Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
I am a research scientist and have a child who is "gifted and learning disabled".
Had he been born in my generation, he would just have been labeled quirky, slow, lazy, even stupid. He would have been teased and bullied and doors would have closed for him before middle school, despite his high IQ and potential to contribute to the world.
Now, thanks to progress in the field of mental health and the breakdown of societal taboos, he is known to have: moderate-to-severe ADHD, very low processing speed, and a severe impairment in his left-side motor skills (which reflect an impairment in his right hemisphere).
There are all related disorders.
I am SO GRATEFUL that he has accommodation at school and that teachers and students are trained to be understanding and not dismissive!!!
In return, he is a mellow, courteous person, and if he is given the chance, he's got the intellect to be a researcher/academic just like his parents.
Ok. But doesn't every person who isn't functioning at a high level have something going on in their brain that makes them incapable of doing so?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:. Please provide a link that backs your assertion.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You can have an LD and still be stupid, a bad student, or a C student. You can have ADHD and still get Cs and still be a below average student.
What is this fixation with calling children stupid?
I’m just using the words used by posters on this thread. A pp before my original post said something like, “if we didn’t find out dd was dyslexic people would just assume she were stupid.”
I don’t like the word, stupid, for kids. But a few posters have used it to describe kids who struggle in school and don’t have a diagnosis. That’s terrible! My original post was meant to point out that just because your kid has a diagnosis it doesn’t magically make them no longer struggle in school. It’s not some excuse. An average student is an average student with or without a diagnosis.
Most kids with LDd are still below average students. That’s just a fact.
By definition 50% kids are below average. Most kids with LDs are struggling students. I know there is a popular narrative among UMC parents that says kids with LDs are actually bright kids who are only average because of an LD, but that only exists in the UMC world. More than half of kids with LDs are struggling at the bottom of the class.
I am the OP and as I stated previously my daughter is a struggling student, we will most likely have her tested, and I'm guessing that she will walk away with a label. But I'm pragmatic enough to realize that what this actually means that she is just not as bright as others - at least in some areas.
Something that’s taken off in recent years is this wonderful idea that we should celebrate neurodiversity. And it is exactly how you describe. Your child has strengths and weaknesses.
Yes, even the C student who doesn’t have a diagnosis has strengths and weaknesses.
My child has dyslexia/dysgraphia. She has strengths and weaknesses. I love to think about her particular intelligence profile is a gift. But reality is she has deficits. ALL KIDS WITH LDS DO. It’s not so much that she thinks differently (neurodiversity). She does. But she also has a brain defect. And that is never going to go away.
We are happy that she is improving upon her weaknesses and her strengths shine, but I don’t pretend she’s any different from an average student when she performs in an average way.
There will always be a bell curve. Most kids with LDs fall somewhere in the middle because they get supports. Without them they would be at the tail end. Im not sure why this is being debated. That is how you get an LD diagnosis. Sure kids can have strengths that fall far above that. But the deficits were or still are painfully and obviously low.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:. Please provide a link that backs your assertion.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You can have an LD and still be stupid, a bad student, or a C student. You can have ADHD and still get Cs and still be a below average student.
What is this fixation with calling children stupid?
I’m just using the words used by posters on this thread. A pp before my original post said something like, “if we didn’t find out dd was dyslexic people would just assume she were stupid.”
I don’t like the word, stupid, for kids. But a few posters have used it to describe kids who struggle in school and don’t have a diagnosis. That’s terrible! My original post was meant to point out that just because your kid has a diagnosis it doesn’t magically make them no longer struggle in school. It’s not some excuse. An average student is an average student with or without a diagnosis.
Most kids with LDd are still below average students. That’s just a fact.
By definition 50% kids are below average. Most kids with LDs are struggling students. I know there is a popular narrative among UMC parents that says kids with LDs are actually bright kids who are only average because of an LD, but that only exists in the UMC world. More than half of kids with LDs are struggling at the bottom of the class.
I am the OP and as I stated previously my daughter is a struggling student, we will most likely have her tested, and I'm guessing that she will walk away with a label. But I'm pragmatic enough to realize that what this actually means that she is just not as bright as others - at least in some areas.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It cost $3000 to have a qualified doctor do the testing for accommodations and you have to do it every 3 years to get accommodations.
This. If you are "poor" you can't afford to get accommodations, even if your child needs them.
noAnonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
I am a research scientist and have a child who is "gifted and learning disabled".
Had he been born in my generation, he would just have been labeled quirky, slow, lazy, even stupid. He would have been teased and bullied and doors would have closed for him before middle school, despite his high IQ and potential to contribute to the world.
Now, thanks to progress in the field of mental health and the breakdown of societal taboos, he is known to have: moderate-to-severe ADHD, very low processing speed, and a severe impairment in his left-side motor skills (which reflect an impairment in his right hemisphere).
There are all related disorders.
I am SO GRATEFUL that he has accommodation at school and that teachers and students are trained to be understanding and not dismissive!!!
In return, he is a mellow, courteous person, and if he is given the chance, he's got the intellect to be a researcher/academic just like his parents.
Ok. But doesn't every person who isn't functioning at a high level have something going on in their brain that makes them incapable of doing so?
