Here’s the thing, there is zero expectation of privacy when you’re out in public, this includes our kids. It would be creepy if somebody was directly filming my child and I was swoop in and remove my child from that situation. OP, that father was completely out of line because you were not even filming his kid- he was just in the background. On the other hand he asked and you could’ve always said no. What a weird father.

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Anonymous wrote:I just hate people who can’t put their GD phones away around their kids. Just enjoy the playground, douchebag.

You know, some of us have spouses who are in the military and absolutely love seeing videos or pictures of their kids at the playground. I'm sorry you can't have any empathy for someone who may be recording a moment on a phone. Scrolling through the internet instead of watching your child behave badly at the park and filming your kid are not the same thing, so chill out a bit. Also, you have no idea what the person scrolling the internet is doing. Perhaps they're trying to find a mental health professional to help them or researching chemo options for their parents. Seriously, the level of anger you have at people you don't know is not healthy. Try taking a deep breath next time and acknowledging that you have no idea why someone is doing something that you wouldn't do and remembering that it doesn't affect you and perhaps they're going through something. Just try it.

I know why they are doing it. Phone addiction. It’s rude and terrible for your kid. And I don’t think the phone needs to be out 24/7 in your hand to get 15 seconds of video for a deployed spouse. And research stuff on your phone when your kid is not around. Like at night. Some of us don’t use playground time or other time with our kids as a phone research opportunity.

Ok, you and the above PP can go on being negative and judgmental towards people you don't know. Fine with me, it's no skin off my back. I just figured perhaps taking your anger down a notch would be healthy but you do you.

Taking your lecturing down a notch might also be a good idea for you.

I always move my child before they get a shot or start recording. I don't like it.

I snap photos and film my kids because we have a large family, the closest of whom is Orlando. Our extended family is spread around the US and internationally and many want to see the kids grow up. The ones who are international, have seen the kids once in 8 years, but they still want to see photos of the kids. I also take photos and film because when I was little, my parents didn't and I have very few photos growing up. I'd like my kids to have more, since I wanted to have more. I make sure that I take at least a dozen or so photos each month or at special places to make sure to track their growth and what we did. In 5 years, I won't remember what they looked like when we went to the playground or how they looked on the train at the mall. My photos are digital and kept on the computer and I do check every year or two to look at them growing. Also, in the first few years, I used to make a book at Christmas time for the grandmothers who didn't get nearly as much time with the grandkids as they wanted so I would do a Shutterfly book with various events throughout the year and snaps. Both grandmothers (one now passed) loved these books and took them around to show their friends, etc.

Once they were past about 3, I don't really interact much with the kids on the playground. They can play on their own. I interact with them when we walk to and from the playground, I talk with them in the car and when we are doing other things. When we are at playgrounds and places, I want them to experience the place. I don't really need to experience it. I don't need to pet the animals or climb on the monkey bars. But I can watch and document them doing so.

Not really sorry if I am enjoying documenting my child enjoying the playground.

I am not angry but I don't like it as well. At one time, there's a couple trying to help their 4-5 year old kid to social with other kids (3-4 year old) at a small indoor playground. The kid is nonverbal, seems SN to me with his nonverbal behaviors. They take photos/film videos of happy moments of success when their kid happily playing with other kids. It is a special case. I was truly touched & understand the feeling because my kid is SN as well, and at one time he was just like that kid (social delay & nonverbal). Good thing that my kid has been making awesome progress.

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Anonymous wrote:I just hate people who can’t put their GD phones away around their kids. Just enjoy the playground, douchebag.

You never take any pictures or videos of your kids playing? Ever?

Of course I have some. But the phone epidemic at playgrounds is just tragic. Mostly photos. What is the point of filming your child at the playground? I’m assuming not everyone’s spouse is deployed. If you’re filming to post on social media, just put that thing away and engage with your child. Seriously, it’s a sickness.

The way you do it is good and correct and everyone else who crosses some threshold of “takes more pictures than you” is mentally ill. Got it.

