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Anonymous wrote:$500-700

Each? For 8 days???

Including payment for 16 hours a day of childcare, why do you think that's unreasonable?

If it wasn't an aunt you'd pay more than that.

She isn't paying for child care. She's leaving money for food and extras. After they return, she can get her a nice gift card for her time. So, they need dinner out and an activity or two for the weekend days they are gone.

She specifically said the money was to pay her for her troubles. So, yes, she's expecting this money to cover paying for childcare.

I would never leave my kids with such a person.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is making me think. But I'll offer my opinion (late 20s childless). If it were me (and it has been me) I'd want meals covered and if I'm staying in your home, would be great if you actually planned the meals your kids like, which I could prepare. Spending money for the kids would be great. A gift card after would be amazing but not expected.

True. Overnight care is alot, family or not.

Anonymous wrote:This thread is making me think. But I'll offer my opinion (late 20s childless). If it were me (and it has been me) I'd want meals covered and if I'm staying in your home, would be great if you actually planned the meals your kids like, which I could prepare. Spending money for the kids would be great. A gift card after would be amazing but not expected.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you figuring this per child? I’d give her $500 for the whole shabang.

And I would feed your kids nothing but water for 8 days.

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Anonymous wrote:It also shows aunt that she should never ask anything of you OP as your view would be that she would need to compensate you for it. That you would only help her if he hired you and compensated you financially for your help.

Aunt isn't like you OP. She sees your kids as part of her famy and enjoys being with them and getting to do things for them. Her famy of famy is not that any time with her nieces/nephews must be paid time.

You can't see her side because the idea of helping without beig paid for it is foreign to you and you would frel insilted and taken advantage of if someone didn't pau you for your time. She can't see your side because the idea of being paid for helping family is foreign to her and insulted by your perception that she is hired help.

Lots of people in this thread on both sides.

I'm the OP and have watched my SILs 4 kids for 2 weeks and asked for nothing. So I basically had 7 children for 14 days. I took no money and was offered none. And I was fine with that. So not sure why my offering money implies I expect money. I offered money because my friend/their Aunt is doing us a huge favor, is not a blood relative, and doesn't have to do any of it and I didn't want my children to be a burden.

So, the aunt is not really their aunt?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - Aunt is the most wonderful, kind, and generous person but I did not want to leave her with nothing. I did not want to seem like we were taking advantage of her. I ended up venmoing her $750. She immediately got insulted and sent it right back to me. So there's that. We talked about it. She said "how dare you pay me to watch my nieces and nephews. I'm so excited to spend the week with them." I then told her when we dropped them off I would leave a credit card just in case. She pushed back but I'm doing it anyway. I'll give it to my 13 year old if she continues to balk. Better safe than sorry.

I agree with the Aunt. Do not push back. What does that mean, better safe than sorry. Are you saying she literally can't afford to do whatever she is planning? If that is not the case, stop pushing the money on her. Seriously, it is insulting and it interferes with your relationship. Do not listen to most of DCUM on this. DCUM doesn't know how to do family. Don't treat her like a babysitter or a nanny. Instead, send her something nice (gift or giftcard to favorite place) AFTER it's done.

Agree. My sister would have reacted the same way and she is poor!! With my sister, is probably being a bag of groceries with some of the kids favorite vacation breakfasts and snacks.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$500-700

Each? For 8 days???

Including payment for 16 hours a day of childcare, why do you think that's unreasonable?

If it wasn't an aunt you'd pay more than that.

She isn't paying for child care. She's leaving money for food and extras. After they return, she can get her a nice gift card for her time. So, they need dinner out and an activity or two for the weekend days they are gone.

She specifically said the money was to pay her for her troubles. So, yes, she's expecting this money to cover paying for childcare.

I would never leave my kids with such a person.

Ugh. You think that you are entitled to free childcare from your relatives and that the relative who agrees to watch *your* children should also be on the hook for paying for their food, entertainment, gas, etc....Seriously? Way to use a family member.

