Anonymous
08/21/2019 20:34
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
I’m 50. My kid is 10. In this area, with a high number of AMA moms, I would not make that assumption. Err on the side of assuming it’s the parent.
Anonymous
08/21/2019 20:24
Subject: Re:If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
In this area, I would assume they're a parent.
Anonymous
08/21/2019 20:18
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Parents are beyond ancient now. Never assume.
But at least they are wiser, more civil, and better-mannered than you.
You should be ashamed of yourself.
I don’t say it to their faces, but just getting started having kids in your mid to late 40s is OLD. And risky for the mother AND the child. It seems to require a certain level of self-absorption that does not go unnoticed.
Wow. That kind of scorekeeping is going to cause you a lot of unhappiness. It’s also completely off-topic for the original question posed here.
Anonymous
08/21/2019 20:14
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Parents are beyond ancient now. Never assume.
But at least they are wiser, more civil, and better-mannered than you.
You should be ashamed of yourself.
I don’t say it to their faces, but just getting started having kids in your mid to late 40s is OLD. And risky for the mother AND the child. It seems to require a certain level of self-absorption that does not go unnoticed.
Anonymous
08/21/2019 19:48
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
Assume what you want, and face the consequences.
I would cut you dead if you suggested my children were my grandchildren. It wouldn't be worth the faux pas. Promise.
Anonymous
08/21/2019 19:28
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
Anonymous wrote:I was a preschool teacher and had a mom/dad couple in their late 50s early 60s with twins. First kids for either.
I have a friend who had her first at 56.
Both used donor eggs. Both breastfed and were quite defensive about it.
No doubt thanks to people like OP.
Anonymous
08/21/2019 19:19
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
I was a preschool teacher and had a mom/dad couple in their late 50s early 60s with twins. First kids for either.
I have a friend who had her first at 56.
Both used donor eggs. Both breastfed and were quite defensive about it.
I have a friend who had her first at 56.
Both used donor eggs. Both breastfed and were quite defensive about it.
Anonymous
08/21/2019 18:34
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
Anonymous wrote:I’ve been called grandma many times and I can’t think of a single time that I liked it. Do you really think grandma takes the kids to preschool orientation?
In some cultures, yes.
Anonymous
08/21/2019 18:29
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
Anonymous wrote:Parents are beyond ancient now. Never assume.
But at least they are wiser, more civil, and better-mannered than you.
You should be ashamed of yourself.
Anonymous
08/21/2019 17:41
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
We are 45/46 with a 5-month old. Never assume.
Anonymous
08/21/2019 16:33
Subject: Re:If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
Never, ever assume the woman is the grandmother!! I was about to compliment one woman on her beautiful grandchild when she opened her shirt and started nursing. I swear she was at least 50. So glad I didn’t say anything!
Anonymous
08/21/2019 14:51
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
It's never "safe to assume" based on appearances. You should know this already.
Anonymous
08/21/2019 14:50
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
Op. Are you concerned someone is thinking this if you?
Anonymous
08/21/2019 14:49
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
I’ve been called grandma many times and I can’t think of a single time that I liked it. Do you really think grandma takes the kids to preschool orientation?
Anonymous
08/21/2019 14:39
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
DH here. My youngest was born when I was 50. Awkward? Yes. Got worse, not better, over time.