Anonymous
Post 08/28/2019 10:42     Subject: SAHM with kids in school? Dealing with judgement?
Anonymous wrote:She's projecting. She felt stifled at home. She needed additional adult time. She likes to feel useful in the work world.

DON'T take it personally. It was honestly all about her, as are most of the interactions you ever have with anybody.


lol, now you're projecting!
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2019 10:39     Subject: SAHM with kids in school? Dealing with judgement?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:But seriously, OP, what do you do all day? Do you have some sort of hobby or volunteer gig that takes up your time?


I’m a PP and I’ll repeat what I wrote above. Why is that anyone’s business how she chooses to spend her days?




Not PP but because I wonder what it’s like to not positively contribute to society one bit.



This hardly describes a SAHM.


There a lot of lawyers on this board, though. You should ask them.



Anonymous
Post 08/28/2019 10:37     Subject: SAHM with kids in school? Dealing with judgement?
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Anonymous wrote:I literally would say, “why would I work if I don’t need the money? YOLO.”


Because people most likely know that isn’t true.


I’m not sure what your background is, but this is true for many.


So why does your husband have to continue to work?

Unsurprisingly, the SAHMs responding here have very poor writing skills and/or don’t seem to speak English as a first language. Therefore - less options.


It’s fewer options, genius.

—SAHM



LOL +1


Actually both are correct, depending on whether the modified word is countable. In this case, that’s debatable. But you guys are cute for trying. Now go make Daddy a martini.


Umm. No. It is fewer. It is not less. The stupid here is amazing.


It is fewer. But you don't have to harp on it. Really, grammar errors aren't worth fighting over in an online forum.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2019 10:25     Subject: Re:SAHM with kids in school? Dealing with judgement?
Honesty I’d avoid these people. I SAHM and my kids are in school (elementary) and have never had anyone question this. However, SAHM of older kids is fairly common in our neighborhood. Also, I know many moms (and dads) of school aged kids who work part time, very few hours...

When asked, I talk about my volunteer work (which is in my former field and NOT kid related).

I’d avoid people who question your life choices in this way OP- this is not normal- I have not had this issue at all. I also wouldn’t bother trying to analyze their feelings as some are (oh maybe they are jealous etc) - I mean, who cares?
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2019 10:24     Subject: SAHM with kids in school? Dealing with judgement?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I literally would say, “why would I work if I don’t need the money? YOLO.”


Because people most likely know that isn’t true.


I’m not sure what your background is, but this is true for many.


So why does your husband have to continue to work?

Unsurprisingly, the SAHMs responding here have very poor writing skills and/or don’t seem to speak English as a first language. Therefore - less options.


It’s fewer options, genius.

—SAHM



LOL +1


Actually both are correct, depending on whether the modified word is countable. In this case, that’s debatable. But you guys are cute for trying. Now go make Daddy a martini.


Umm. No. It is fewer. It is not less. The stupid here is amazing.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2019 10:23     Subject: SAHM with kids in school? Dealing with judgement?
Some people are just weird and have poor social skills. It is too bad, but that is her problem.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2019 10:22     Subject: SAHM with kids in school? Dealing with judgement?
Anonymous wrote:Gen X SAHM of tweens and teens here. You do you, boo. Ask why this person feels such a need to butt into your business. It isn't her call. You have a great life that is working for you. You probably look relaxed and happy, and this person cannot deal with it. My life is GREAT, and my husband fully supports me. You cannot buy that.


People who say “you do you, boo” are mental midgets.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2019 10:15     Subject: SAHM with kids in school? Dealing with judgement?
Gen X SAHM of tweens and teens here. You do you, boo. Ask why this person feels such a need to butt into your business. It isn't her call. You have a great life that is working for you. You probably look relaxed and happy, and this person cannot deal with it. My life is GREAT, and my husband fully supports me. You cannot buy that.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2019 10:10     Subject: SAHM with kids in school? Dealing with judgement?
She's projecting. She felt stifled at home. She needed additional adult time. She likes to feel useful in the work world.