No, not all C students have disabilities, no, no.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It cost $3000 to have a qualified doctor do the testing for accommodations and you have to do it every 3 years to get accommodations.
This. If you are "poor" you can't afford to get accommodations, even if your child needs them.
Technically speaking doesn't every C student need accommodations to get better grades? Why are some C students deemed worthy of needing accommodations but not others? Are we now at a point where we believe C students should no longer exist? Should we simply remove the word average from the dictionary?
Anonymous wrote:It seems to be "the thing" now, that when you see an UMC kid who is a mediocre student, they will almost invariably have a diagnosis of having a learning disability or ADHD. Is there no such thing as a C student any more? Whatever happened to the idea that some kids just aren't great at school? Is that notion only acceptable for working class kids but not affluent kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
I am a research scientist and have a child who is "gifted and learning disabled".
Had he been born in my generation, he would just have been labeled quirky, slow, lazy, even stupid. He would have been teased and bullied and doors would have closed for him before middle school, despite his high IQ and potential to contribute to the world.
Now, thanks to progress in the field of mental health and the breakdown of societal taboos, he is known to have: moderate-to-severe ADHD, very low processing speed, and a severe impairment in his left-side motor skills (which reflect an impairment in his right hemisphere).
There are all related disorders.
I am SO GRATEFUL that he has accommodation at school and that teachers and students are trained to be understanding and not dismissive!!!
In return, he is a mellow, courteous person, and if he is given the chance, he's got the intellect to be a researcher/academic just like his parents.
Ok. But doesn't every person who isn't functioning at a high level have something going on in their brain that makes them incapable of doing so?
Anonymous wrote:
I am a research scientist and have a child who is "gifted and learning disabled".
Had he been born in my generation, he would just have been labeled quirky, slow, lazy, even stupid. He would have been teased and bullied and doors would have closed for him before middle school, despite his high IQ and potential to contribute to the world.
Now, thanks to progress in the field of mental health and the breakdown of societal taboos, he is known to have: moderate-to-severe ADHD, very low processing speed, and a severe impairment in his left-side motor skills (which reflect an impairment in his right hemisphere).
There are all related disorders.
I am SO GRATEFUL that he has accommodation at school and that teachers and students are trained to be understanding and not dismissive!!!
In return, he is a mellow, courteous person, and if he is given the chance, he's got the intellect to be a researcher/academic just like his parents.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It cost $3000 to have a qualified doctor do the testing for accommodations and you have to do it every 3 years to get accommodations.
This. If you are "poor" you can't afford to get accommodations, even if your child needs them.
Technically speaking doesn't every C student need accommodations to get better grades? Why are some C students deemed worthy of needing accommodations but not others? Are we now at a point where we believe C students should no longer exist? Should we simply remove the word average from the dictionary?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:. Please provide a link that backs your assertion.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You can have an LD and still be stupid, a bad student, or a C student. You can have ADHD and still get Cs and still be a below average student.
What is this fixation with calling children stupid?
I’m just using the words used by posters on this thread. A pp before my original post said something like, “if we didn’t find out dd was dyslexic people would just assume she were stupid.”
I don’t like the word, stupid, for kids. But a few posters have used it to describe kids who struggle in school and don’t have a diagnosis. That’s terrible! My original post was meant to point out that just because your kid has a diagnosis it doesn’t magically make them no longer struggle in school. It’s not some excuse. An average student is an average student with or without a diagnosis.
Most kids with LDd are still below average students. That’s just a fact.
By definition 50% kids are below average. Most kids with LDs are struggling students. I know there is a popular narrative among UMC parents that says kids with LDs are actually bright kids who are only average because of an LD, but that only exists in the UMC world. More than half of kids with LDs are struggling at the bottom of the class.
. Please provide a link to support your assertation. When I google I find sites that basically say that people with LDs have the same spectrum of intelligence as people without LDs. Not smarter, but not dumber either.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:. Please provide a link that backs your assertion.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You can have an LD and still be stupid, a bad student, or a C student. You can have ADHD and still get Cs and still be a below average student.
What is this fixation with calling children stupid?
I’m just using the words used by posters on this thread. A pp before my original post said something like, “if we didn’t find out dd was dyslexic people would just assume she were stupid.”
I don’t like the word, stupid, for kids. But a few posters have used it to describe kids who struggle in school and don’t have a diagnosis. That’s terrible! My original post was meant to point out that just because your kid has a diagnosis it doesn’t magically make them no longer struggle in school. It’s not some excuse. An average student is an average student with or without a diagnosis.
Most kids with LDd are still below average students. That’s just a fact.
By definition 50% kids are below average. Most kids with LDs are struggling students. I know there is a popular narrative among UMC parents that says kids with LDs are actually bright kids who are only average because of an LD, but that only exists in the UMC world. More than half of kids with LDs are struggling at the bottom of the class.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It cost $3000 to have a qualified doctor do the testing for accommodations and you have to do it every 3 years to get accommodations.
This. If you are "poor" you can't afford to get accommodations, even if your child needs them.
Anonymous wrote:It cost $3000 to have a qualified doctor do the testing for accommodations and you have to do it every 3 years to get accommodations.