Anonymous
Post 09/11/2019 11:01     Subject: myschooldc kicking my son out of school
I suspect if you communicate with the school to disenroll the sibling, you would be reminded of the policy at that time.

Of course, if you just rudely ghost the school, you sow what you reap.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2019 11:00     Subject: myschooldc kicking my son out of school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I find it hard to believe a parent believes they can use sibling preference to get a kid in, and then pull the sibling out of school without consequences. But there seem to be a bunch of you who feel you should be able to do so.


I know, right?


No, it's the lack of warning and opportunity to find a replacement when you are kicked out right when school is starting. I think communication and education about this policy, along with consistent enforcement, would go a long way toward helping. I am not the OP, but I learned about this policy and had a back-up plan in case our younger child got kicked out when we moved our older child. Our situation worked out, but, child care on no notice, if you haven't heard about this policy, can be very hard to come by.


I have very limited sympathy for OP. Here's why:

If I had two children, one enrolled at School A and one on the waitlist for School A with "sibling enrolled" preference, I would be damn sure to notify School A that my older child had been offered a seat at a new school and to ask them what that would do to the status of my younger child, on the waitlist with a "sibling enrolled" preference. That is logical. You don't get to claim preference for a sibling being enrolled when that is not true.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2019 10:56     Subject: myschooldc kicking my son out of school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I find it hard to believe a parent believes they can use sibling preference to get a kid in, and then pull the sibling out of school without consequences. But there seem to be a bunch of you who feel you should be able to do so.


I know, right?


No, it's the lack of warning and opportunity to find a replacement when you are kicked out right when school is starting. I think communication and education about this policy, along with consistent enforcement, would go a long way toward helping. I am not the OP, but I learned about this policy and had a back-up plan in case our younger child got kicked out when we moved our older child. Our situation worked out, but, child care on no notice, if you haven't heard about this policy, can be very hard to come by.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2019 10:54     Subject: Re:myschooldc kicking my son out of school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To start I think everyone is over analyzing this as we did not know this policy from the start. I would be surprised that anyone did. To call me entitled is far fetched, you have no idea. Those throwing those comments are the ones that are more likely entitled. I never tried to beat a system I didnt know of. My oldest son got accepted two days before school started into a higher seeded lottery school. We were emailed by myschooldc for the lottery spot. We didnt plan for this. We had 1 day to decide and went forward with moving him to the other school. Can everyone honestly say they knew about this policy?


OP, we could have easily found ourselves in this situation this year. (I'm PP with the PS and 5th grader.) But yes, we did know about the preference for sibling enrolled policy and would have talked to the current school before making a decision and/or switch for the older. I presume your younger child will now have sib preference at the higher ranked school and you would like them both there? If thats the case, hang tight and that will easily happen before count day. Again, if you want your younger child to stay where they are, talk to admin face to face right away.


I only learned about this policy on this board the night my rankings were due and I didn't have time to rearrange before submitting. I have been trying to learn the lottery process for years. And, yes, I found it shocking too and I don't think it is a well known policy at all.


The policy is literally described in the FAQ on the site. If you have been trying to learn the process "for years" and haven't read the FAQ section, I don't know what to tell you. I read the FAQ every year to see if something has changed and knew about the policy.

It is fairly ridiculous to me that you are getting upset about being made to adhere to a policy and using your lack of knowledge about it as justification. Ignorance of the rule is not a defense for breaking it.


Oh, I'm not the OP. I was just saying I don't think this is a well known rule at all. It seems like enforcement may be going up with the the baby boom in the city. Personally, I don't read the FAQ every year but I have watched the video and it doesn't mention this, although it does go over sibling preference in some detail.


It wouldn't have occurred to me that this would need to be spelled out, but given that it's in "Frequently Asked Questions," I guess some people think you can claim sibling preference when the sibling isn't actually going there.

Bizarre, huh?
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2019 10:52     Subject: myschooldc kicking my son out of school
Anonymous wrote:I find it hard to believe a parent believes they can use sibling preference to get a kid in, and then pull the sibling out of school without consequences. But there seem to be a bunch of you who feel you should be able to do so.


