Anonymous
Post 07/21/2019 16:29     Subject: Re:6th grade girl trends
This is why we need school uniforms. So glad my kids are in private, where there is none of this competition of having the cool stuff. The focus is on education.
Anonymous
Post 07/21/2019 12:36     Subject: 6th grade girl trends
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Trendy things you can buy in the store are nice, but it doesn't make people like you. I know you want to help her to fit in, but it sounds to me like your DD already has the "right stuff" on her own. She doesn't need to have the perfect pair of sneakers to find success. Being awkward at this age just makes her unique. Tell her to be herself...say hello to someone new...smile...be confident. Confidence looks great on everyone. Kids will see that she is special and want to be her friend for reasons that really matter.


Yes from your adult perspective you are correct. But actually from a middle school perspective, yeah the right shoes or clothes can be all it takes. It’s a development stage and you can’t moralize them out of it.

thank you. the number of posters who want to shame 12 year olds for *gasp* acting completely, 100% developmentally normal for their age is so weird to me.


NO ONE is shaming the 12 year olds. We are rightly shaming adult parents who should know better than to give in to this immature way of thinking and reinforce it.

The fact that you don't know the difference is what is so pathetic and sad.
Anonymous
Post 07/21/2019 10:41     Subject: 6th grade girl trends
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Trendy things you can buy in the store are nice, but it doesn't make people like you. I know you want to help her to fit in, but it sounds to me like your DD already has the "right stuff" on her own. She doesn't need to have the perfect pair of sneakers to find success. Being awkward at this age just makes her unique. Tell her to be herself...say hello to someone new...smile...be confident. Confidence looks great on everyone. Kids will see that she is special and want to be her friend for reasons that really matter.


Yes from your adult perspective you are correct. But actually from a middle school perspective, yeah the right shoes or clothes can be all it takes. It’s a development stage and you can’t moralize them out of it.

thank you. the number of posters who want to shame 12 year olds for *gasp* acting completely, 100% developmentally normal for their age is so weird to me.
Anonymous
Post 07/21/2019 10:38     Subject: 6th grade girl trends
Anonymous wrote:Trendy things you can buy in the store are nice, but it doesn't make people like you. I know you want to help her to fit in, but it sounds to me like your DD already has the "right stuff" on her own. She doesn't need to have the perfect pair of sneakers to find success. Being awkward at this age just makes her unique. Tell her to be herself...say hello to someone new...smile...be confident. Confidence looks great on everyone. Kids will see that she is special and want to be her friend for reasons that really matter.


Yes from your adult perspective you are correct. But actually from a middle school perspective, yeah the right shoes or clothes can be all it takes. It’s a development stage and you can’t moralize them out of it.
Anonymous
Post 07/21/2019 00:47     Subject: 6th grade girl trends
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Lots of black leggings and shorts (Lululemon is most popular but that “style” works), Birkenstocks, hydroflask. I wouldn’t worry about backpack as that is parked in the locker all day.

Also, make sure she has a phone. That is how all socializing is done.


Is hydro flask better than yeti?


Someone please answer this question!!!!!!!


At the moment it’s trendier.


Yeti is older crowd. Think 20s and up
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2019 15:16     Subject: 6th grade girl trends
Anonymous wrote:I have a rising 7th grade DD. Now, my daughter is bookish but loves clothes too and has friends in many circles. She loves Nordstroms/ Nordstroms Rack, Vineyard Vines, and a few basic pieces from Old Navy. She hates athletic clothes and leggings and will not wear them even to fit in. Recently, she has been into artsy wedges. Her backpack is from PB Teen Harry Potter line and she wears her hair straight or curly. She is confident but kind of selective in terms of who she talks too. She does not like children with loose morals, to put it lightly.


I just hope that you and your daughter recognize that you're also unable to judge a book by its cover. Your comment about *children* with loose morals is a bit concerning.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2019 11:41     Subject: 6th grade girl trends
Some of these posters need to take a course in child/adolescent development.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2019 11:36     Subject: Re:6th grade girl trends
Anonymous wrote:So if I understand this thread correctly, tween girls are judged by the water bottles they use and it's pretty much the parents perpetuating this madness.





Yes, and these same idiot parents have confused indoctrinating their children in marketing BS with "empathy". Idiots.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2019 11:33     Subject: Re:6th grade girl trends
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Trendy things you can buy in the store are nice, but it doesn't make people like you. I know you want to help her to fit in, but it sounds to me like your DD already has the "right stuff" on her own. She doesn't need to have the perfect pair of sneakers to find success. Being awkward at this age just makes her unique. Tell her to be herself...say hello to someone new...smile...be confident. Confidence looks great on everyone. Kids will see that she is special and want to be her friend for reasons that really matter.


