albans is not mostly liberal moms. It is mostly republicans in my two sons grades. The administration and Cathedral may be more liberal leaning but the current parents and boys are not. NCS, Sidwell, Holton, and GDS are where you will find more liberal moms.

If this is true, then it makes sense that they would be more likely to prescribe to more traditional gender roles than some other schools.

How silly. True feminism is when women have the CHOICE to work or not work and can choose what is best for them without feeling societal pressures one way or the other. Get with the times. I have done both and now choose not to work and I am liberal and educated.

Wrong. Women providing unpaid labor to men does NOT support women. It continues to enable the patriarchy to rely on women’s unpaid labor to advance their own agenda.

THANK YOU.

And can we please stop acting like “managing the household” is a thing? It’s just .... living. Stop trying to make fetch happen.

I think some people on here are angry they have to work today. I love not working and my only regret is that I didn’t quit sooner! I actually have time now for me and finally have time to do all of my favorite things and spend stress free time with my kids. How sad that you consider spending time with your kids as free labor. That’s the problem right there.

That’s great you’re happy. But again, you’re NOT helping women by staying home and enabling the patriarchy.

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Anonymous wrote:What percentage of St. Albans mom work? It seems like once women hit their mid-30's at all the area private schools. many choose to stay home. That's always surprising to me considering how many extremely well educated and liberal moms are at these schools.

Well your premise is in incorrect. St. Albans is not mostly liberal moms. It is mostly republicans in my two sons grades. The administration and Cathedral may be more liberal leaning but the current parents and boys are not. NCS, Sidwell, Holton, and GDS are where you will find more liberal moms.

If this is true, then it makes sense that they would be more likely to prescribe to more traditional gender roles than some other schools.

How silly. True feminism is when women have the CHOICE to work or not work and can choose what is best for them without feeling societal pressures one way or the other. Get with the times. I have done both and now choose not to work and I am liberal and educated.

Wrong. Women providing unpaid labor to men does NOT support women. It continues to enable the patriarchy to rely on women’s unpaid labor to advance their own agenda.

THANK YOU.

And can we please stop acting like “managing the household” is a thing? It’s just .... living. Stop trying to make fetch happen.

I think some people on here are angry they have to work today. I love not working and my only regret is that I didn’t quit sooner! I actually have time now for me and finally have time to do all of my favorite things and spend stress free time with my kids. How sad that you consider spending time with your kids as free labor. That’s the problem right there.

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Anonymous wrote:What percentage of St. Albans mom work? It seems like once women hit their mid-30's at all the area private schools. many choose to stay home. That's always surprising to me considering how many extremely well educated and liberal moms are at these schools.

Well your premise is in incorrect. St. Albans is not mostly liberal moms. It is mostly republicans in my two sons grades. The administration and Cathedral may be more liberal leaning but the current parents and boys are not. NCS, Sidwell, Holton, and GDS are where you will find more liberal moms.

If this is true, then it makes sense that they would be more likely to prescribe to more traditional gender roles than some other schools.

How silly. True feminism is when women have the CHOICE to work or not work and can choose what is best for them without feeling societal pressures one way or the other. Get with the times. I have done both and now choose not to work and I am liberal and educated.

Wrong. Women providing unpaid labor to men does NOT support women. It continues to enable the patriarchy to rely on women’s unpaid labor to advance their own agenda.

THANK YOU.

And can we please stop acting like “managing the household” is a thing? It’s just .... living. Stop trying to make fetch happen.

I think some people on here are angry they have to work today. I love not working and my only regret is that I didn’t quit sooner! I actually have time now for me and finally have time to do all of my favorite things and spend stress free time with my kids. How sad that you consider spending time with your kids as free labor. That’s the problem right there.

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Anonymous wrote:What percentage of St. Albans mom work? It seems like once women hit their mid-30's at all the area private schools. many choose to stay home. That's always surprising to me considering how many extremely well educated and liberal moms are at these schools.

Well your premise is in incorrect. St. Albans is not mostly liberal moms. It is mostly republicans in my two sons grades. The administration and Cathedral may be more liberal leaning but the current parents and boys are not. NCS, Sidwell, Holton, and GDS are where you will find more liberal moms.

If this is true, then it makes sense that they would be more likely to prescribe to more traditional gender roles than some other schools.

How silly. True feminism is when women have the CHOICE to work or not work and can choose what is best for them without feeling societal pressures one way or the other. Get with the times. I have done both and now choose not to work and I am liberal and educated.

