Anonymous wrote:For sure. I also believe that with parental help you cannot have children in your 20s. We were making 150k by the time we reached 30 and that was enough that we could start TTC. We just could not afford a 20k a year daycare before then (It's now 38k with 2 in daycare). We also didn't have the time for the constant responsibility of parenting in our 20s. American extended families don't help at all and it's all on the parents, so this isn't something most 20 year olds can do.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's been a bad life choice for decades. I know plenty of women who had kids in their 20's that had deep regrets in their 40's and 50's. No news here.
Do you know why they feel this way? I had my first at 26, here in DC, and I am really happy both with my family and career. I know others who feel this way too.
Many regrets like,
Married too young to pick the right guy.
Didn't get to have career and independence.
Didn't finish their education
Had more kids than they could afford.
Financial stress
Made immature parenting choices, kids have problems caused by parenting.
Some of their teenagers got pregnant young and are living with them.
Anonymous wrote:Society has convinced many ambitious women that having a baby before you’re established is a career killer. I see this as a policy issue. Why don’t we have support to enable more women to work and have kids when they are most fertile? (Think: affordable daycare)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's been a bad life choice for decades. I know plenty of women who had kids in their 20's that had deep regrets in their 40's and 50's. No news here.
How can it be a bad life choice to have children when you're biologically at your peak AND you make enough money to easily support them?>
OP said she was making 200k at 26, which is a great income for mid twenty somethings. One can only assume their income rose from there...
It's not just about lack of money. Your 20's are the time you should be having freedom and fun, start a career and find who you are...and mostly growing up into a real adult. It's hard to do any of these things with a baby.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My daughter is about to graduate from college and she was talking about some of the girls on her campus who are already engaged. In some ways, she described it as a cop-out. Getting married and having kids is easier than having to go through all that shit: THe crappy room in the row house on capitol hill, the crappy first apartment; the first job; the job hunt. The ones who are getting married seem to be preoccupied with home furnishings and pinterest pages while everyone else is thinking about things like resumes and budgets.
I lived in a crappy apartment with my fiance during and after college. Did I do it right according to your daughter?
Anonymous wrote:It's been a bad life choice for decades. I know plenty of women who had kids in their 20's that had deep regrets in their 40's and 50's. No news here.