Anonymous
07/15/2019 22:36
Subject: Why is the threat or punishment always “taking away electronics?”
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What works better for you, OP?
Assigning extra chores.
They get their toys/electronics/rides/etc AFTER said chores are completed. Then at least my house gets vacuumed, dishes get done, etc when my kids misbehave. It may sound silly, but this goes a long way in helping me stay calm and collected in difficult situations.
Also, I never threaten anything I’m not prepared to follow through on. My kids 100% know I mean it when I say something. This is the most important thing. I see parents yelling, threatening all sorts of things and their kids still don’t listen. Of course not! They threatened to leave and and are still screaming 20 minutes later - of course their kids don’t take them seriously. Taking away screens is the next easiest option.
Above is not OP, but I am OP.
Honestly don’t want to say what we do because I will be roasted, as is very OP on DCUM. It’s not taking away electronics because they don’t have any.
What is your definition of “electronics,” OP? I am guessing that your children have access to refrigerated foods, washer/dryer, etc. Do you just mean electronic devices used for entertainment? So nothing that plugs into a wall or used a battery? No RC cars at your house? Kids can’t use a calculator? Or do you mean “screens?” If that’s what you meant, then why not say it? Or did you specifically mean iPad/cell phone/kindle? I don’t know, but I sort of feel like you are arbitrarily limiting your definition of “electronic.”
I feel like this is all very vague.
Anonymous
07/15/2019 21:43
Subject: Why is the threat or punishment always “taking away electronics?”
Still laughing about the mini M&M!
Anonymous
07/15/2019 21:31
Subject: Why is the threat or punishment always “taking away electronics?”
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Just seems to be, by far, the most commonly recommended punishment on DCUM. What’s that all about?
The answer is in the question. Context clues couldn't help you figure this one out?
So you don’t think this is common outside of DCUM, or you just wanted to call me stupid?
And I don’t know how common this is in my own friend group because I don’t know the specifics of discipline strategies of more than half of them, so while I’ve seen people threaten to take away screen time, I’ve seen other strategies, and also haven’t seen the strategies of most of my friends in action. For all I know, this could be just as common outside of DCUM (in the DMV, where I live).
Anonymous
07/15/2019 21:17
Subject: Why is the threat or punishment always “taking away electronics?”
Anonymous wrote:Just seems to be, by far, the most commonly recommended punishment on DCUM. What’s that all about?
The answer is in the question. Context clues couldn't help you figure this one out?
Anonymous
07/15/2019 21:13
Subject: Why is the threat or punishment always “taking away electronics?”
*every, not very
Anonymous
07/15/2019 21:09
Subject: Why is the threat or punishment always “taking away electronics?”
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What works better for you, OP?
Assigning extra chores.
They get their toys/electronics/rides/etc AFTER said chores are completed. Then at least my house gets vacuumed, dishes get done, etc when my kids misbehave. It may sound silly, but this goes a long way in helping me stay calm and collected in difficult situations.
Also, I never threaten anything I’m not prepared to follow through on. My kids 100% know I mean it when I say something. This is the most important thing. I see parents yelling, threatening all sorts of things and their kids still don’t listen. Of course not! They threatened to leave and and are still screaming 20 minutes later - of course their kids don’t take them seriously. Taking away screens is the next easiest option.
Above is not OP, but I am OP.
Honestly don’t want to say what we do because I will be roasted, as is very OP on DCUM. It’s not taking away electronics because they don’t have any.
Anonymous
07/15/2019 20:12
Subject: Why is the threat or punishment always “taking away electronics?”
The lazy and/or punitive parenting on here is nothing short of depressing
Anonymous
07/15/2019 18:57
Subject: Why is the threat or punishment always “taking away electronics?”
Anonymous wrote:What works better for you, OP?
Assigning extra chores.
They get their toys/electronics/rides/etc AFTER said chores are completed. Then at least my house gets vacuumed, dishes get done, etc when my kids misbehave. It may sound silly, but this goes a long way in helping me stay calm and collected in difficult situations.