Wrong. Women providing unpaid labor to men does NOT support women. It continues to enable the patriarchy to rely on women’s unpaid labor to advance their own agenda.

THANK YOU.

And can we please stop acting like “managing the household” is a thing? It’s just .... living. Stop trying to make fetch happen.

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Anonymous wrote:What percentage of St. Albans mom work? It seems like once women hit their mid-30's at all the area private schools. many choose to stay home. That's always surprising to me considering how many extremely well educated and liberal moms are at these schools.

Well your premise is in incorrect. St. Albans is not mostly liberal moms. It is mostly republicans in my two sons grades. The administration and Cathedral may be more liberal leaning but the current parents and boys are not. NCS, Sidwell, Holton, and GDS are where you will find more liberal moms.

If this is true, then it makes sense that they would be more likely to prescribe to more traditional gender roles than some other schools.

How silly. True feminism is when women have the CHOICE to work or not work and can choose what is best for them without feeling societal pressures one way or the other. Get with the times. I have done both and now choose not to work and I am liberal and educated.

Wrong. Women providing unpaid labor to men does NOT support women. It continues to enable the patriarchy to rely on women’s unpaid labor to advance their own agenda.

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Anonymous wrote:What percentage of St. Albans mom work? It seems like once women hit their mid-30's at all the area private schools. many choose to stay home. That's always surprising to me considering how many extremely well educated and liberal moms are at these schools.

Well your premise is in incorrect. St. Albans is not mostly liberal moms. It is mostly republicans in my two sons grades. The administration and Cathedral may be more liberal leaning but the current parents and boys are not. NCS, Sidwell, Holton, and GDS are where you will find more liberal moms.

If this is true, then it makes sense that they would be more likely to prescribe to more traditional gender roles than some other schools.

How silly. True feminism is when women have the CHOICE to work or not work and can choose what is best for them without feeling societal pressures one way or the other. Get with the times. I have done both and now choose not to work and I am liberal and educated.

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Earlier poster and later poster: You're both over-conflating feminist theory and social justice/poverty theory. Are there intersections between the two? Yes. But at bottom, the choice you lambaste is largely a wealth disparity/social justice issue. Choice to take a chance on a risky venture. to change a job. To take time off. To explore a passion. To start a business and fail. To take more vacations. To take more flexible hours. When those "choices" overlap with feminist issues, it isn't coming from the presence or absence of choice as determined by wealth, it's coming from the persistence of a reality that women still do the lion's share of "home" and "family" work--no matter how lucrative or exciting or beloved their careers. If men and women equally took on those burdens, you would no longer call the choice to stay at home or not a feminist issue. You would call it a wealth issue/poverty issue. That's because, principally, it is.

I'm not saying all is equal. Wealth disparity disproportionately affects women. Many, perhaps most, feminist issues disproportionately affect poorer women. No doubt poor women typically getting the very worst of both gender problems and problems of poverty. That reality, however, doesn't transform primarily economic problems into primarily feminist ones; further, a wealthier woman's access to certain choices because of her economic status does not transform her, if a feminist, into a non-feminist on that basis. Indeed, poverty and lack of choice about childcare does not transform a non-feminist into a feminist either. Maybe a woman is a feminist, maybe she isn't, but the poverty and wealth issue won't answer that question, no matter how hard you try to make it do so.

It's especially rich to hate on women with "choices" when you face the reality that the "choices" many wealthier women make are frequently the result of the very conditions feminists of all economic stripes would like to see improved--equal pay for women, safe/non-harassing workplaces, paid maternity leave/family leave, gender equality (particularly at home), etc. Honestly, this scorched earth approach to any woman who isn't living your definition of a feminist is approaching a level of moral superiority reminiscent of the ideologically opposed confinement--but confinement nonetheless--of the cult of true womanhood and other such anti-feminist nonsense.

So by all means, pp's, fight gender inequality. Fight wealth inequality. Fight it all. But keep things straight. And maybe, just maybe, try to be a little more supportive of fellow women.

(and just in case you care, I work full time. No I do not have to. I am a feminist. No, my choice to work when I don't have to does not make me a feminist).

Hey privileged white woman, every heard of intersectionality? Feminist theory is inseparable from economics and race. Black women and women of color (do you SEE of all the Central American and Philippine nannies in the area watching white babies?) have long, long supported the domestic lives of wealthier white women. So when you ask people to "be a little more supportive of fellow women" who do you have in mind exactly? And from which lofty perch do you speak?