Literally NO ONE is saying that.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - Aunt is the most wonderful, kind, and generous person but I did not want to leave her with nothing. I did not want to seem like we were taking advantage of her. I ended up venmoing her $750. She immediately got insulted and sent it right back to me. So there's that. We talked about it. She said "how dare you pay me to watch my nieces and nephews. I'm so excited to spend the week with them." I then told her when we dropped them off I would leave a credit card just in case. She pushed back but I'm doing it anyway. I'll give it to my 13 year old if she continues to balk. Better safe than sorry.

I agree with the Aunt. Do not push back. What does that mean, better safe than sorry. Are you saying she literally can't afford to do whatever she is planning? If that is not the case, stop pushing the money on her. Seriously, it is insulting and it interferes with your relationship. Do not listen to most of DCUM on this. DCUM doesn't know how to do family. Don't treat her like a babysitter or a nanny. Instead, send her something nice (gift or giftcard to favorite place) AFTER it's done.

Anonymous wrote:OP here - Aunt is the most wonderful, kind, and generous person but I did not want to leave her with nothing. I did not want to seem like we were taking advantage of her. I ended up venmoing her $750. She immediately got insulted and sent it right back to me. So there's that. We talked about it. She said "how dare you pay me to watch my nieces and nephews. I'm so excited to spend the week with them." I then told her when we dropped them off I would leave a credit card just in case. She pushed back but I'm doing it anyway. I'll give it to my 13 year old if she continues to balk. Better safe than sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:It also shows aunt that she should never ask anything of you OP as your view would be that she would need to compensate you for it. That you would only help her if he hired you and compensated you financially for your help.

Aunt isn't like you OP. She sees your kids as part of her famy and enjoys being with them and getting to do things for them. Her famy of famy is not that any time with her nieces/nephews must be paid time.

You can't see her side because the idea of helping without beig paid for it is foreign to you and you would frel insilted and taken advantage of if someone didn't pau you for your time. She can't see your side because the idea of being paid for helping family is foreign to her and insulted by your perception that she is hired help.

Lots of people in this thread on both sides.

I'm the OP and have watched my SILs 4 kids for 2 weeks and asked for nothing. So I basically had 7 children for 14 days. I took no money and was offered none. And I was fine with that. So not sure why my offering money implies I expect money. I offered money because my friend/their Aunt is doing us a huge favor, is not a blood relative, and doesn't have to do any of it and I didn't want my children to be a burden.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$500-700

Each? For 8 days???

Including payment for 16 hours a day of childcare, why do you think that's unreasonable?

If it wasn't an aunt you'd pay more than that.

She isn't paying for child care. She's leaving money for food and extras. After they return, she can get her a nice gift card for her time. So, they need dinner out and an activity or two for the weekend days they are gone.

She specifically said the money was to pay her for her troubles. So, yes, she's expecting this money to cover paying for childcare.

I would never leave my kids with such a person.

Ugh. You think that you are entitled to free childcare from your relatives and that the relative who agrees to watch *your* children should also be on the hook for paying for their food, entertainment, gas, etc....Seriously? Way to use a family member.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$500-700

Each? For 8 days???

Including payment for 16 hours a day of childcare, why do you think that's unreasonable?

If it wasn't an aunt you'd pay more than that.

She isn't paying for child care. She's leaving money for food and extras. After they return, she can get her a nice gift card for her time. So, they need dinner out and an activity or two for the weekend days they are gone.

She specifically said the money was to pay her for her troubles. So, yes, she's expecting this money to cover paying for childcare.

I would never leave my kids with such a person.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$500-700

Each? For 8 days???

Including payment for 16 hours a day of childcare, why do you think that's unreasonable?

If it wasn't an aunt you'd pay more than that.

She isn't paying for child care. She's leaving money for food and extras. After they return, she can get her a nice gift card for her time. So, they need dinner out and an activity or two for the weekend days they are gone.

She specifically said the money was to pay her for her troubles. So, yes, she's expecting this money to cover paying for childcare.