NP here. I tend to agree with the first poster. You can’t be in the moment with your child and filming at the same time. Anyone can snap a couple pictures and then spend the rest of the time playing.

Our generation’s phone use is epidemic.

Attachment parenting is a sickness too! Let your kid play on a damn playground without you in their face.

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Anonymous wrote:I just hate people who can’t put their GD phones away around their kids. Just enjoy the playground, douchebag.

You know, some of us have spouses who are in the military and absolutely love seeing videos or pictures of their kids at the playground. I'm sorry you can't have any empathy for someone who may be recording a moment on a phone. Scrolling through the internet instead of watching your child behave badly at the park and filming your kid are not the same thing, so chill out a bit. Also, you have no idea what the person scrolling the internet is doing. Perhaps they're trying to find a mental health professional to help them or researching chemo options for their parents. Seriously, the level of anger you have at people you don't know is not healthy. Try taking a deep breath next time and acknowledging that you have no idea why someone is doing something that you wouldn't do and remembering that it doesn't affect you and perhaps they're going through something. Just try it.

I know why they are doing it. Phone addiction. It’s rude and terrible for your kid. And I don’t think the phone needs to be out 24/7 in your hand to get 15 seconds of video for a deployed spouse. And research stuff on your phone when your kid is not around. Like at night. Some of us don’t use playground time or other time with our kids as a phone research opportunity.

Ok, you and the above PP can go on being negative and judgmental towards people you don't know. Fine with me, it's no skin off my back. I just figured perhaps taking your anger down a notch would be healthy but you do you.

Anonymous wrote:When we go to a really touristy spot, like the monuments, people from foreign tour groups often stop and take pictures of my kids. It's odd and my first reaction is to whisk my kids away, but honestly, what do I care if someone from way across the pond takes a picture of my kid? It's not as though they're stealing a piece of their soul.

Yes. I've never understood the whole "omg my kid is in the background of someone's picture that they put on FB!"

He’s a jerk, who is used to being right and getting his way.

I would have told him no and to leave me alone.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP.

I was filming my DD (3) climbing up the ladder and then going down the stairs. First time she’s done so independently (bilateral clubfoot at birth means she has some physical delays.). But honestly I do film and take pictures of her all the time and don’t really think it’s a bad thing. I don’t post photos of her online. I don’t have social media but do send everything to a folder that family members can see.

Another little boy walked into the shot and the dad came up and asked that I delete any videos/photos with husband son in it. He was rude and I was caught off guard.

I’ve never had this happen. Parents film their kids all the time.

I’d understand if I was just taking photos of his kid but that wasn’t the case.

Wow. I would have been taken aback too. And how is this Dad actually going to know whether you actually deleted it or not.

I take pictures and videos of my kids all the time so they have these memories when they look back. In public places. And no, I don't care about your kid in the background, just my little snowflake.

I didn’t delete them all honestly.

There was one photo when he was half in that I deleted but I kept the video because my daughter was very cute in it and said, “I did it!” The boy literally passed by in the background and I don’t even think his face was fully visibly. If the dad has approached me kindly I probably would have deleted it but he was super rude and demanding so I didn’t. It was sent to my husband and grandparents and my sister. No one commented on the kid.

Now I’m wondering if he wasn’t suppose to have the child and that’s why he was so aggressive.

Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP.

I was filming my DD (3) climbing up the ladder and then going down the stairs. First time she’s done so independently (bilateral clubfoot at birth means she has some physical delays.). But honestly I do film and take pictures of her all the time and don’t really think it’s a bad thing. I don’t post photos of her online. I don’t have social media but do send everything to a folder that family members can see.

Another little boy walked into the shot and the dad came up and asked that I delete any videos/photos with husband son in it. He was rude and I was caught off guard.

I’ve never had this happen. Parents film their kids all the time.

I’d understand if I was just taking photos of his kid but that wasn’t the case.

I would have told him to keep his kid at home and not deleted.