Anonymous
Post 04/15/2019 08:01     Subject: Re:Subtle signs of class
peonies in the garden and the house but not pink peonies
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2019 07:59     Subject: Subtle signs of class
Intact families when there is a choice. Or if not “nuclear” and intact, then clear cut lines and little drama when divorces happen. Does that make sense? I’m saying the opposite of baby mama drama, whispers about affairs, married people flirting (as some people did in front of me at the weekend soccer game).

Just the opposite of family drama when it comes to marriage, who is getting who pregnant, and how they deal with each other if it falls apart.
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2019 07:56     Subject: Re:Subtle signs of class
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A fancy maid.


The way how they treat the maid is far more telling than a "fancy" maid. At least in my circle.


oh well shit then, consider me SCHOOLED
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2019 07:53     Subject: Subtle signs of class
Subtle is NEVER using the term "rich". It is so grating.
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2019 07:51     Subject: Re:Subtle signs of class
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The different definitions of class people are working with here are so interesting.



I know. It's a dichotomy of people thinking that class entails material possessions and others who think that it's one's standards of behavior toward others. The latter is more compelling, IMO.


It's a big mistake to conflate one's social class with their moral goodness. High class just means rich + belonging to the caste of rich people. Not that you're a good person.


High class may or may not have anything to do with $$.
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2019 07:50     Subject: Subtle signs of class
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Small kitchen, lots of guest rooms, old American cars with some dirt on them. Persian rugs obtained by an older relative whist traveling in Iraq or Yemen in the early 1900s. Vacations include things like helicopter trips to hunt moose or elk, or expeditions on camel with Bedouins. Art includes antiquities, framed handwritten poems signed by Maya Angelou, and mounted heads of animals killed while hunting.


Hunting is not classy. At all.


+ 1 million. Cut out all the hunting/dead animal things in the description above. And is it okay if I have Persian rugs obtained by an older relative whilst traveling in Saudi in the 1970s vs Iraq or Yemen in the early 1900s?
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2019 07:48     Subject: Subtle signs of class
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A good selection of books. Not too many mass market paperbacks, self help, or coffee table books.

Are on the walls. It doesn't have to be originals, but not some random Thomas Kinkade or similar that you picked up at Home Goods. Professional family portraits/self portraits on the walls vs the LifeTouch school photos and family vacay pics.

If there's a dog, it's well behaved. Never jumps on guests and obeys commands to sit and lay.

Big loss of points if there's a TV in the living room. TVs are for the family room, not formal living room.

Shelves and surfaces aren't cluttered with random knickknacks from travels.

If a piano is present, it's in tune. Nothing more telling than a guest setting down to play something and it being out of tune.



That's a provincial, suburban mindset right there. A lot of us live in cities here... there's only a living room. And the tv is in it. Oops!


If you live in the burbs and/or have a family room and a living room, props to first PP because I totally agree, and I constantly try to explain this to my DH. He is always asking to rearrange our house so that the family room "hang out area" is in the living room and I keep refusing because this would look totally bonkers and low class.
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2019 07:19     Subject: Subtle signs of class
How about being respectful of noise? Using your indoor voice, not shouting and yelling across a room, not playing a video on your cell phone without headphones in a public place (especially in a restaurant), speaking to others in a kind and respectful manner.
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2019 07:15     Subject: Subtle signs of class
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Small kitchen, lots of guest rooms, old American cars with some dirt on them. Persian rugs obtained by an older relative whist traveling in Iraq or Yemen in the early 1900s. Vacations include things like helicopter trips to hunt moose or elk, or expeditions on camel with Bedouins. Art includes antiquities, framed handwritten poems signed by Maya Angelou, and mounted heads of animals killed while hunting.


People who know that Yemwn and Iraq did nit exist until 1918 and 1932, respectively. Better that the Persian rugs actually came from Persia.


LOLOLOL
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2019 00:50     Subject: Subtle signs of class
Anonymous wrote:Small kitchen, lots of guest rooms, old American cars with some dirt on them. Persian rugs obtained by an older relative whist traveling in Iraq or Yemen in the early 1900s. Vacations include things like helicopter trips to hunt moose or elk, or expeditions on camel with Bedouins. Art includes antiquities, framed handwritten poems signed by Maya Angelou, and mounted heads of animals killed while hunting.


People who know that Yemwn and Iraq did nit exist until 1918 and 1932, respectively. Better that the Persian rugs actually came from Persia.
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2019 00:17     Subject: Subtle signs of class
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No obvious brands/logos.


Examples? Kate spade? Kennore? Samsung?


No Tory Burch sandals or LV neverfulls.
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2019 00:02     Subject: Re:Subtle signs of class
If her divorce lawyer hasn't taken his cut of the husband's wealth yet, the wife, if she's still present, has a cabooski narrower than a Metro bus.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2019 23:58     Subject: Subtle signs of class
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No tattoos, proper grammar, no smoking, well fitted and tasteful clothes, shoes not down at the heels, well spoken and thoughtful, not reactionary or too loud in appearance or demeanor, everyone in family has at least a Bachelor's, ability to discuss politics or world dynamics without getting personal or overly hysterical, limited and tasteful FB/special media posts


LMAOOOOOO


your tramp stamp
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2019 23:54     Subject: Subtle signs of class
I’d rather see a shelf of books owners have actually read rather than a room full of classics that haven’t been touched, or worse...an old law library. Snooze.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2019 23:50     Subject: Subtle signs of class
^ PP here. That sounded snotty but it wasn't meant to sound that way. Maybe I'm high class haha.