DON'T take it personally. It was honestly all about her, as are most of the interactions you ever have with anybody.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2019 10:08     Subject: SAHM with kids in school? Dealing with judgement?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No! I’ve never felt judged, and certainly haven’t been aggressively questioned. I’ve only gotten “lucky!” remarks.

But, this lady sounds horrible, obviously she’s a head case, avoid for sure. Enjoy!


This. I usually just get “lucky!”


I'm a WOHM and usually think AND say "lucky!" And I say this as someone who would still work even if I didn't have to (just not as many hours... sigh).

I can't imagine aggressively questioning another person on their life choices. To me it's akin to another mom saying, "Wow, you work? Do you think your job is important? How can you abandon your child every day? I could never let someone else raise my kids."
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2019 10:04     Subject: SAHM with kids in school? Dealing with judgement?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:But seriously, OP, what do you do all day? Do you have some sort of hobby or volunteer gig that takes up your time?


I’m a PP and I’ll repeat what I wrote above. Why is that anyone’s business how she chooses to spend her days?


Because it contributes to the patriarchal society that we all live in and sets a terrible example for children. but SAHMs are selfish by nature, so they don’t care. ME ME MEEE!
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2019 10:02     Subject: Re:SAHM with kids in school? Dealing with judgement?
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Anonymous wrote:I am not OP,
My daily schedule:
Monday:
Breakfast,pack Lunches, and walk kids to bus stop.
Dishes, clean house, laundry,make Lunch or dinner.
Read, take online class and rest.
Pick up kids from the bus stop and serve snacks and help with homework.
Drive kids to dance class and drive back home.
Dinner, dishes and and family time before kids take showers and get ready for bed. Read stories to my kindergarten and light out.
It's 8:30pm, clean up kitchen and set kids clothes for next day.
Take my shower and read more before bed! I am super tired by 10pm.

Happy reading and repeat and Rinse the rest of the week. Saturday and Sunday dh takes over. Thank God.


I’m a wohp and this schedule sounds incredibly luxurious to me. That being said, I have lots of friends who are SAHPs and have lots to deal with in their lives and juggling 2 full time jobs would be miserable for their families. I also think other families decisions aren’t usually my business and I refrain from judging with a few exceptions (like not vaccinating).


Some of us have husbands who can’t or won’t pitch in, but make plenty for us to SAH. I would be incredibly resentful if I had to work FT and do everything else too since DH frequently doesn’t get home until 7:30/8pm. If he wants me to work FT, he needs to get a standard 8-5 gig but he doesn’t want to. Instead, the “everything else” is my job and I don’t resent it. Works for us.


So your husband is an asshole and therefore you depend on him financially. Sounds awesome!
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2019 10:02     Subject: SAHM with kids in school? Dealing with judgement?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I literally would say, “why would I work if I don’t need the money? YOLO.”


Because people most likely know that isn’t true.


I’m not sure what your background is, but this is true for many.


So why does your husband have to continue to work?

Unsurprisingly, the SAHMs responding here have very poor writing skills and/or don’t seem to speak English as a first language. Therefore - less options.


It’s fewer options, genius.

—SAHM



LOL +1


Actually both are correct, depending on whether the modified word is countable. In this case, that’s debatable. But you guys are cute for trying. Now go make Daddy a martini.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2019 09:58     Subject: SAHM with kids in school? Dealing with judgement?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:But seriously, OP, what do you do all day? Do you have some sort of hobby or volunteer gig that takes up your time?


I’m a PP and I’ll repeat what I wrote above. Why is that anyone’s business how she chooses to spend her days?


Not PP but because I wonder what it’s like to not positively contribute to society one bit.




You diminish society with your negativity and inept judgement.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2019 09:52     Subject: SAHM with kids in school? Dealing with judgement?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I literally would say, “why would I work if I don’t need the money? YOLO.”


Because people most likely know that isn’t true.


I’m not sure what your background is, but this is true for many.


So why does your husband have to continue to work?

Unsurprisingly, the SAHMs responding here have very poor writing skills and/or don’t seem to speak English as a first language. Therefore - less options.


It’s fewer options, genius.

—SAHM



LOL +1