OP here. They ended up naming him Jeremiah

Calling your kids “Zo” or “Jo” isn’t the same as naming your child Joseph and calling him “joe”. The former is a mom shortening a name. The latter is an established nickname.

Here’s what’s going to happen: your baby is going to be called Jonah because that’s his name. You will still call him “jo” but that’s not something that anyone else will use. Your nephew is going to called Joseph and everyone in the entire world will try to shorten it to Joe or Joey.

You need to come to terms with this. You may still call your DS jo or whatever but you have no right to be upset with SIL.

Jonah’s nickname won’t be joe. It just won’t. Let her have it OP.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t see why on earth everyone is being so mean. While I do have the opinion that you can’t claim a name beforehand, at this point this first kiddo is already born and named. The expectant couple can’t find something else not so similar? There are a lot of names out there. I’d be pissed off too.

My name is Alison and my first cousin who grew up only 20 min away is Alissa. We’re both adults now and it never once occurred to me (or my parents) to be upset that our names were similar. Joseph and Jonah are two different names—like, more different than Alison and Alissa. This is a nonissue. I know parents who have named SIBLINGS more similar names. If they were twins people would probably think it was cute. You and OP need to get over yourselves. You sound incredibly narcissistic.

Yeah I agree with you on Allison and Alissa. As long as the nickname for the first one wasn’t already Allie and the nn for the second one was also Allie. It’s the same nickname that is the problem. If they are openly using Joe already then yeah Joseph with nn Joe is not just similar like Allison/Alissa, it’s the same name.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see why on earth everyone is being so mean. While I do have the opinion that you can’t claim a name beforehand, at this point this first kiddo is already born and named. The expectant couple can’t find something else not so similar? There are a lot of names out there. I’d be pissed off too.

My name is Alison and my first cousin who grew up only 20 min away is Alissa. We’re both adults now and it never once occurred to me (or my parents) to be upset that our names were similar. Joseph and Jonah are two different names—like, more different than Alison and Alissa. This is a nonissue. I know parents who have named SIBLINGS more similar names. If they were twins people would probably think it was cute. You and OP need to get over yourselves. You sound incredibly narcissistic.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see why on earth everyone is being so mean. While I do have the opinion that you can’t claim a name beforehand, at this point this first kiddo is already born and named. The expectant couple can’t find something else not so similar? There are a lot of names out there. I’d be pissed off too.

But they DID pick a different name, even though it sounds like Jonah was their first choice too. Joseph is not the same name. It's not even as close as, say, Jonas or Noah.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see why on earth everyone is being so mean. While I do have the opinion that you can’t claim a name beforehand, at this point this first kiddo is already born and named. The expectant couple can’t find something else not so similar? There are a lot of names out there. I’d be pissed off too.

Maybe a “Jo” name has particular significance to them.

Anonymous wrote:Nicknames are funny because you never know what’s gonna stick.. For Jonah I don’t know anyone to go by Joe or Joey. They are all like Joney or Jonesy or Jones. Maybe consider those if it bothers you? I think they are much cuter than Joe and go better with the name Jonah.

Yeah, I know Jonah's and their nickname is usually Jones, which is super cute when on a little boy/teenager. I'd probably be inclined to Jonesy for Jonah too.

Anonymous wrote:Have you never met an Italian family? there are always six Joeys.

This is no big deal.

Every man in my DW's family has "Patrick" in his same first or middle. Every last one -- and there are LOTS of them.

OP there's nothing "thunderous" about the nickname Joey. Maybe just call your kid by the name you give him?

You do realize Jonah can also mean someone whose presence brings bad luck and can endanger others, usually other other sailors or ship passengers. That name carries a jinx. I would pick another name. I don't understand why people name their kids Jonah.

Nicknames are funny because you never know what’s gonna stick.. For Jonah I don’t know anyone to go by Joe or Joey. They are all like Joney or Jonesy or Jones. Maybe consider those if it bothers you? I think they are much cuter than Joe and go better with the name Jonah.

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Anonymous wrote:Look, OP, it’s straight up weird to call Jonah “Joey”. Joey is the nickname for Joseph. You named your kid Jonah. Your SIL stupidly deferred to your weird name issues and picked a the second choice name of Joseph. You can’t also call dibs on the nicknames for Joseph. No, you can’t. So just shut up. Your kid is Jonah. The other kid is Joe, Joey, Joseph. If you have a problem with them both being called Joey, YOU use the name you chose and staked such a possessive claim on.

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Either stick with the name you’ve been obsessed with since kindergarten or get over yourself. You’ve basically tried to stake claim to like 5 names. You sound nuts.

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