I know, right?
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2019 10:52     Subject: Re:myschooldc kicking my son out of school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To start I think everyone is over analyzing this as we did not know this policy from the start. I would be surprised that anyone did. To call me entitled is far fetched, you have no idea. Those throwing those comments are the ones that are more likely entitled. I never tried to beat a system I didnt know of. My oldest son got accepted two days before school started into a higher seeded lottery school. We were emailed by myschooldc for the lottery spot. We didnt plan for this. We had 1 day to decide and went forward with moving him to the other school. Can everyone honestly say they knew about this policy?


OP, we could have easily found ourselves in this situation this year. (I'm PP with the PS and 5th grader.) But yes, we did know about the preference for sibling enrolled policy and would have talked to the current school before making a decision and/or switch for the older. I presume your younger child will now have sib preference at the higher ranked school and you would like them both there? If thats the case, hang tight and that will easily happen before count day. Again, if you want your younger child to stay where they are, talk to admin face to face right away.


I only learned about this policy on this board the night my rankings were due and I didn't have time to rearrange before submitting. I have been trying to learn the lottery process for years. And, yes, I found it shocking too and I don't think it is a well known policy at all.


The policy is literally described in the FAQ on the site. If you have been trying to learn the process "for years" and haven't read the FAQ section, I don't know what to tell you. I read the FAQ every year to see if something has changed and knew about the policy.

It is fairly ridiculous to me that you are getting upset about being made to adhere to a policy and using your lack of knowledge about it as justification. Ignorance of the rule is not a defense for breaking it.


Oh, I'm not the OP. I was just saying I don't think this is a well known rule at all. It seems like enforcement may be going up with the the baby boom in the city. Personally, I don't read the FAQ every year but I have watched the video and it doesn't mention this, although it does go over sibling preference in some detail.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2019 10:51     Subject: myschooldc kicking my son out of school
I find it hard to believe a parent believes they can use sibling preference to get a kid in, and then pull the sibling out of school without consequences. But there seem to be a bunch of you who feel you should be able to do so.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2019 10:51     Subject: Re:myschooldc kicking my son out of school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To start I think everyone is over analyzing this as we did not know this policy from the start. I would be surprised that anyone did. To call me entitled is far fetched, you have no idea. Those throwing those comments are the ones that are more likely entitled. I never tried to beat a system I didnt know of. My oldest son got accepted two days before school started into a higher seeded lottery school. We were emailed by myschooldc for the lottery spot. We didnt plan for this. We had 1 day to decide and went forward with moving him to the other school. Can everyone honestly say they knew about this policy?


OP, we could have easily found ourselves in this situation this year. (I'm PP with the PS and 5th grader.) But yes, we did know about the preference for sibling enrolled policy and would have talked to the current school before making a decision and/or switch for the older. I presume your younger child will now have sib preference at the higher ranked school and you would like them both there? If thats the case, hang tight and that will easily happen before count day. Again, if you want your younger child to stay where they are, talk to admin face to face right away.


I only learned about this policy on this board the night my rankings were due and I didn't have time to rearrange before submitting. I have been trying to learn the lottery process for years. And, yes, I found it shocking too and I don't think it is a well known policy at all.


So you genuinely thought that that using sibling preference might actually not be contingent upon having a sibling in attendance at the school? I find it interesting you don't answer the questions asking how you addressed all this when you disenrolled your older child. Let me answer...you didn't.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2019 10:46     Subject: Re:myschooldc kicking my son out of school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To start I think everyone is over analyzing this as we did not know this policy from the start. I would be surprised that anyone did. To call me entitled is far fetched, you have no idea. Those throwing those comments are the ones that are more likely entitled. I never tried to beat a system I didnt know of. My oldest son got accepted two days before school started into a higher seeded lottery school. We were emailed by myschooldc for the lottery spot. We didnt plan for this. We had 1 day to decide and went forward with moving him to the other school. Can everyone honestly say they knew about this policy?


OP, we could have easily found ourselves in this situation this year. (I'm PP with the PS and 5th grader.) But yes, we did know about the preference for sibling enrolled policy and would have talked to the current school before making a decision and/or switch for the older. I presume your younger child will now have sib preference at the higher ranked school and you would like them both there? If thats the case, hang tight and that will easily happen before count day. Again, if you want your younger child to stay where they are, talk to admin face to face right away.


