& frequency. I was a great mistress & terrible wife. It was all an act with the AP. It was nice

Anonymous wrote:Any man who is paying tens of thousands of dollars to get a young woman to have sex with him is almost certainly into some seriously kinky, off the wall stuff. Don't think it's dinner, drinks and sex by candlelight. It's probably rough, raw and videotaped porn sex.

Actually mostly vanilla from what I hear. Kinky people actually have little trouble finding each other unless they live in small towns or extremely insular religious communities. Sugar daddies are mainly socially awkward men (not just old) with lots of money. Often they are afraid of marrying or a long term relationship that could lead to palimony. They’d rather pay upfront and feel like they are controlling the transactional nature of sex.

But, but, misogyny! Any suggestion that girls and young women should practice any common sense or modesty in the way they present themselves to the world is met with cries of being a woman hater. Just take a look at the thread in the tween/teen forum where parents are defending young teen girls wearing bikinis that expose under boob and thongs showing 3/4 of their butts. These adults are abdicating their responsibility of parenting to be "cool" and/or avoid the resulting fights with their young daughters when they are told you may not wear clothing that isn't appropriate for a CHILD of your age. Of course, young women see nothing wrong with selling their bodies to the highest bidder because society is normalizing the sexualization of our children at younger and younger ages. Worse, parents are not only allowing it but proudly proclaiming "I allow my dd's to wear whatever they want! I'm a cool mom/dad."

Cue the victim blaming chorus, but the reality is we live in a sick world that isn't always safe for girls and young women. To turn a blind eye to this as a parent in the name of gender equality or whatever is just plain wrong and dangerous.

Any man who is paying tens of thousands of dollars to get a young woman to have sex with him is almost certainly into some seriously kinky, off the wall stuff. Don't think it's dinner, drinks and sex by candlelight. It's probably rough, raw and videotaped porn sex.

^^ they don’t. I was just denied from the 10 year loan forgiveness program. Despite having worked in government (teaching) for 10 years & making on time payments

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Anonymous wrote:I have done the sugar daddy/baby relationship. I am a female. I always let someone know where I am going, as much as I know about the man and when they should expect me to be home. We always meet in a public place first. Then it’s usually their house, hotel, or a car (fancy, I know). It’s a dangerous lifestyle but the thrill and the money was great. It is also VERY addicting. You want more fast cash. You want to be wanted. You want the sex. I feel bad for her but I am not shocked at all.

I wish I’d done that years ago. I am an ES teacher with massive student loan debt. I’m 35 & kinda dumpy now, but wish I’d been smart enough to do this 10 years ago.

You know that if you work at a rough school in the DC area, most school districts will repay your loans. You could do something good for someone else, and something good for yourself, and not compromise your values.

When I was in college, I really struggled because my parents could not afford it. Someone tried to recruit me to be a stripper. I found a program to pay my tuition etc instead. These things exist, and are way better for you in the end. They build your character while sex for money tears it down. Think about the importance of character as you teach our kids....

Anonymous wrote:Or, because I have a SN son & im trying to save fir his long term care. My ‘morals’ won’t matter when I’m dead & he’s alone

Please be careful and safe. I'm sure you are, but he needs you now too.

Or, because I have a SN son & im trying to save fir his long term care. My ‘morals’ won’t matter when I’m dead & he’s alone

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Anonymous wrote:I have done the sugar daddy/baby relationship. I am a female. I always let someone know where I am going, as much as I know about the man and when they should expect me to be home. We always meet in a public place first. Then it’s usually their house, hotel, or a car (fancy, I know). It’s a dangerous lifestyle but the thrill and the money was great. It is also VERY addicting. You want more fast cash. You want to be wanted. You want the sex. I feel bad for her but I am not shocked at all.

I wish I’d done that years ago. I am an ES teacher with massive student loan debt. I’m 35 & kinda dumpy now, but wish I’d been smart enough to do this 10 years ago.

I would take the debt in exchange for the risks involved above. Plenty of dangers there and the emotional aspect of taking money for sex I couldn’t do.

Because you have morals, pp. The college girls described by other posters clearly have low self esteem or weren’t raised to know this was wrong. How else would they find it acceptable to become prostitutes? Let’s call it what it is. Illegal prostitution.