Do you have a 6th grader? I think you underestimate just how immature, shallow, and vicious 6th grade girls can be. It's a difficult year, especially for girls. If a mom can make things a little easier by getting their child a few things, this could help DD's confidence level.


Do you know why this is? Because they have moms like you that buy in to the idea that you have the "right" stuff to be cool. This is all so sad because adults are acting like immature middle schoolers.

Middle school is tough, to be sure, but you survive it. Those who come out better on the other side are the ones who have confidence in themselves and make friendships based on shared interests. The ones who get spoiled by their parents and think having a certain water bottle is essential end up as equally awful and annoying adults.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2019 07:56     Subject: 6th grade girl trends
We have S'well and Hydroflask. The S'well is easier to carry around, but the Hydro better and keeping water cold (like at the pool on a 99 degree day). My DD says she actually drinks more water b/c the Hydroflask keeps it so cool.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2019 21:54     Subject: 6th grade girl trends
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Lots of black leggings and shorts (Lululemon is most popular but that “style” works), Birkenstocks, hydroflask. I wouldn’t worry about backpack as that is parked in the locker all day.

Also, make sure she has a phone. That is how all socializing is done.


Is hydro flask better than yeti?


Someone please answer this question!!!!!!!


My kids - both middle schoolers - are into S'well water bottles. DD said kids have both S'well and Hydroflasks but she said Hydroflasks are way too big.

Anonymous
Post 07/19/2019 21:06     Subject: Re:6th grade girl trends
I’m a 40 year old women who uses a hydro flask and am shocked and somewhat embarrassed to discover here that they are popular with tweens. But I would like to comment that they keep water cold for a long time. Ice cubes will stay frozen overnight in a hydro flask. They do dent rather easily, and I don’t own a yeti so I can’t compare the two. I live in the southeastern US where it’s hot most of the year, so I really appreciated my hydro flask. Just wanted to post in case anyone is wondering what the draw is.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2019 18:13     Subject: Re:6th grade girl trends
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Trendy things you can buy in the store are nice, but it doesn't make people like you. I know you want to help her to fit in, but it sounds to me like your DD already has the "right stuff" on her own. She doesn't need to have the perfect pair of sneakers to find success. Being awkward at this age just makes her unique. Tell her to be herself...say hello to someone new...smile...be confident. Confidence looks great on everyone. Kids will see that she is special and want to be her friend for reasons that really matter.


Do you have a 6th grader? I think you underestimate just how immature, shallow, and vicious 6th grade girls can be. It's a difficult year, especially for girls. If a mom can make things a little easier by getting their child a few things, this could help DD's confidence level.


Actually, yes I do. I have one in 6th and one in 7th. They are both well liked, athletic, academically gifted and confident. My girls haven’t experienced anyone giving them a hard time about what water bottle they drink from, although to be fair if they asked for a hydro flask I would probably buy it. Seems sad to me to be starting the new school year loading your daughter up with the things DCUM thinks are cool instead of letting her decide that on her own, but it’s okay if we differ in opinion. To me, the people that only care what I drink water out of aren’t worth the “friendship.” Good luck!


That’s nice for your girls. But their mother is seriously lacking in empathy. What if your daughter was the previous poster’s dd, who doesn’t have any friends? What if your daughter was not “athletic, academically gifted and well liked”?


Well, then I guess I would run out to the store and buy each of them a hydroflask! Apparently that solves everything. You win!

DP. Not, that doesn't solve everything, and yes, you do sound insufferable. Get off your high horse already.


Let's see...well liked, athletic, academically gifted and confident. Queen bees?

Anonymous
Post 07/19/2019 17:44     Subject: Re:6th grade girl trends
So if I understand this thread correctly, tween girls are judged by the water bottles they use and it's pretty much the parents perpetuating this madness.



Anonymous
Post 07/19/2019 16:33     Subject: 6th grade girl trends
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Lots of black leggings and shorts (Lululemon is most popular but that “style” works), Birkenstocks, hydroflask. I wouldn’t worry about backpack as that is parked in the locker all day.

Also, make sure she has a phone. That is how all socializing is done.


Is hydro flask better than yeti?


Someone please answer this question!!!!!!!


At the moment it’s trendier.