Anonymous wrote:Some posters are getting confused.
We're not talking about someone having a mistress with the wife's knowledge. Or people sleeping around casually like college kids. Or the old fashioned polygamy of a husband with multiple wives. I believe a throuple is specifically referring to when all three people are involved together emotionally and sexually.
In the old polygamy relationships as found in ancient days and even in some parts of the world today, the wives are separate and there's many rules and regulations governing these kinds of marriages because they were never thought of as polygamous as we understand the term today. And these polygamous marriages emerged as a way for better off men to help support excess women in the old societies. It's why as time progressed, they disappeared. Even in Muslim cultures they're quite rare and generally only very rich/sheikhs go that route and it's because they can afford to support multiple wives.
I don't think I've ever met or heard of anyone remotely "normal" who was in a polyamorous relationship. In every cases there was always something off, dysfunctional or involving emotional manipulation or emotional neediness.
You likely do know some, but they didn't come out to you because they sensed you were a narrow-minded bigot.