Also, I never threaten anything I’m not prepared to follow through on. My kids 100% know I mean it when I say something. This is the most important thing. I see parents yelling, threatening all sorts of things and their kids still don’t listen. Of course not! They threatened to leave and and are still screaming 20 minutes later - of course their kids don’t take them seriously. Taking away screens is the next easiest option.
Anonymous
07/15/2019 18:46
Subject: Why is the threat or punishment always “taking away electronics?”
Anonymous wrote:Because screens are addictive. And kids want to use them, that's why they are such good candidates to be taken away as punishment.
If they are addictive, why allow them to the point of addiction in the first place? This seems so backwards to me.
Anonymous
07/15/2019 15:42
Subject: Why is the threat or punishment always “taking away electronics?”
We do natural consequences when appropriate. But not all situations have a natural consequence.
We don't use food as a reward or punishment.
I don't find time outs to be useful for a 6 year old.
If I take away a toy he loves, he has others to choose from that he loves
If I take away his Kindle time, he doesnt have anythjng thats equivalent to it.
Ds is very well behaved and we've had many people comment on it. So what we do works when it's needed.
We don't use food as a reward or punishment.
I don't find time outs to be useful for a 6 year old.
If I take away a toy he loves, he has others to choose from that he loves
If I take away his Kindle time, he doesnt have anythjng thats equivalent to it.
Ds is very well behaved and we've had many people comment on it. So what we do works when it's needed.
Anonymous
07/15/2019 15:34
Subject: Why is the threat or punishment always “taking away electronics?”
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you want kids to learn self control and self motivation, the consequence needs to be natural or at least logical. Ie: related to the behavior. Taking away iPad for hitting brother is neither.
Has no one here read a parenting book?
Shocker, isn't it?
How did anyone ever raise their kids without books to tell them how??
Please tell how you would handle one kid hitting another? Step by step so we can all be more knowledgeable.
If my kid hit his brother over something to do with the iPad, damn straight I'm taking the iPad away.
Sounds like a spanking is in order then...
Anonymous
07/15/2019 14:15
Subject: Why is the threat or punishment always “taking away electronics?”
Anonymous wrote:It depends on which kid I'm punishing. For my older teens, restricting their phones is what yields results. In fact, I haven't had to punish either in a really long time.
For my middle schooler, taking away video games and iPad time is what works for him.
For my youngest, who doesn't care much about screens and doesn't have a phone, I take away books. Parents gasp when I say this, but a book to her is like a video game or iPad to their kids. She's a bookworm, homebody so an effective punishment for her is no books and having to go outside and play.
we take away books sometimes, too. I think it also helps identify them as desirable.
Anonymous
07/15/2019 14:12
Subject: Why is the threat or punishment always “taking away electronics?”
Anonymous wrote:If you want kids to learn self control and self motivation, the consequence needs to be natural or at least logical. Ie: related to the behavior. Taking away iPad for hitting brother is neither.
Has no one here read a parenting book?
Shocker, isn't it?
How did anyone ever raise their kids without books to tell them how??
Please tell how you would handle one kid hitting another? Step by step so we can all be more knowledgeable.
If my kid hit his brother over something to do with the iPad, damn straight I'm taking the iPad away.
Anonymous
07/15/2019 14:12
Subject: Why is the threat or punishment always “taking away electronics?”
Rewarding with or punishing with food is against today's recommended parenting best practices. It primes kids for eating disorders later on.
That said, my LO loooooooves sugary treats and can be motivated to do just about anything to get candy. It's nevertheless healthier to make rewards/punishments iPad time than food.
That said, my LO loooooooves sugary treats and can be motivated to do just about anything to get candy. It's nevertheless healthier to make rewards/punishments iPad time than food.
Anonymous
07/15/2019 14:01
Subject: Why is the threat or punishment always “taking away electronics?”
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:For those of you who say your children are addicted, why allow electronics (or the addictive aspects) at all? Or is the addiction benign in your opinion?
I don't understand the need to give electronics to kids. They don't need to watch videos or play games all day.
Did you never watch tv as a kid? That's an electronic. It has a screen. Today, they have other electronics.
I thought we were talking about TV.