I only learned about this policy on this board the night my rankings were due and I didn't have time to rearrange before submitting. I have been trying to learn the lottery process for years. And, yes, I found it shocking too and I don't think it is a well known policy at all.


The policy is literally described in the FAQ on the site. If you have been trying to learn the process "for years" and haven't read the FAQ section, I don't know what to tell you. I read the FAQ every year to see if something has changed and knew about the policy.

It is fairly ridiculous to me that you are getting upset about being made to adhere to a policy and using your lack of knowledge about it as justification. Ignorance of the rule is not a defense for breaking it.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2019 10:41     Subject: Re:myschooldc kicking my son out of school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To start I think everyone is over analyzing this as we did not know this policy from the start. I would be surprised that anyone did. To call me entitled is far fetched, you have no idea. Those throwing those comments are the ones that are more likely entitled. I never tried to beat a system I didnt know of. My oldest son got accepted two days before school started into a higher seeded lottery school. We were emailed by myschooldc for the lottery spot. We didnt plan for this. We had 1 day to decide and went forward with moving him to the other school. Can everyone honestly say they knew about this policy?


OP, we could have easily found ourselves in this situation this year. (I'm PP with the PS and 5th grader.) But yes, we did know about the preference for sibling enrolled policy and would have talked to the current school before making a decision and/or switch for the older. I presume your younger child will now have sib preference at the higher ranked school and you would like them both there? If thats the case, hang tight and that will easily happen before count day. Again, if you want your younger child to stay where they are, talk to admin face to face right away.


I only learned about this policy on this board the night my rankings were due and I didn't have time to rearrange before submitting. I have been trying to learn the lottery process for years. And, yes, I found it shocking too and I don't think it is a well known policy at all.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2019 10:37     Subject: myschooldc kicking my son out of school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, the system is working the way it should. You only moved your older child the day before school started in hopes of avoiding this by thinking they wouldn’t notice and you know it. There’s nothing to fight. Move along and play by the rules.


Well I disagree. My child should have preferential treatment.


Sure. Everyone feels that way.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2019 10:36     Subject: Re:myschooldc kicking my son out of school
I think people are over thinking Myschools involvement in this. I am sure the original school contacted them and asked them to withdraw the sibling (in following with the posted rules), and then Myschools contacted the parent to make sure they understood what was happening. They are just the messengers, the original school was the one truly enforcing the policy. The original school likely has a lot of demand and long waitlist - and doesn’t want to encourage “gaming” of the system.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2019 10:32     Subject: myschooldc kicking my son out of school
Anonymous wrote:Although OP sounds entitled, I'm actually with her here. School acceptances should not be revoked for the year based on things like loss of a sibling preference. That's just too disruptive in cases like this one. The only reason to revoke an enrollment once it has been done should be for the child moving out of DC. Yes, this means there might be people who appear to game the system on the margins, but if we're going to have a "choice" system, it can't be totally disruptive and arbitrary.


PS didn’t even start until after the other grades! So if we’re talking about the standard DCPS calendar OP’s older kid started at the new school on Aug 26 while little bro wasn’t set to start until later that week.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2019 10:27     Subject: myschooldc kicking my son out of school
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, the system is working the way it should. You only moved your older child the day before school started in hopes of avoiding this by thinking they wouldn’t notice and you know it. There’s nothing to fight. Move along and play by the rules.


Well I disagree. My child should have preferential treatment.


Your child received the preferential treatment when there was a basis for it. "Sibling formerly enrolled" isn't a preference category for reasons that should be pretty obvious. As for why MSDC enforced the policy and not your school, I would imagine that it is in service of actual fairness to everyone in the system. "School likes you" is not a preference category either.
Anonymous
Post 09/11/2019 10:23     Subject: myschooldc kicking my son out of school
If the reason to jump to the front of the queue is that you need to keep siblings together, but it turns out that they are not going to be together after all, then you don't have an excuse to jump to the front of the waitlist queue.

And yes, if you are at the beginning of the process, that's the time to put a stop to it, because the parents sure aren't going to do it later.