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Anonymous wrote:I discussed this with my DD, who is currently in college. She told me that all of her roommates are into the whole sugar daddy/sugar baby scene - meaning they are either currently doing it, or are totally open to doing it. She tells them they're all crazy for doing it, but clearly they don't care.

As a public service you should name the crappy college with amoral students.

If I told you, you would likely not believe me AND I would be called a liar/troll or whatever else you can come up with. The most I will tell you is: Large East Coast Public, where many DC area students attend. Not Penn State.

Also, please do not be so naive as to think this doesn't go on at Ivy's or other exclusive universities.

I’d also heard of it because my DD knows a girl who did it to pay for college. Similar school to described above. Possibly same school. The girl had a broker (pimp in my opinion) and alleged nothing scary ever happened. DD ended their friendship after the girl wouldn’t stop trying to recruit her, but she married a young doctor a year after graduation.

A college girl having sex with middle aged men in exchange for money is pretty damned scary in and of itself. If those guys had to shell out enough money to pay for that girl's college tuition then those guys must have been terribly gross, unattractive and desperate to get laid. Yuck.

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Anonymous wrote:i am all about women's empowerment stuff but why do women do these questionable things?

This has nothing to do with women's empowerment. Men do questionable things all the time, like murder people.

People kill each other all the time. Men and women. What a stupid thing to say pp.

What percentage of murders are committed by women? My guess is 5 percent, tops. Maybe 2.

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Anonymous wrote:I discussed this with my DD, who is currently in college. She told me that all of her roommates are into the whole sugar daddy/sugar baby scene - meaning they are either currently doing it, or are totally open to doing it. She tells them they're all crazy for doing it, but clearly they don't care.

As a public service you should name the crappy college with amoral students.

If I told you, you would likely not believe me AND I would be called a liar/troll or whatever else you can come up with. The most I will tell you is: Large East Coast Public, where many DC area students attend. Not Penn State.

Also, please do not be so naive as to think this doesn't go on at Ivy's or other exclusive universities.

I’d also heard of it because my DD knows a girl who did it to pay for college. Similar school to described above. Possibly same school. The girl had a broker (pimp in my opinion) and alleged nothing scary ever happened. DD ended their friendship after the girl wouldn’t stop trying to recruit her, but she married a young doctor a year after graduation.

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Anonymous wrote:I discussed this with my DD, who is currently in college. She told me that all of her roommates are into the whole sugar daddy/sugar baby scene - meaning they are either currently doing it, or are totally open to doing it. She tells them they're all crazy for doing it, but clearly they don't care.

That's very scary. It's good that your daughter is using better judgement than her roommates are but what if one of them brings one of these sugar daddys home or has one of these guys show up on their doorstep? That could put your daughter in danger even though she is not directly involved in any of these arrangements.

She needs better friends.

thank you. I am very proud at her desire to be more discerning about her dating life, but you do make a good point and needing better friends/roommates. And also about being careful about someone showing up at her doorstep. Because of all that has happened, she's wanting to purchase mace which thankfully is legal mostly everywhere.

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Anonymous wrote:I discussed this with my DD, who is currently in college. She told me that all of her roommates are into the whole sugar daddy/sugar baby scene - meaning they are either currently doing it, or are totally open to doing it. She tells them they're all crazy for doing it, but clearly they don't care.

As a public service you should name the crappy college with amoral students.

If I told you, you would likely not believe me AND I would be called a liar/troll or whatever else you can come up with. The most I will tell you is: Large East Coast Public, where many DC area students attend. Not Penn State.

Also, please do not be so naive as to think this doesn't go on at Ivy's or other exclusive universities.

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Anonymous wrote:I have done the sugar daddy/baby relationship. I am a female. I always let someone know where I am going, as much as I know about the man and when they should expect me to be home. We always meet in a public place first. Then it’s usually their house, hotel, or a car (fancy, I know). It’s a dangerous lifestyle but the thrill and the money was great. It is also VERY addicting. You want more fast cash. You want to be wanted. You want the sex. I feel bad for her but I am not shocked at all.

I wish I’d done that years ago. I am an ES teacher with massive student loan debt. I’m 35 & kinda dumpy now, but wish I’d been smart enough to do this 10 years ago.

I would take the debt in exchange for the risks involved above. Plenty of dangers there and the emotional aspect of taking money for sex I couldn’t do.