Anonymous
Post 03/22/2019 17:54     Subject: DH cheated but won't unfriend/block the OW on social media
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here: I want to be able to say that we have been through hell and are still together while so many others around us are breaking up! Being loyal and staying tried/true is very important to me in general. Plus, I don't want to let the OW win.


Your motivation here seems .. off. All in external appearances. No mention of love for DH. Perhaps this is why he is looking elsewhere for emotional connection?

+1 Also, he's not loyal and true to you. It's all one sided. That's not how it's supposed to work. "Letting the other woman win" - I'd say she's already won since YOUR DH is pining after HER.. for 8 years.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2019 17:51     Subject: DH cheated but won't unfriend/block the OW on social media

OP, you should watch Friends from College on Netflix!

That show describes your situation perfectly.

Anonymous
Post 03/22/2019 17:45     Subject: DH cheated but won't unfriend/block the OW on social media
Anonymous wrote:OP here: I want to be able to say that we have been through hell and are still together while so many others around us are breaking up! Being loyal and staying tried/true is very important to me in general. Plus, I don't want to let the OW win.


Your motivation here seems .. off. All in external appearances. No mention of love for DH. Perhaps this is why he is looking elsewhere for emotional connection?
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2019 17:15     Subject: Re:DH cheated but won't unfriend/block the OW on social media
Anonymous wrote:OP said she didn’t want the other woman to win. She thinks that with him physically by her side even if night and day he thinks about the OW she still wins even though you and I wouldn’t consider that winning. The heart wants what the heart wants, I guess.

Does this OW have a husband? Tell her husband, be roommate with your husband and don’t give him any sex, and find yourself an AP.


Yes, she was married too at the time. Not sure about now though.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2019 17:14     Subject: DH cheated but won't unfriend/block the OW on social media
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP is obviously foreign and has no other choices.


I assumed longtime SAHM with no means to financially support herself on her own.


I work. I don't make much but I do get to keep every cent.

Save save save.. and invest... then when your youngest is almost 18, leave your husband. Have an affair in the meantime. Just be his roommate.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2019 17:13     Subject: DH cheated but won't unfriend/block the OW on social media
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Weird that Op would describe this as "95% emotional". Cheating ONCE is beyond repair. Actual intercourse.


OP here. Yes, actual intercourse and I'm positive there was NO protection because DH doesn't like to use any. He also thinks this woman is a saint that doesn't sleep around so I guess it's impossible to him that she could have an STD. I'm disgusted.


Holy S***.

Why do you WANT this guy? Honestly, if you told me you want him to just pay the bills for a few years so you can sock away money, I'd actually admire that.


Yes, I like all of my bills paid. I think I shouldn't have to contribute a dime after all he's put me through.

I can understand that. But you should emotionally disconnect from him. He does not love or respect you. Find someone else. You might fall in love again, and who knows, maybe decide you want to be with that other person instead. I say move on. Let your husband deal with whatever this is. Don't you think you've suffered enough?
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2019 17:11     Subject: DH cheated but won't unfriend/block the OW on social media
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP is obviously foreign and has no other choices.


I assumed longtime SAHM with no means to financially support herself on her own.


I work. I don't make much but I do get to keep every cent.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2019 17:10     Subject: DH cheated but won't unfriend/block the OW on social media
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Weird that Op would describe this as "95% emotional". Cheating ONCE is beyond repair. Actual intercourse.


OP here. Yes, actual intercourse and I'm positive there was NO protection because DH doesn't like to use any. He also thinks this woman is a saint that doesn't sleep around so I guess it's impossible to him that she could have an STD. I'm disgusted.


Holy S***.

Why do you WANT this guy? Honestly, if you told me you want him to just pay the bills for a few years so you can sock away money, I'd actually admire that.


Yes, I like all of my bills paid. I think I shouldn't have to contribute a dime after all he's put me through.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2019 16:57     Subject: Re:DH cheated but won't unfriend/block the OW on social media
OP said she didn’t want the other woman to win. She thinks that with him physically by her side even if night and day he thinks about the OW she still wins even though you and I wouldn’t consider that winning. The heart wants what the heart wants, I guess.

Does this OW have a husband? Tell her husband, be roommate with your husband and don’t give him any sex, and find yourself an AP.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2019 16:43     Subject: DH cheated but won't unfriend/block the OW on social media
If this is like the story I know he still has emotions for her, but she just thinks of him as a fond memory and plays it up sometimes for her enjoyment. Dump him! I doubt she will have any interest in the grovelling mess. And he will be on his lonesome. You sock $$ away and treat yourself like a queen for your kids, ok?
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2019 16:43     Subject: DH cheated but won't unfriend/block the OW on social media
OP.. again.. in the nicest way possible.. grow a backbone. Do you have self esteem issues? Because it seems like you feel that it's acceptable for your own husband to not be in love with or respect you.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2019 16:39     Subject: Re:DH cheated but won't unfriend/block the OW on social media
Anonymous wrote:Forget love. He doesn't even respect her enough to keep his true feelings from her.

OP, he wants you to kick him out. Within a few months he will have found a new girlfriend, and tell you that he never loved the OW this way.

He's not worth it.


He never admitted to me that he loves her but I read the texts and they tell me all I need to know.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2019 16:37     Subject: DH cheated but won't unfriend/block the OW on social media
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Weird that Op would describe this as "95% emotional". Cheating ONCE is beyond repair. Actual intercourse.


OP here. Yes, actual intercourse and I'm positive there was NO protection because DH doesn't like to use any. He also thinks this woman is a saint that doesn't sleep around so I guess it's impossible to him that she could have an STD. I'm disgusted.


Holy S***.

Why do you WANT this guy? Honestly, if you told me you want him to just pay the bills for a few years so you can sock away money, I'd actually admire that.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2019 16:34     Subject: DH cheated but won't unfriend/block the OW on social media
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP is obviously foreign and has no other choices.


I assumed longtime SAHM with no means to financially support herself on her own.


PP. I realize I was unconsciously quoting Hamilton lyrics in my response, lol. Okay, carry on.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2019 16:31     Subject: Re:DH cheated but won't unfriend/block the OW on social media
I guess I need to mention that this isn't the first time he's slept with another woman.


Oh gee! ... that's important... do you think maybe that's important??? .... DCUM, we are being jerked-around by this Op. I call Troll