8:30 or 9 seems reasonable to me. The reality is that there are places you can take your kids to play ball until 11pm if you want. Obviously, having to drive your kids around is annoying for the parents of the teen, but after 9pm, I think the balance of annoyance shifts in favor of neighbors trying to get their kids to sleep.

Yeah, the more I think about it, I think it's pretty rude and selfish to play in the backyard after 9 if it's bothering the neighbors. Take your kids to a park, gym, wherever.

9 during the week, 10 on weekends. Follow the noise ordinances for your area.

9 at the latest.

Anonymous wrote:We have a backyard sport court. Our boys are 13 and 14. So they want to play in the warmer months, even at night.
Is an 11:00 pm curfew too late?

9 pm is the latest we allow any of our crew to be playing basketball outside. The noise can be terribly annoying to other people. There is probably 200 feet (think of it as about 1/2 a football field) between our hoop and the nearest house, and we don't allow the children to play basketball after 9 pm or before 9 am.

If your teens want more ball time, they can get up earlier. I think the court hours in summer should be 9am-9pm.

We have a court, too.

I pull the plug at 9pm unless our immediate neighbors are outside playing, too (then I figure it's okay to play later).

Note: our neighbors who put their barking dog outside every damn morning at 5:30am or leave them outside barking at 11pm certainly don't show us the same courtesy--neither do the SAT/SUN lawn mowers at 8am.

10pm.

When you live close to people, there has to be some give-and-take. You're not going to have complete silence, but it's also good lesson to learn to be respectful of your neighbors. There's absolutely no need for anybody to be out playing basketball at 10 at night.

we have parties often and we sit out on the deck. But by 10, I move people inside so as not to annoy my close neighbors. That just seems like good manners and courtesy to me

you may have the right, and you can insist on it, but it doesn't make you a good neighbor or a good person. It just makes you ornery. And probably not very well-liked

11pm? Are you serious?? OMG. My young kids are asleep waaayyy before that and the evenings are time for us to concentrate/work or unwind... I can't even imagine having neighbors like that. I think 8pm is the latest.

Really? Our next door neighbor has a hoop in their backyard and their teenage boys played basketball endlessly. Once I asked them to stay off our grass because we had just seeded, but other than that, teenage boys playing basketball in the backyard is something I want to see more of and not less. Play until midnight.

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Anonymous wrote:Our local noise ordinance is 11 pm.
So we are going to go with 10 on weekends and summer and 9:30 school weeknights.
Hopefully that will be ok.
We have a preschooler ourselves so it’s not that we don’t understand the concern.
But there’s only so much accommodation that can be expected in this fairly urban setting.

Just curious, why. You really can't think of quieter things for kids to do outside or inside after dark? Just because you CAN doesn't mean you should, especially not on the reg. Once in awhile sure. But you KNOW it is going to upset many of your neighbors.

Nah it’s just the one.
The ones on the other side are playing with my kids on the court. Along with others.
This one early to bed family is pretty outnumbered.
But we are trying to come up with a good compromise and 10 on weekends seems reasonable.

How is 10 a compromise?!?

9pm

Final answer

Sure, it would be nice if it ended by 9. I would be annoyed too. But the curfew is the time whatever your towns noise ordinance sets.

I get up at 4. If I was woken by a bouncing ball at 11..I would be ticked...

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Anonymous wrote:"Neighbors" can eff off and get over it.

11 is fine.

You, sir or madam, are an asshole. An entitled one at that.

The neighbor who is whining about kids playing basketball is the entitled asshole.

Wait. You think it is entitled to expect people to be quieter at 9 and 10 pm? Sorry, no. You are vastly outnumbered in this perspective.

If you buy a house very close to your neighbors, and you expect that you should never see or hear them, then yes you are entitled.

And by the way, I live in exactly that type of neighborhood - the houses are close together and everyone knows everyone else's business - and right up the street there are some teens who shoot hoops in the driveway, and I am not whining to their parents about it like a crotchety old termagant.

If you buy a house close to others, as a parent, you need to teach your kids to be considerate neighbors.

This. I can’t even understand why on earth this needs to be said.