Anonymous wrote:My sister asked me to watch her daughter (my niece) during my winter break from school because her nanny was taking a 2 week vacation.
I took her to gym classes, indoor playground, libraries, etc during that time and noticed a lot of nannies suck.
They just sit there on their phones chatting/texting/instagramming away while the kids just hung out by themselves. Every once in awhile the nannies would look up to take a picture and text the mom/dad boss I'm guessing. It's just sad because I know these parents are paying their nannies ALOT of money. Just a vent, it sucks.

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Anonymous wrote:My sister asked me to watch her daughter (my niece) during my winter break from school because her nanny was taking a 2 week vacation.
I took her to gym classes, indoor playground, libraries, etc during that time and noticed a lot of nannies suck.
They just sit there on their phones chatting/texting/instagramming away while the kids just hung out by themselves. Every once in awhile the nannies would look up to take a picture and text the mom/dad boss I'm guessing. It's just sad because I know these parents are paying their nannies ALOT of money. Just a vent, it sucks.

You know nothing...

You don’t actually know if they were nannies or parents.

You don’t know what they are being paid, if they are nannies.

You watched a child during your winter break. You have no idea what actual full time childcare is like and the exhaustion it puts on someone.

You are a typical arrogant student. Get off your high horse and come back when you actually experience life and children longer than 2 weeks.

Allll of this.

Sorry but 95% of the time you can tell whether it’s a nanny or parent.

Why? Bc they don’t match what you think a typical family should look like?

Puhlease. If you can't differentiate a nanny from a mom in 90% of the cases you need glasses. When you see a man and a woman eating together at a restaurant, can you not tell if they are probably siblings or new lovers or a married couple with kids or two real estate agents meeting over lunch!?

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Anonymous wrote:My sister asked me to watch her daughter (my niece) during my winter break from school because her nanny was taking a 2 week vacation.
I took her to gym classes, indoor playground, libraries, etc during that time and noticed a lot of nannies suck.
They just sit there on their phones chatting/texting/instagramming away while the kids just hung out by themselves. Every once in awhile the nannies would look up to take a picture and text the mom/dad boss I'm guessing. It's just sad because I know these parents are paying their nannies ALOT of money. Just a vent, it sucks.

You know nothing...

You don’t actually know if they were nannies or parents.

You don’t know what they are being paid, if they are nannies.

You watched a child during your winter break. You have no idea what actual full time childcare is like and the exhaustion it puts on someone.

You are a typical arrogant student. Get off your high horse and come back when you actually experience life and children longer than 2 weeks.

Allll of this.

Sorry but 95% of the time you can tell whether it’s a nanny or parent.

Why? Bc they don’t match what you think a typical family should look like?

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm with you. I've never even seen a salesperson on the phone as much as nannies are.
chit-chatting away mostly in their own language. I thought they have large extended family or a lot of people who are unemployed somewhere and nothing else to do but do have a phone and internet access to connect to cousin in US.
I'm a foreigner myself but I don't have friends or family who has time to talk to me for more than 5-10 minutes.
You all can talk about moms doing it too or the nanny shopping for the kid, whatever. I'm sticking to my story- long loud chats with whoever in their native language. Even if you are at the park without kids, who needs to chit-chat hours at the time and as loudly as the do?!

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you surprised that people with nannies are a little defensive about what you said? I'm not. Try as they might, they can't really know what the nanny/au pair/babysitter/daycare does all day unless they put a go pro on their kid or hire a private investigator.

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Anonymous wrote:My sister asked me to watch her daughter (my niece) during my winter break from school because her nanny was taking a 2 week vacation.
I took her to gym classes, indoor playground, libraries, etc during that time and noticed a lot of nannies suck.
They just sit there on their phones chatting/texting/instagramming away while the kids just hung out by themselves. Every once in awhile the nannies would look up to take a picture and text the mom/dad boss I'm guessing. It's just sad because I know these parents are paying their nannies ALOT of money. Just a vent, it sucks.

You know nothing...

You don’t actually know if they were nannies or parents.

You don’t know what they are being paid, if they are nannies.

You watched a child during your winter break. You have no idea what actual full time childcare is like and the exhaustion it puts on someone.

You are a typical arrogant student. Get off your high horse and come back when you actually experience life and children longer than 2 weeks.

Allll of this.

Sorry but 95% of the time you can tell whether it’s a nanny or parent.

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Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. I am guilty of using my phone when my charges play. Because I work 13-hour days and my only break is when the kids are happily absorbed in a safe and confined area. That’s why we go to those places. I am supervising, but I’ve been doing this for over a decade. I don’t need to stare at them every second they are awake in order to keep them safe. If we are doing other activities (going on a hike, touring a museum, creating art, swimming, etc. etc.) then I am on and engaged the whole time. That is fun too but I can’t sustain it for 65 hours a week. And believe it or not I AM often doing kid-relatwd things. I volunteer at their school and need to email and text committee members, I order all their clothes, I order groceries every week and make all of their meals so I need to meal plan and use the instacart app and so on. Many nannies take on everything a SAH parent does but our standards are often higher since we are professionals. My charges eat home-cooked meals and only use screens when they are ill.

This is super false. I SAH. I use my time at home to pay bills, budget and invest, make arrangements when something in the house needs to be fixed (or fix it myself), do yard work, make kids doctors appointments (and go to them), refill prescriptions, pick up dry cleaning, shop for all the kids clothes and shoes and sports equipment, make plans for the family on the weekend, plan vacations, etc, as well as of course doing all the laundry, meal planning, cooking, and grocery shopping.

Most nannies do not do all of these things. And frankly being a SAHM is far more interesting and engaging than being a nanny (which seems like drudgery) because I am 100% in control of how we spend our time, and I have many projects I can work on as well, often with the kids (organizing parts of the garage, arranging to have our patio redone and picking new furniture for it, gardening, etc).

Anonymous wrote:I’m a SAHM and believe in letting my child play and interact without me hovering. I would expect the same from a nanny. Also, you should consider that the nanny is probably looking up child related things while their charge is busy playing. It’s better to be distracted by the phone while your child is occupied than when you’re one on one, obviously. I do a lot of planning at night but I wouldn’t expect a nanny to do that on their off time.

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you surprised that people with nannies are a little defensive about what you said? I'm not. Try as they might, they can't really know what the nanny/au pair/babysitter/daycare does all day unless they put a go pro on their kid or hire a private investigator.

Anonymous wrote:My sister asked me to watch her daughter (my niece) during my winter break from school because her nanny was taking a 2 week vacation.
I took her to gym classes, indoor playground, libraries, etc during that time and noticed a lot of nannies suck.
They just sit there on their phones chatting/texting/instagramming away while the kids just hung out by themselves. Every once in awhile the nannies would look up to take a picture and text the mom/dad boss I'm guessing. It's just sad because I know these parents are paying their nannies ALOT of money. Just a vent, it sucks.

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you surprised that people with nannies are a little defensive about what you said? I'm not. Try as they might, they can't really know what the nanny/au pair/babysitter/daycare does all day unless they put a go pro on their kid or hire a private investigator.