Anonymous
Post 10/17/2019 21:44     Subject: Complicated Grief and my late friend’s husband
Anonymous wrote:OP I get it. I think it’s wrong too. Maybe tell the son to hire an attorney to represent his interests? I would tell the husband that he isn’t following the wishes of his first wife. It’s wrong and he should know someone knows it.

B— you must not have friends.
If I was your dead friend and you pulled that s*** with my widower and my kid, I would alhaunt your funky a** ass until you died!
Anonymous
Post 10/17/2019 21:41     Subject: Complicated Grief and my late friend’s husband
Anonymous wrote:Can't we get Congress to pass a law that says the good friends of a decedent choose how the estate should be distributed?

Anonymous
Post 10/17/2019 21:40     Subject: Complicated Grief and my late friend’s husband
Anonymous wrote:Just because it’s come up,

She was a smart woman, turned a little bit of money into wealth. I don’t think it’s okay that two kids who aren’t biologically related to her now adult child, are going to receive half of that wealth. She didn’t go the route of a trust specifically because he had no intentions of starting a second family. She was my friend, I know details because when you prepare for end of life people like to talk through things. We talked through how our children will continue on without us and the money gave her a huge relief for her son.
Marrying someone with kids is one thing, but fully taking on two young kids plus a baby is different, and I don’t think it’s right that he’s taking an “all is equal” approach because she would have protected her son if this was something she thought would happen.

Mind your damn business. Dead people don’t care about money. How about celebrating with the people who are still living in that the sun has more people to love on him and to be connected to him now you need to get a freaking life.
Anonymous
Post 10/17/2019 21:36     Subject: Complicated Grief and my late friend’s husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but that's ridiculous. Your friend's husband didn't die with her, "nearing 50" is not 80, he is entitled to move on with his life and to start a family with his new spouse if he so chooses. Oldest son is in college, he's not being neglected or abused or being left to starve in the streets. No one is guaranteed or has the right to expect any inheritance.


No child has a right to expect an inheritance. But you damn well bet that if I work hard all my life and want to leave something to my children, and I am on my deathbed, I am not taking any promises from my soon to be widowed DH. Let this be a lesson DCUM, Get a life insurance policy payable to a Trust just for YOUR own children. I made sure of this after I divorced my X DH. No way I am paying for him and his new wife to do, well, anything. I accept that he might get married again, have more kids, whatever he wants to do. But I won't let MY share of the assets end up in some other woman's pocket or providing for other people's children. I have arranged everything to protect MY kids.

Get your affairs in order now before the unexpected happens.

Woahhhh Nelly!
Bitter Betty has arrived, let the projection begin!!!
Anonymous
Post 10/17/2019 21:34     Subject: Complicated Grief and my late friend’s husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I agree I’d be angry his son was not his #1 priority. I would make my husband swear it on my deathbed.


I would do more than that. I'd make sure my child was protected in my will to whatever degree possible. Men suck!

How is the son not a priority?
What are you gonna do hope somebody’s they don’t follow your explicit directions?
Anonymous
Post 10/17/2019 21:31     Subject: Complicated Grief and my late friend’s husband
By any chance are you 12? Because anybody who has lived past the age of 30 have a pretty good idea that you don’t make promises about shit that’s gonna happen 50 years from now !
Hey, life is complicated and you expect him to stop his life to honor a promise he made to somebody on their deathbed ???A promise about something she cannot affect when she’s gone, please tell me you’re not out of middle school yet
Anonymous
Post 10/17/2019 21:30     Subject: Complicated Grief and my late friend’s husband
Are you married?
Anonymous
Post 10/17/2019 21:29     Subject: Complicated Grief and my late friend’s husband
I want to college with someone who lost his wife to breast cancer in the mid to thousands and he’s had four kids one I was about to go to college elementary school one and he’s remarried in the last few years and they are very happy and healthy blended family maybe because the late wife did not have some nosy ass friends
Anonymous
Post 10/17/2019 21:28     Subject: Complicated Grief and my late friend’s husband
What the F is the sun not getting? Maybe the man lives to 102 and he spends every damn dime he has seriously if he loves his son if he cares for him if he’s supportive and is a guiding hand you’re worried about if he’s divvying up some gotdern China? The man is now able to find love again and add onto his family, not replace ! WTF, are you smoking crack?
How dare you?
This man lost his wife the sun lost his mother who are you to tell them how they should move on?
Anonymous
Post 10/17/2019 21:26     Subject: Complicated Grief and my late friend’s husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry about the loss of your friend.

It's good that he was able to find love again and remarry. And it would make no sense, logically or in terms of love, for him to hold his son separate from his new family and children. In time you may be able to see that.


This, OP.


The new wife’s existing kids are not his children.
Anonymous
Post 10/17/2019 21:25     Subject: Complicated Grief and my late friend’s husband
Are you in love with the late husband?
You must be because everything you said is full of crap.
Anonymous
Post 10/17/2019 21:25     Subject: Complicated Grief and my late friend’s husband
Anonymous wrote:When I die, I want my husband to be happy, not lonely. I will die know my children will have challenges, and that will be hard to bare, but that is life unfortunately. Good luck to them, I hope it works out beautifully.

This
Anonymous
Post 10/17/2019 21:24     Subject: Complicated Grief and my late friend’s husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There is absolutely nothing you can do about it. Stop torturing yourself.


She can shame the husband. Publicly. In their social circle. Believe me that will make a difference


But why? He can do whatever he wants. It is none of her business, and she really will torture herself if she interferes. Things won’t end well. Leave the man alone. His wife died. Don’t you think he also is grieving? It was his wife! Let the man live his life.
Anonymous
Post 10/17/2019 21:21     Subject: Complicated Grief and my late friend’s husband
Anonymous wrote:There is absolutely nothing you can do about it. Stop torturing yourself.


She can shame the husband. Publicly. In their social circle. Believe me that will make a difference
Anonymous
Post 10/17/2019 21:03     Subject: Complicated Grief and my late friend’s husband
There is absolutely nothing you can do about it. Stop torturing yourself.